Please let us know if we were correct or incorrect

I thank you all for taking the trouble to post a response to my message. I have showed these replies to my daughter.

She will not be sending any money to Turkey but at this stage wants to give the boy in question a second chance. It is very difficult and I hope with time and upon some reflection her feelings will change. Unfortunately all I can do is advise her and hope she listens to me and the clear message in these postings.

GWatson

I don't think we should be too harsh. These boys have just learned from experience! There must be a lot of silly girls sending presents and money to these workers and so it becomes "normal" to them, and they probably believe they are asking nothing unusual!

Some of the hypothetical girls mentioned in posts above dont have the benefit of experience and think they are the only one that has been asked for money or whatever else. From various posts I have read in other sites, as soon as NO comes into it they usually forget the girl and move on to the next suspect. Doesn't mean they are bad but they are just taking advantage of situations as they present themselves, and really who can blame them for trying. If they have been successful once or twice, why not try again?

I didn't have time to read all of replies here but from me I can add that this is not the rule.It depends from character not from nationality..
But if he asks her about money he is probably from the "dark side"of Turkish guys.
I noticed that for Turks taking money from girls is some kind of...I don't know how to call it...degradation,debasement.They want to take care about their girlfriends in every single way..Even financial ones.
Of course it just my opinion but I think that Turks are real cavaliers
P.S.I hope that you daughter let you to read this sms.In other case you shouldn't do it...
Take care about you and her!!

SineNomine-good commentSelam

a real good man who would not ask the money from a woman, no matter what the reason is, especially before serious relationship. so, I said be careful

in my openion 99% he is not a good guy but if she knows him well she should ask him why does he need the money or what will he spend it on. but if the relation is still in the beginning then most probably he only wants the money not her..
but i prefer to give him a last chance AND dont send the money. send it only if there is a rational excuse.
good luck 4 ur daughter.