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just like to know...
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 10:47 am |
i was just woundering if in turkey turkish couples just live together and have kids like in europe or is that a big no because of there culture.......?
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:01 pm |
thats depend to family if traditional or not,so theres always two answers about Turkish people for each question about social and cultural life
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:06 pm |
you mean there is actually some families,accepting that ?
2 people live together and having kids without being married ??
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:10 pm |
Quoting _Canlı: you mean there is actually some families,accepting that ?
2 people live together and having kids without being married ?? |
i know alot of people, mainly from the larger cities, some of my friends in istanbul are divorced, have kids, married again and have got more kids........
i think as times are changing, its becoming more common! but i cant see this happening in small towns or villages, i still know people in villages having arranged marriages and marrying their cousins???
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:12 pm |
thanks for your info so i guess with a srict muslim father it will be a no no ....
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:14 pm |
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:16 pm |
Quoting bttgab: i was just woundering if in turkey turkish couples just live together and have kids like in europe or is that a big no because of there culture.......?
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bttgab, didn't mean that with her/his question
The question is can they live together,without being married and have kids,and people accepting them easly like in Europe ?
She/he, didn't mean they got married then got divorced,there is no marriage to start with
Right bttgab ?
Zannitim, it is a Big NO,it cann't happened there
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:18 pm |
I think that "marriage" here can be misleading...
"Legal marriage" is different than the "religious marriage". There are people in Turkey (also many famous people) who are not legally married, but only make a religious marriage (Which is not legally accepted). Most of the society accepts this kind of relation.
"Living together" : It is not uncommon in big cities, People generally raise eyebrow , and many families prefer their children to be "married".
So, it is about the families, friends and neighborhood.
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:21 pm |
Quoting bttgab: thanks for your info so i guess with a srict muslim father it will be a no no .... |
İt has nothing to do with strict muslim father or not strict,it is Haram in İslam to do so,forbidden
Equal to killing and stealing in Christian religion
Ofcourse those are forbidden too in İslam
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:24 pm |
canin yes that is what i meant thank you for all your info to all.............how about if you get divorced who will get custody of the kids i know a family where the kids live with the dads family is that normal because it doesnt happen in europe a lot they normaly stay with there mum
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:25 pm |
Quoting boradiz: I think that "marriage" here can be misleading...
"Legal marriage" is different than the "religious marriage".. |
What do you mean about Legal marriage,and religious marriage ?
İsn't everyone there got married accourding to his or her religion
İ mean Muslim got married accourding to İslam
And Christian got married accourding to Christianity ?
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:26 pm |
Quoting bttgab: i was just woundering if in turkey turkish couples just live together and have kids like in europe or is that a big no because of there culture.......?
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in my personal experience, i am not married, and i have no children... but in a previous relationship with a Turk for 5 years, his family are muslims and follow their religion, because we were living together, they suggested we do imam nikah, the religious ceremony.
maybe this could be an option for some people living together but not ready to commit to a full legal marriage.
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:28 pm |
Quoting _Canlı: Quoting boradiz: I think that "marriage" here can be misleading...
"Legal marriage" is different than the "religious marriage".. |
What do you mean about Legal marriage,and religious marriage ?
İsn't everyone there got married accourding to his or her religion
İ mean Muslim got married accourding to İslam
And Christian got married accourding to Christianity ? |
there is IMAM NIKAH and RESMI NIKAH
the first is a religious ceremony but it is NOT legal!
the second is the legal wedding.....
alot of Turks do both!
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:29 pm |
well,i don't know who would take the custody Türkiye'de
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Here it is up to the kid age,
İf the kids still young,then they stay with their Mom,
When they grow up to a certain age,Judge ask them whom do they want to stay with
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:36 pm |
not sure about who takes custody of the children, but i know of some couples who have seperated/divorced and the children stayed with their father!!
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:39 pm |
Quoting _Canlı: İt has nothing to do with strict muslim father or not strict,it is Haram in İslam to do so,forbidden
Equal to killing and stealing in Christian religion
Ofcourse those are forbidden too in İslam |
But not all Türkler follow İslam - in the same way as not all English are Christian!!! I am sure that there are atheists living in Türkiye.......
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:50 pm |
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But not all Türkler follow İslam - in the same way as not all English are Christian!!! I am sure that there are atheists living in Türkiye....... |
Yes that is true,but they are very very little there,beside the way they think is not only a matter of believing,don't forget also traditions and the way they have been raised
And maybe they don't follow İslam as they don't pray,they drink,but believes and traditions are still there
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 12:53 pm |
Quoting boradiz: I think that "marriage" here can be misleading...
"Legal marriage" is different than the "religious marriage". |
The same is true in England.....
Legal marriage has to be preformed under statute law and only this marriage is recognised by the state. The statute mostly dates from 1948 and gives two types of people the power to oversee a legal marriage. Firstly there are "registrars" who are responsible for keeping the registers of births, deaths and marriages. But also all Church of England ministers are enpowered to conduct marriages.
Therefore, if you get married in a Church of England ceremony you are both legally and religiously married in the same process. However, if you get married in a different church then you are only religiously married and this is not recognised by the state. It is usual to have a registrar at the wedding service so the legal part can be done at the same time.
In England it is very common to have just the legal part and not to have a religious marriage at all. Until a few years ago this had to be done in a "registry office" but can now be done almost anywhere. Another complexity is that English law now allows "civil partnerships" which are the equivilent of the legal part of marriage but are not limited to a man and a woman. They can be between two people of the same gender. The civil partnership legislation does allow for "marriage" between three people but as yet that part of the legislation has not been enacted.
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 01:01 pm |
''The civil partnership legislation does allow for "marriage" between three people ''
How ???
How can marriage be between more than 2 people ???
Any relation got only 2 parts ?? !! right ??
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 01:09 pm |
well bod thats news to me marriage between 3 people????????????
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 01:24 pm |
it is hardy work between 2 people,,
İ think i wouldn't want to think how would it be between 3 ,,lol
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 01:28 pm |
you right there
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19 Jul 2006 Wed 12:44 pm |
Quoting bttgab: marriage between 3 people???????????? |
Kinky!
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