[Diary of a Future Bride] Family stereotypes

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Hi Fatimah...That´s really interesting... I am an arab woman and i am married to a Turkish man.  We have been married for 8 years now!! Our wedding anniversary was exactly yesterday 7/7/2001.  Its been an amazing 8 years for both of us!  We have a 6year old girl and 4year old twin boys... they are all gorgeous, just like their dad!

.... I met my husband in my country...he owned a restaurant... we got talking and then within the first few weeks we dicided that we were perfect for each other.  We got married and then we went to Turkey and had our wedding party there and made our marriage official in Turkey as well.  My family came to turkey with us for the wedding party...its been fantastic really... everyday passes and it still feels like we´ve just found each other.  I don´t know if this has got anything with him being Turkish..but yes, i believe that Turkish men are more family oriented and do everything to make a theiir marriage work - family life comes first.... His family love me and respect me as I love them too!  my sisters-in-law as well as his brothers´ wives, everyone has made me an important part of the family...that´s really important.

My husband had an arranged marriage when he was 19, mainly because his parents wanted a female in the house to look after them.  The marriage didn´t work out and my husband came to the UK where we met and fell in love.  At the time, my parents were terrified that he only wanted a passport.  But we have been married 19 years now and I can honestly say no matter where your husband comes from, or what culture if you are meant to be together you will be.  We have two gorgeous boys together.  He had three children from his first marriage and they have come to live with us since they were small.  My husband admitted that he used to hit his first wife and I told him that if he ever laid a hand on me I would walk out the door.  I admit that over the years we have had our ups and downs like any marriage but he has kept his promise and never laid a finger on me.  Over the years I have had most problems with English men wondering what is wrong with them!!!  My Turkish family are more close to me now than my own and I cannot wait to move to Fethiye permanently when our youngest has left secondary school in three years time.  Good luck to anyone who is embarking on a marriage with someone of a different culture, it is hard work but well worth the effort on BOTH sides.  Sorry for the length of this post.

Thanks for sharing...I don´t know about the whole exwife abuse, but I guess people can change.

Wow, I do admire you for not being put off by how he treated his ex. Maybe, indeed, people can change. I wouldn´t have your courage to risk a relationship with such a person, but you did it and are happy, so congrats

 I think this warning is valid to anyone embarking of a marriage regardless of the culture, it is a hard work every way you look at it, and one has to wonder if the effort is worth it.

Yes, anything in life worth having is worth the hard work.  Whether it is your education or taking care of your health or taking care of your marriage.  In the end it will all be worth the effort if you lived a happy and full life.

everbody is complaining about infidelity of turkish guys and clash of cultures. because people are looking for just fun and they are not serious about their relation. so it is good to be extracareful.

so...I am seriously looking for someone to have a serious relationship and hopefully to get married.  I respect other cultures and other beliefs and I believe I can live with someone from a different culture and belief. I am a 27 years old guy from Istanbul. any one who wants to know me more let me know.  you can reach me by sending a private message.

lets not speak about difference on culture...what about religion?

 I am ready for that too. Because I am not ethnocentric. I beleive there is other truths besides mine. So I would consider and infact I would like to live with someone from a different belief. If you are open minded, differences are  not a problem but a plus.