hey,men are same in all around the world,there are bad and good so you should look at men who live in your own country. you have a brain,if you meet and trust a man who has bad behavior,it is your mistake, not Turkish men's. sometimes I see translatios about money transfer from a girl to her lover in Turkey;,it is absolutely madness...I think your love depend on money,it is your false as men's...

Where is my topic about magandas. It would suit well here.

I agree- this has nothing to do with "Turkish men". In every society, in every culture, there are vultures who prey on the naiive. But it takes two to tango.

You can only be taken advantage of if you allow yourself to be.

In the USA, there is an equal number of men who seek out naiive women for personal pleasure.

Many men (and I believe an equal number of women) do not have solid morals. They seek to exploit the moment, and money, sex, etc...

If you don't engage, you can't be taken advantage of...

ok,i've found it,sorry,it wasn't at off the topics.
Lesson Learned

Looks like kadersokak is trying to share with us a piece of wisdom and truth he learnt from his own life and/or experience but women are resistant to believe him, despite the obvious morale of the story about "turkish/resort men" . There aren't women complaining about the guys they met in their churches/universities/poetry clubs... etc, but about the guys they meet on vacation, so looks like kadersokak's wisdom is in the right place!
Anyways, it's sometimes weird to see how some people are desparately trying to defend men saying "don't generalize, not all men are the same...", what if THERE IS some truth in the generalizations??? Maybe we should actually learn something from them instead of sticking to the fantasy about an ideal world/people. Haven't we read enough stories about the "dark side of turkish love" to get the point?

the problem is related to manner actually. men living in Turkish cities lack of urban culture. that is the problem. they stare at women. for example in western countries people smile each other in the street. but this is not common in turkey. i remember once a tourist girl on the beach smiled a turkish worker and that male worker interpreted that sime as if she wants him and then he tried to rape her. I saw this in the news. the ruralization of the cities is a serious problem in turkey and it had started in 1950s when the last armenian, greek and other minority groups who had an urban culture left the Turkish cities and those people coming from rural areas replaced them. orhan pamuk mentions this in his book "istanbul: memoirs and the city".