Exactly this is what i mean! or with his being hairy or not

Hello Fatimah

I just want to say also, I feel so sorry for your situation in Saudi, the way your life is completely controlled. 

There are good and bad men (and good and bad women) all over the world in all the countries, so just be a bit careful, especially with internet "relationaship".  They often give people a false sense of security and a false view of people particular in internet cafe style chat / dating rooms.  Just be careful.

Also, my dear, my biggest worry of all is that you be careful with your use of internet - I mean, if someone in Saudi or in your family finds you typing all this stuff - please be careful firstly for yourself ! 

Take care

and there are different phases of hairy, I´ve met man of nations other than Turkish that look like... hmmmm... fuzzy pets

But on the other hand, I would feel very silly if my bf was less hairy then me

aaaaand My Turkish guy is great, not because he is with me, but because he has a great heart and personality.

Hey Fatimah,

As most people mentioned above, it´s not good to generalize about nations. There are good and bad people everywhere.

If you do plan to go to Turkey and get married to a Turkish guy (hairy or not ), then just make sure to meet a lot of people before you do such a thing, gain experiences, give yourself time to become mature, learn how to judge people, their actions, try to think longterm...Will you future husband meet your expectations?

And don´t forget that for mixed marriages to achieve both sides should have this magic capacity to put themselves in the other´s place.

Good luck!

People here are right, Fatimah. Be careful what you wish. I can´t even think about living in a country like Saudi being conrolled only because of my gender so it is no surprise you want a better future for your children and yourself. Good luck with that, just make sure you don´t end up in a worse position. I hope you will meet a great, loving guy who will fully appreciate you, not a traditionalist who´ll think that if you are a Saudi, he can have his piece of Saudi in Turkey. Remember, it is your future that is at stake so don´t do anything desperate. You seem a reasonable young woman, just don´t go for second best.

Best of luck to you

before I forget:

ps..mind that this is ´balsamic vinegar´!!

 Dear Fatimah

I think Kaplumbagitsa has given good advice.

I think if anyone is considering a cross cultural relationship, with no particular individual in mind, then it would be advisable to learn about/experience the chosen culture first.  Live that culture, learn about the social etiquette etc.  This would, of course, involve living there and creating an infrastructure of Turkish friends.  If you are going to use the internet, as cacik said, be extremely careful.  I think the best route would be to create friendships with females from Turkey first and a site like this one may be your safest bet, if the internet is your only means of doing this.  Also , as Kap. says, it does work both ways and your own cultural background/character may be the subject of scrutiny.

Whatever you decide to do Fatimah, keeping a level head and an open mind with thorough planning and groundwork, is key.  I would say don´t put meeting a potential husband at the top of your list, although it may be your ultimate goal.  Some say that love comes along when you least expect it.

I think you have received a great deal of good advice on this thread and I hope you are eventually able to make your dream of a happy life in Turkey a reality.

Regards

PT

 Of course!  That was my point, not something I would expect a Saudi girl to know!

 Of course!  That was my point, not something I would expect a Saudi girl to know!

There is a similar Turkish  idiom also "Atla deve değil", "It doesnt cost an horse and a camel" It tells its not expensive, its affordable, its not matter to buy it.

 Then seeing that you want to work and live in Turkey, your situation is a bit pitiful.

 It depends where you go and the Turkish men you meet.  Not all Turkish men are too hairy and too dark (for you), there are many that don´t look like this and many  have blue eyes.  So there´s a Turkish man out there for just about everyone´s tastes and that´s only taking looks into account .  Male Turkish behaviour is as diverse as anyoe else´s, it´s a question of forming friendships with those that suit your own character.