Merhaba herkes,

Please could all of you nice people on the forum help me with this translation and your opinions on if you think i should forgive my turkish boyfriend's infidelity (going with another woman) I have been with him for three years, and I was living with him in Kuzey Kibris. He has been seeing a girl for three months now (behind my back, without me knowing, while he has been texting me his undying love and promising to 'wait for me' he doesnt love her at all and it was 'just sex' first, shall I forgive him? She apparently loves him though and he doesn't want to hurt her ??! (but he has hurt his faithful devoted girlfriend of three years - me) and secondly please could somebody translate this for me ( i have told him to end it with her and then contact me, but not to text me or call me till he has ended his sordid (dirty) affair) Translation lutfen ..............


The longer you leave it to finish with 'N' the harder it will be, if she loves you (which I don't believe after only three months) I just believe she is very jealous of me and doesn't want to lose you)

Then the more days go by, the stronger she will feel, the harder it will be for you to end it with her and you will lose your angel, your baby, your ever faithful and loving Charlotte Rose Forever. I don't want that to happen. Finish it please and finish it now, it will give enough time for her to forget about you and me before I come over in August. I hope you make the right decision.

Once you have ended this with her, I don't want to hear her name or talk about this again. I just want to forget what you have done and carry on building trust with each other.I can't take any more pain, please put me out of my hurting and make your choice Bekir.





Thank you so much everybody, I'm sorry to ask, but urgent please(or as soon as you can,this is so important tome)

çok teşşekur ederim
Charlotte Rose

Thank you so much for your advice, I am really willing to forgive his infidelity because I left him, but I will keep an open mind and not take the relationship seriously till we have built up trust again.I understand what you are saying though, and He probably will think it is okay to do it again if he is forgiven, i will give him this last chance, and if he is every unfaithful again to me, i will definitely leave him (and make my next realtionship with a female!!! )

Thank you for your advice,

Please, please could somebody do the translation so I can send him this last text for him to think about ??


Plllllleeeeassse :o<
xxxxxx
Thank you everybody
Charlotte

(please, please can somebody please do the translation for me xxxx

Please translate to turkish................

The longer you leave it to finish with 'N' the harder it will be, if she loves you (which I don't believe after only three months) I just believe she is very jealous of me and doesn't want to lose you)

Then the more days go by, the stronger she will feel, the harder it will be for you to end it with her and you will lose your angel, your baby, your ever faithful and loving Charlotte Rose Forever. I don't want that to happen. Finish it please and finish it now, it will give enough time for her to forget about you and me before I come over in August. I hope you make the right decision.

Once you have ended this with her, I don't want to hear her name or talk about this again. I just want to forget what you have done and carry on building trust with each other.I can't take any more pain, please put me out of my hurting and make your choice Bekir.

I guess everyone deserves a second chance... but is this his second chance?
I hope someone can assist you with your translation

If you have a bit honour you can kick him out...

Thank you so very much for all your input and comments, you are very nice people. You have cheered me up, your comments have made me laugh and made me smile ;o> thank you so much everybody.

Of course, everybody on the outside looking in can only give their opinion, but does not know both sides of the story.

When I lived in Cyprus (after leaving him a first time) I promised him (soz veriyorum) that I would NEVER Return to the UK only for a holiday. We had a beautiful apartment, I had a super job and I was making enough money for both of us, but our culture differences made me so very depressed and slowly with all the problems and arguments, it made me very ill. So i booked my flight and returned to the UK.

After promising him I was with him forever and would not leave him again because i had already left him once before and it hurt him very deeply.

This time he couldnt understand my return to the uk, we were okay (after lots of problems) and also I had a fantastic job and also a lovely apartment and a man (bekir) that stuck by me through everything and tried every which way he could to make me happy, he didn't understand my illness and my return to the UK.

So i understand why he was unfaithful to me, he took my return to the UK very personally and felt unloved, and betrayed.

My actions drove him to another girl, and I understand.

My only hope is that he will end it and end it soon, that way I can forgive him and I do believe it will make our relationship much stronger in the long term future.

Anyway, i know he has been a typical man and thinking with his 'moby dick' :o> but he now feels like shit excuse my language because he can't stand to know what he has hurt me.

He truly loves me and feels nothing for this girl, which is awful for her because she is in love with him and apparantly she has threatened to kill me if she ever sees me!

This is not my problem, or her problem but my unfaithful boyfriend's problem. He has caused all this heartache and upset.

She doesnt want to finish it, but he does.

I think I have a few stormy weeks ahead of me, but I am concentrating on myself now and my career in sales. I want to make a lot of money and just think about myself and not my sleazy boyfriend ! :o>

I know my own self worth, and I am very pretty, I have opportunities to be unfaithful and have been asked out countless times by different men, so far I have said no!

What do you think ladies ? Do you think I should not get mad and instead 'get even' by having some (protected) no strings attached sex ???or do two wrongs not make it right ?

Anyway, this will really be his only and last chance!

Please somebody do the translation for me so I can text it to him soon.

Thank you again to you all, You are all very wonderful people and your 'moby dick' comment made me laugh out loud

Incidentally, he is also a fisherman, as well as a boat captain (haha, he has obviously been fishing for more than his dinner!! )

xxxxx Thank you every body xxxxxx

This website is wonderful !!!

Charlotte Rose

Charlotte rose.....

Okay, thank you so so much for your input.

I have a better idea of getting even (not mad) that will not lower myself to give myself to anybody sexually. You are right, I am worth so much more and I don't want to lower myself to his level.

First I am thinking to make him feel as guilty (guiltier) than he already is feeling. And then I am thinking of lying to him as he has me. I am thinking to get him to finish his sordid affair, and make him believe that I am waiting for him and am planning to change my life (again) for him, give up my career (again) and my life here in england to return to Kuzey Kibris.

This way, he will have finished with her, remain faithful to me which means he will be going without sex, he will not have this girl making him dinner and doing his washing for him. Also, I am very angry because this girl does know he has got a girlfriend, so makes her just as bad as he.

But on the other hand, because i'm so nice (or maybe an idiot/ stupid!!) I don't want her to get hurt, because I am hurting like hell and it feels so awful.

So he will end it with her, wait for me and when I go over in August for my holiday, i will spend it with the friends I have made over there, arrange a meeting with him. Make my entrance in the most stunning, sexy dress he will have ever seen, make up etc and have my hair done at the salon prior to this, in other words, look like a million dollars and blow him away ! he will see me and be stunned, wonder why he cheated on me on the first place, then at the end of our meal / drinks whatever, I will announce that he is the biggest piece of shit / bok (sorry for the language) and that I would never consider letting him into my life again or any where near me.

Leaving him absolutely stunned and lost for words (for once!) Oh, and he LOVES blonde hair, I think I may have it blonde for my holiday, so he will have the shock (nice one) of my gorgeous dress, sexy legs, make up and blonde hair. I will then walk away from him (without looking back) and go and talk to all his friends (that by the way are telling him how crazy he is for being unfaitful to me, now it is out in the open / I have found out, then all his friends are texting me, checking i am okay) I don't need him!!

What do you think ladies (and men!)

Good plan ??

I think you are all so very right, I don't think I will be able to ever trust him again and yes, he knew I was so very ill (he actually got me in that condition by constantly putting me down all the time) I deserve better and I know it will take time for the scars to heal, but yes, there are plenty more fish in the sea

(But I don't want a 'moby dick' again :o>)

Thank you all so very much again

You are a great team :o> and i don't know what I would do without this website and all your help

You are all fantastic !!! Super kind people !!

AND THANK YOU - A BIG THANK YOU TO DELI KIZIN FOR BEING AN ANGEL AND TRANSLATING THIS FOR ME

I HAVE JUST TEXTED IT TO HIM (TOOK UP 7 TEXTS!) SO HE WILL BE STUNNED THAT IT HAS GONE OVER BY TEXT IN TURKISH ;O> HE WILL WONDER HOW I HAVE DONE IT - BRILLIANT! THANK YOU DELI KIZIN
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Way to go girl Hahahaha.

Thank you so much, you are right.

I love him so deeply that I will forgive his unfaithfullness, really though this is his only and last chance. He has not been unfaitful to me before this.

We are having the next few days till weekend not texting each other. It will kill us both not to be in touch, but it will give us both the time we need to think.

I know he doesnt love her, you know when a man cheats and doesnt text / call or keep in touch with his girlfriend / wife because he is elsewhere? well Bekir has been texting me first thing in the morning, throughout the day lots of times and in the evening non stop, his 'bit on the side' knows he loves me, but still carried on having sex with him trying to make him fall in love with her, but thank god (in'sallah etc) that didn't happen.

Over the last three months, he has not actually seen her that often for sex / whatever. It has not been that many times, but when he realised what he nearly lost, a devoted loving beautiful :o> girlfriend ;o> it was a wake up call to him and he has now ended it.

She has constantly called him and texted him, making him angry, where as I have taken a step back and left him alone to make his mind up where his loyalties lie!

There is an english saying....

If you love somebody, let them go, if they come back to you, it was meant to be, if they do not, they are not yours to hold on to.

Just like a butterfly :o> i have let him go with the hope and prayers to god that he will know how much he doesnt want to lose me. I have switched my mobile phone off so he cannot call me, i know this should make him feel as Deli Kizin said 'feel the pain of not being with me'

Hopefully when I turn my phone on again, i will have lots of texts and messages from him, if so I will know how much he loves me.

I am forgetting about him for now, and going out with my girlfriends tonight to have a few drinks, and maybe get drunk !!! :o>

çok teşekkur ederiz to you all!!

Sen çok harikasen arkadaşlar !!!

Girl Power !! :o>

Thank you xxxxx
Charlotte Rose

You're turkish is çok iyi canim benim ;o>

Thank you so much again Deliz Kizin
xxxxx

Why dont we (especially males) know values on our hands ? Thats really shame!!!!

gotta say much respect to ya hun

totally the smoothest way to deal what must be a horrible situation..just always remember your worth.And keep acting in the dignified way you are.

sounds like this will be a case of if they love you they will come back

anyways just make the most of uk whilst ya back ya gotta love it huh (shots anyone ) lol

forgiving is good is veryyy good!!! being stupid ISN'T....

If this man loves you he should be on his knees asking your forgiveness.. not thinking about how not to hurt this other girl. do you still believe you're his angel, his rose, bla bla bla.... huh? It is ok that you want to forgive but does he really wants you to forgive him? does he really regret? According to what you wrote, well....

sorry I'm clear and maybe tough... it's just me, bye

Merhaba Herkese,

Thank you so very much for your advice and telling it like it is.

Yes, playing games is juvenile and is so silly of me.

I have taken him down the biggest guilt trip you can ever imagine, and i've never heard a man (or boy?? i'm not sure which category he falls into now, probably a boy) cry as much as him, he really is VERY regretful.

Things have moved on slightly, he has ended it with her by phone and said he will not see her again - ever.

Four days ago now and he said he is not concerned about her feelings at all.

When I told him I am human and I do not want her to hurt or cry, he said 'dont worry for this, she will not cry, she doesn't really love me!'

It is lust not love for her, she is lusting after him, he is so very beautiful / stunning /phhhhwwwwoar ;o>

She is very turkish and very jealous, for her it was knowing that she could successfully take him away from me and 'win him' so sad, but true.

She has not put up a fight for him since because she knows it is impossible. He does truly love me.

Anyway, i am not texting him / contacting him for the next few days before the weekend, which doesnt sound like much, but it is killing him not to hear from me.

I switched my mobile phone off, and when I turned it on briefly last night, there were 9 texts from him! and several missed calls. It is driving him crazy

He has been playing 'mind games' with me for too long now, and I don't want to put up with it any longer. Furthermore, I dont need to.

This is the first time in the nearly three years that i have been with him, that we havent texted / spoke to each other and it is really hurting me (as him)

One of his texts read....

My darling, I am feeling like shit (Sorry for the language) and i am hurting so much not receiving your texts and hearing your voice. I know i am a bxxxxxd and I dont deserve your love. I can't sleep and I cant stop crying, I am listening to all our special songs and feeling every word stab at me like a knife.

I know you need time to forgive me, and i hope that you will. I promise you next time we live together,we will have only mutlu gunler - happy days right ?

His last text to me read like this (and got me so angry!!!) but i didnt retaliate / react to it.....

Charlotte, what are you doing? why you make your phone go closed? I think you are going with another man now, I dont believe you have stayed faithful to me and not gone with another

Can you believe it!!

As hard as it is, i looked at the texts because i was curious, then I turned my phone off (without replying to his texts) and smiled to myself that he is upset and he doesn't know what i am doing, forgiving him or going out there to look for somebody that will appreciate me and all the love I give!!

I am (I know I'm STUPID)but I am waiting for him, I love him to much to ever be unfaithful.

Over the next few days (while we are not in touch) I am going to post a letter onto the translation website so i can send this to him by post, when he reads this, he will understand more how i felt and hopefully feel to guilty to do anything like this again.

If he does feel guilty - he truly loves me

If he doesn't call me after this letter / text me in his agreement, then I will have my answer on his feelings and move on with my life.

I still intend to live in Kuzey Kibris in the next 12-18 months, but on my terms and for me, not for him.

I dont NEED him, but i love him ! ;o>

I know you all think i'm çok deli :o> but that is what being in love does to you ! its like being drunk - you dont know what you are doing.

I will post the letter in stages, section by section for it to be translated, i just hope it doesnt lose its importance or meaning when changed to the very beautiful çok zor ama ! turkish language

Bekir's english is so good now, but I don't want to speak my native language

Turkçe birlikte konuşyorum istiyor?
xxx Charlotte Rosexxxx

Thank you for being such fantastic friends !!!
xxxxxx

Only the Brits of TC will understand this comment - but I feel like I'm watching a polite version of The Jeremy Kyle Show!

- 'Let's bring on the boyfriend and see what he has to say'! Boo!! Shame!!! Etc Etc!

I totally agree with the others and my story with a turkish guy who was my pen pal for more than 2 years and made me leave everything for him and when we met he changed his mind about what he thought about me for so long and showed his real character n hurted me a lot then still after that we kept living together for 2 months until I decide leave his house to find a job in EU.It's quite painful when u discover that someone lied so badly and then he just try to put the guilty over you to make himself clean.He made me feel crazily in love with him coz he showed himself better than he really are but he himself dont love anyone except himself and his own navel.Maybe this is the same case about you Charlotte(bluebutterfly), I dont believe this guy loved you one day.I just wonder if most of tukish guys generally do that with foreing girls they know on net Until now I just heard a few happy ending cases, or maybe we were the unlucky ones to meet such bastards in our lives. :-S

I am a little confused - not that it's any of my business really but why are you 'Charlotte' here -

Yikes....this "love" story is so convuluted that even the people involved can't keep their names straight!

But in any case, since you are asking, it sounds to me like you both have some serious personal issues to work out (lack of trust, depression, personal illness). Maybe being in a relationship right now isn't the best thing for either of you. Life does not have to be this difficult or complicated.