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Turkish Boyfriends and Girlfriends.
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09 Sep 2010 Thu 11:15 pm |
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Even in the US, when a friend of the opposite sex is introduced to family, eyes are raised and the introduction is taken as a sign of something very serious........
I FINALLY realised something.. either:-
- You live in an Amish community
- You SHOULD live in an Amish community
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10 Sep 2010 Fri 12:00 am |
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Karma karma chameleon
You come and go,
You come and go.
Welcome back again...
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10 Sep 2010 Fri 12:02 am |
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Karma karma chameleon
You come and go,
You come and go.
Welcome back again...
Do you really want to hurt me? Do you really want to make me cry? 
Hi Vinny! x
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11 Sep 2010 Sat 02:07 pm |
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Alameda - the States must be so backwards. It´s been a while since I was a teenager but my parents never raised an eyebrow when they met one of my many male friends. And even though some of these friends would stay for the night (not in my bedroom, mind you!) my folks were never suspicious of anything. I don´t know about States but in Poland people have friends of different genders and hang out with them both at home and out of it...
Edited (9/11/2010) by Daydreamer
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11 Sep 2010 Sat 03:35 pm |
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Quote:I met my friend on a social network last year, and since then have taken our conversations to msn. We talk anywhere from 4-12 hours daily, depending on the time zone. I´m finally going to Turkey and he´s meeting me at the airport, taking a 5 hour train to get there. We will spend three days in Ankara. After that we will go stay with his elder brother and new wife for one week, and then home to meet his parents and other relatives. At the beginning of our special friendship we spoke of love, and I admit that I do love him very much. Now he says we are "two good friends". Is it customary for "two good friends" to stay with his elder brother and new wife, and then home to the parents? I´m so confused. And does the one good friend always ask "where are you?" "what are you doing?" "Are you home?" "When will you be home?" I thought those kinds of questions in a Turkish guy were reserved for more intimate relationships.
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Relationships are never easy, especially when the culture is different and you feel like you are playing a game whose rules you do not know. Chances are that until you have been met by his family he cannot make up his mind what he really wants. A lot of Turkish men care for their families deeply, and their unspoken approval is important. Also it seems he is trying to do things properly rather than just taking you to the nearest hotel for a quickie.
It is the best thing if you stay with the relatives, because it means he is an honest man, and he is trying to do things right. it gives both of you the chance to bow out gracefully in case it should not work out.
Conversations on msn, no matter how intense, are no substitute for a personal meeting and you need to go through the beginnings of courtship slowly and carefully. He understands that. I respect him for it. i wish you all the best.
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11 Sep 2010 Sat 04:58 pm |
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It´s not backward to have raised eyebrows  When I introduce a male friend to my family, I have to state explicity that he is just a friend, or they will assume otherwise.
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11 Sep 2010 Sat 08:45 pm |
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It´s not backward to have raised eyebrows When I introduce a male friend to my family, I have to state explicity that he is just a friend, or they will assume otherwise.
haha! sounds to me like your family are desperate to marry you off!
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11 Sep 2010 Sat 08:56 pm |
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haha! sounds to me like your family are desperate to marry you off!
How sexist... marry me "off"?
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11 Sep 2010 Sat 09:19 pm |
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How sexist... marry me "off"?
Why do you find this sexist ? sons can also be married off
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12 Sep 2010 Sun 12:02 am |
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doğru
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they change their mind all the time and they leave without a word.... but they always come back after a while, 
or to tell you they would like you two to be at least "just friends" 
as they don´t like to know that someone is upset on them( maybe it´s something related to their religion beliefs?? ). At least this is what happened to me and to some of my friends 