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What do Turkish people expect from foreigners?
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 03:57 pm |
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There is much consideration and tolerance towards foreigners in vast areas of the country. And I dare to say arrogance is not a common thing as it comes to foreigners´behaviour. Somehow I haven´t noticed anybody angry with not obeying or breaking the customs.At least by me. Dwelling on Turkish expectations and overgeneralisation evident in this thread makes me burst into laughter.You are all specialists in Turkish character !!!!!!!!Tebrikler
What about a foundation?
All this discussion in this thread is grossly exaggereted for me. Wouldn´t it be better to start from scratch and convert it into"What most foreigners expect from Turks?"more fun ppl it would provide.
hmmm? ne?
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 04:21 pm |
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Edited (4/26/2010) by turkaturk
Edited (9/2/2010) by turkaturk
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 04:33 pm |
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oh, plz, dont make ptaszek angry.
you better strat that thread and please her.
Excellent idea, we´ll take care about that one too. 
I have been living in Turkey for 2 years and I never had any dangerous or even uncomfortable situation with local people. Most of them are naturally curious and nobody got angry at me just because I crossed my legs in their presence.
I agree that this discussion might sound silly or unnecessary for some people. We are not talking about huge cultural differences here, only sharing some advice and perosnal experiences.
One of the reasons I started this conversation was a rumour that is still popular in Turkey, which is: "Foreign people are gross. They have no pride."
Once I heard a family member talking on the phone about me saying: "Well, you know what we think about foreigners, but she is not like that. She is a nice girl."
I wondered what makes an educated and modern Turkish person to say something like that. There must be a reason.
So I would like to add some extra questions here:
What do Turkish people generally think about foreigners? Why?
What do you think about foreigners?
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 04:51 pm |
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One of the most important issue in Turkish culture is guest/host relationship.
If some one is visited my house, even if they were disrespectfull, i would not be fighting them under my roof.
Also it is very old tradition and i dont know if anyone follows it anymore, but if your enemy, run from his/her own enemies and refuge under your roof, you most protect him/her.Even die if it is necessery. (i have no enemy, so i would not know anything about what i would do  )
So for those who says thay had no problem with their breaking cultre, don´t think people are ok with your behaviours.Just because you are guest in our country we tolarete you.
Same think happening to religious workers to turkey.People would listen them, even be agree with them for avoiding any conflict, so workers ll think, o there is great hunger in this country for truth (whatever that truth is according their beliefe, Raelianism, Budism, Chiristianity, Mormonism etc...)But the TRUTH is people are just tolareting you(if they have no secon intention, for example if you are mini-skirted lady, and cross your legs, no one ll warn you because they can see your lingerie  -i know truth hurts always-)
So this topic is kind of one of the most useful topic in TC, ofcourse we are kidding, jerking arround, complaining and yes exedurating-cartoonizing things, but they are naked truths also 
So i don´t care what foreigners expect from me-as a turk, since Misafir umduğunu değil, bulduğunu yer-Guest won´t eat what he hopes he ll eat, but eats what ever availible on the table- So don´t get me wrong, i have many foreigner friends, i loved, loved by foreigners, working with them,trying to help them any way i can do, but hey, i did not invite any of them,they come, if they expect from me to walk upside down,that is their problem.
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 04:56 pm |
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One of the most important issue in Turkish culture is guest/host relationship.
If some one is visited my house, even if they were disrespectfull, i would not be fighting them under my roof.
Also it is very old tradition and i dont know if anyone follows it anymore, but if your enemy, run from his/her own enemies and refuge under your roof, you most protect him/her.Even die if it is necessery. (i have no enemy, so i would not know anything about what i would do )
So for those who says thay had no problem with their breaking cultre, don´t think people are ok with your behaviours.Just because you are guest in our country we tolarete you.
Same think happening to religious workers to turkey.People would listen them, even be agree with them for avoiding any conflict, so workers ll think, o there is great hunger in this country for truth (whatever that truth is according their beliefe, Raelianism, Budism, Chiristianity, Mormonism etc...)But the TRUTH is people are just tolareting you(if they have no secon intention, for example if you are mini-skirted lady, and cross your legs, no one ll warn you because they can see your lingerie -i know truth hurts always-)
So this topic is kind of one of the most useful topic in TC, ofcourse we are kidding, jerking arround, complaining and yes exedurating-cartoonizing things, but they are naked truths also
So i don´t care what foreigners expect from me-as a turk, since Misafir umduğunu değil, bulduğunu yer-Guest won´t eat what he hopes he ll eat, but eats what ever availible on the table- So don´t get me wrong, i have many foreigner friends, i loved, loved by foreigners, working with them,trying to help them any way i can do, but hey, i did not invite any of them,they come, if they expect from me to walk upside down,that is their problem.
oki, I read it
are you in cahoots with blabbermouths?Boy,damn talkative you are
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 05:04 pm |
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this is such a fun topic!
In my opinion I thing people should respect cultures because it is what everyone different of some kind. without culture things would be a mess, no one would know any boundaries and etc.
I have lived in Turkey, and i have experience the culture which I love so much. I never had a problem, and if you were me you would think ouch... ( my skin color is black) so everywhere i went i was either ARAP, ZENGI, CHOCOLATE, you name it but do i think that the people are bad for saying that! NO way. I think its just the curiosity that most have, who have never seen a black person in there life would react the same way. Turkish people are general nice, kind and i mean very kind because even if you find one fighting with the other one minute ago, and the same asks for help they will help him even without thinking that they just disagreed a minute ago! So for those who are visiting or staying, learn the people culture and live by your own as well because no one expects you to be a TURK IF YOUR NOT.
Be nice, don´t judge anyone and your life will be sweet as Lokum.
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 05:08 pm |
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oki, I read it
are you in cahoots with blabbermouths?Boy,damn talkative you are
Oh damn, i wish i know english that well. I have no idea what is that cahoots blabbermouths but if they are good, yea deffinetly i am, if they are bad i definetly not, it is just vicious slander
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 05:31 pm |
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Oh damn, i wish i know english that well. I have no idea what is that cahoots blabbermouths but if they are good, yea deffinetly i am, if they are bad i definetly not, it is just vicious slander
Cahoots = in partnership with
blabbermouth = someone who talks too much, not discreet, may gossip
They are old fashioned slang...sort of cute...maybe not...if you think of the meanings
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 05:32 pm |
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Oh damn, i wish i know english that well. I have no idea what is that cahoots blabbermouths but if they are good, yea deffinetly i am, if they are bad i definetly not, it is just vicious slander
now you sound like namby-pamby
hey where is your all hail-fellow-well-met-with attitude,a slander???from me??
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 05:43 pm |
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Once I heard a family member talking on the phone about me saying: "Well, you know what we think about foreigners, but she is not like that. She is a nice girl."
I wondered what makes an educated and modern Turkish person to say something like that. There must be a reason.
So I would like to add some extra questions here:
What do Turkish people generally think about foreigners? Why?
What do you think about foreigners?
What might be acceptable, or even cute, from a foreigner, would not be desirable from a daughter in law.
You ask what makes an educated and modern Turkish person say something like that.
Well if you read this forum enough you will quickly realize sexual mores are quite different. What is acceptable in Western culture is not accepted in Turkish culture.
Can you imagine a Turkish man with a wife who many men were openly admiring and expressing flirting with? In the West the wife is often an adornment, her looks and charm are an attribute to her husband. Actually, there is a long tradition of this throughout European history.
Edited (3/11/2010) by alameda
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11 Mar 2010 Thu 06:00 pm |
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alameda..that reminds me of an old song my Grandmother used to play all the time. Definately a reflection of a different time.
If You Wanna Be Happy
By Jimmy Soul
If you wanna be happy
For the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife,
So from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you.
A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall.
As soon as he marries her
Then she starts to do
The things that will break his heart.
But if you make an ugly woman your wife,
You´ll be happy for the rest of your life,
An ugly woman cooks her meals on time,
She´ll always give you peace of mind.
Don´t let your friends say
You have no taste,
Go ahead and marry anyway,
Though her face is ugly,
Her eyes don´t match,
Take it from me she´s a better catch.
Say man.
Hey baby.
Saw your wife the other day.
Yeah?
Yeah, she´s ugly.
Yeah, she´s ugly but she sure can cook.
Yeah?. Okay.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NF5XU-k2Vk
Edited (3/11/2010) by Elisabeth
Edited (3/11/2010) by Elisabeth
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