is he not?

have i married a woman?

 Well GG said her ordainment covers same sex marriages

Gosh, I think I want to make everyone into a male . I thought Diliduduk was one too! I wonder what Freud would have to say about that .

Anyway, Merih, if you are indeed a female, I take my comment about being prettier back with a sincere apology.

salam fatima

well i married a turkish guy in turkey in december, it was a headache to be honest. i am south african and live in london. well i had to get papers from my country, saying 1 - i am not married, 2 - my unabridged birth certificate, i.e who my parents are etc. - then we had to to have this certified at a consulate in ankara, then translated into turkish, then stamped by the ministry of foreign affairs in ankara. your embassy should be able to help you.

then taking this papers you go to a local marriage council registry, to apply to get married, they will then fill in some papers, and send you to the doctors to have blood tests done, they check for diseases and blood compatibility (only because sometimes cousins marry etc.), i thought it a good thing anyway. this wasnt expensive, but generally fastest it can happen is 2 - 3 days depending on whether you go to a private clinic or not

then you take the results back to the marriage officer, and i cant remember exactly , but was not expensive at all.

more the mission of having all these official documents translated and travelling to the capital etc. made it expensive. also sometimes the local council can be very fussy , imagine we had it certified in ankara by turkish officials, and nope once again in the smaller city we were in , they wanted it translated again by someone local, so we had to pay again.

good luck

Aisha

I hear you Aisha. We wanted to get married in Turkey but it was such a long and painful process that we gave up. Instead I made a few phone calls to the municipality in my home town, got a few documents from the nüfus dairesi and we did it in Denmark instead, without any fuss. So happy that we didn´t have to pay loads of money for a stinking signature and a so-called blood test

hi to everyone  - i need your advice as i am so puzzled now

i was asked for answer, but i did not have certain one. it makes me smile when i think of it, though i would like to welcome everyone because i really would like to understand. I could say that it was individual specific, but maybe there is smth more?

situation :

my really best frirend (that is why i do care) talked to turkish man online for couple of days. nothing special, just some funny words in couple of sentances. then they met and talked for short. why for short? because reality was not that bright as online world She did not let to carry her things, hold hands etc etc etc. and she was called cold woman.

question :

what should she do to "earn" other status?

we already listed many possible reasons, but please help. both of us count on you, people thanks in advance!

I don´t understand what the problem is. Which status is it that she wants to "earn"?

I first would ask your friend why she would want to get involved with someone she barely knows to begin with who is already calling her names. "cold woman". Because she didn´t want to hold hands.  I wouldn´t either if I had never met the guy...so don´t think you did anything wrong.

I happen to think Turkish men are more forward than most men I have met....not sure why.  I wouldn´t try to change or earn the other status as you mentioned.  Just be yourself and if he likes you for you great.  Otherwise, don´t waste your time on someone who maybe a little aggressive and forward if this makes you feel uncomfortable.  You should have to EARN anything....Good Luck..

Edited:  You should NOT have to earn anything....

 i agree with you Melek

thank you!

she just did not expect for that verdict... She also thought about turkish men as of more forward  , but that was just too much )