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What do Turkish people expect from foreigners?
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 05:44 pm |
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If you are a woman don´t touch men while talking.
If some man stare at you with his eyes shining,huge smile at his face and little bump infront of him do not smile at him (if you don´t want to start a relationship ofcourse)
Learn the place before you go and have clothes according to their acceptance (Don´t go istanbul fath with a mini-skirt,)
If you are a man, we really do not like to hear from you how beautiful or girlfriend-wife-sister or mother.Keep it to yourself.
Men can shake hands some one theyjust meet or after a shopıng deal but women should not.(hey can with women)
Kiss from both chick, right first,left later(your right and left).Dont make left first or you end up kissing lips accidently and it is pretty akward ( a few of my amerikan friend know taste of my lips because of that)
Women do not smoke where are men older from you if you are in to family visit or some one invited you to their house( if you ask me dont smoke at all, it kills you)
Women, be carefull with hitchiking.
Always ask the price before you eat something.
If you need to travel alone late, buy a turkish newspaper and keep it some place people can see it, make it look like you read it.
Women when you are tarvellig alone, if more then 2 guys says you something nasty (you ll understand from their reactions) do not answer, do not start to run, just look infront, never look them, walk faster towards some one else, to some other women or a shop.
....I ll add more later.....
OMG, you are good! loved this info. although i dont need this at all, it was pretty fun. you are good.
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 05:49 pm |
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If you are a woman don´t touch men while talking.
If some man stare at you with his eyes shining,huge smile at his face and little bump infront of him do not smile at him (if you don´t want to start a relationship ofcourse)
Learn the place before you go and have clothes according to their acceptance (Don´t go istanbul fath with a mini-skirt,)
If you are a man, we really do not like to hear from you how beautiful or girlfriend-wife-sister or mother.Keep it to yourself.
Men can shake hands some one theyjust meet or after a shopıng deal but women should not.(hey can with women)
Kiss from both chick, right first,left later(your right and left).Dont make left first or you end up kissing lips accidently and it is pretty akward ( a few of my amerikan friend know taste of my lips because of that)
Women do not smoke where are men older from you if you are in to family visit or some one invited you to their house( if you ask me dont smoke at all, it kills you)
Women, be carefull with hitchiking.
Always ask the price before you eat something.
If you need to travel alone late, buy a turkish newspaper and keep it some place people can see it, make it look like you read it.
Women when you are tarvellig alone, if more then 2 guys says you something nasty (you ll understand from their reactions) do not answer, do not start to run, just look infront, never look them, walk faster towards some one else, to some other women or a shop.
....I ll add more later.....
Wow great info! Thanks. Looking forward to reading the next installment 
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 05:49 pm |
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Edited (9/2/2010) by turkaturk
Edited (9/2/2010) by turkaturk
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 06:12 pm |
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If you are a woman don´t touch men while talking.
If some man stare at you with his eyes shining,huge smile at his face and little bump infront of him do not smile at him (if you don´t want to start a relationship ofcourse)
Learn the place before you go and have clothes according to their acceptance (Don´t go istanbul fath with a mini-skirt,)
If you are a man, we really do not like to hear from you how beautiful or girlfriend-wife-sister or mother.Keep it to yourself.
Men can shake hands some one theyjust meet or after a shopıng deal but women should not.(hey can with women)
Kiss from both chick, right first,left later(your right and left).Dont make left first or you end up kissing lips accidently and it is pretty akward ( a few of my amerikan friend know taste of my lips because of that)
Women do not smoke where are men older from you if you are in to family visit or some one invited you to their house( if you ask me dont smoke at all, it kills you)
Women, be carefull with hitchiking.
Always ask the price before you eat something.
If you need to travel alone late, buy a turkish newspaper and keep it some place people can see it, make it look like you read it.
Women when you are tarvellig alone, if more then 2 guys says you something nasty (you ll understand from their reactions) do not answer, do not start to run, just look infront, never look them, walk faster towards some one else, to some other women or a shop.
....I ll add more later.....
Thanks you interregister for all this information. Waiting for the second part! 
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 06:14 pm |
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I think a decent woman can speak with a man but in the same time to keep him at distance. And i think that saying all the time ´´ im married´´ is like an excuse...something like ´´ i would like to speak with you but..´´
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 06:58 pm |
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Women when you are tarvellig alone, if more then 2 guys says you something nasty (you ll understand from their reactions) do not answer, do not start to run, just look infront, never look them, walk faster towards some one else, to some other women or a shop.
Nasty in an aggressive way? I´m out of there. Nasty in a sexual/harassing way? I suddenly know a lot of Turkish..... (probably the words your mom didn´t teach you!) 
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 08:31 pm |
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This is hillarious. Thank you so much for the info. Please come back with more.
Question:
If the shop assistant (who happens to be a guy) in a market asks me "where I am from" should I answer or... just flash my wedding ring and say "I am Turkish"?
Sometimes in situations like this I wonder what would be appropiate, what would a decent Turkish girl do...
Here is an answer from a decent Turkish girl.
I would hit my purse on his head and kick him at his rounded things between his legs!
Oh! I am joking! 
Here is the serious answer:
No male shop assistant would dare to ask a Turkish girl such a question which is unrelated with the shopping itself, unless the girl encourage him with her eyes or gestures. Even when the girl encourages the boy, he can become a dumb all of a sudden because of the unexpected gift of destiny!  It would be the same with foreigner girls when this assistant is an educated and quality guy. If not, probably because he has this stupid and also disgusting opinion that all the foreigner girls are easy to go sleep with, or because to show the traditional Turkish hospitality  he can ask you "where are you from". When this happens to you, the best behaviour is to answer him politely, avoiding eye contact, implying you would not want him to ask more questions.
Edited (3/10/2010) by upsy_daisy
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 08:49 pm |
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because to show the traditional Turkish hospitality he can ask you "where are you from". When this happens to you, the best behaviour is to answer him politely, avoiding eye contact, implying you would not want him to ask more questions.
I don´t mind people asking me question about where I´m from, if I have kids and what my profession is. Contact with locals is the reason I travel. But there is a huge difference between a question like ´where are you from?´ and ´have you ever had a Turkish boyfriend and what do you think of his qualities in bed?´ (And that really happened to me in Kapalı Carsı!!)
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 09:23 pm |
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It will sounds funny to you guys, and ll shock you but actually they are not hitting you 
Salesmen have strange idea, they all think foreigner ladies-specially if they are above 40-45, are wanting to flirst with young and strong turkish men.How in the world they think like this i don´t know, but they think if they flirt with you they can succed to sale.Specially Jewelery and carpet shops has this kind guys.Reason of their flirting questions are only make the sale...(i know throug my convertsations with salesmen)
So just pay attention to product, and ask questions only about products, do not ask personal questions or no need to answer their personal questions.
Of course no need to be rude, there are lots of warm hearted nice turkish people who is willing to help you only, so as ReyhanL said, put a distence between, (it is a women talent i have no idea how you do it but i know you can do it-they done to me  - )
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 09:23 pm |
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I don´t mind people asking me question about where I´m from, if I have kids and what my profession is. Contact with locals is the reason I travel. But there is a huge difference between a question like ´where are you from?´ and ´have you ever had a Turkish boyfriend and what do you think of his qualities in bed?´ (And that really happened to me in Kapalı Carsı!!)
Well, if you were so quick to show off your ankles above your clogs then maybe this wouldn´t happen. Everyone knows how you Cloggies seduce young Turkish boys by showing your ankles and throwing small bits of cheese at them!
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10 Mar 2010 Wed 09:25 pm |
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Reason of their flirting questions are only make the sale...(i know throug my convertsations with salesmen)
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I am still not buying a carpet from you interregister!
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