Yes, that's my main problem. When me and my bf talks, at first, we are ok but most of the times, we ended up fighting due to misinterpretation of such words which lead to too much explanations and so and so and afterwards we both laugh in our stupidity. He is 50/50 turkish/chinese and knows very little english and im still teaching him the latter and its good that he hired an english tutor. Love languages are good but not at all times, still u have to speak in a common language for better understanding.

I totally agree with this. I have often said to my boyfriend that communication is of the utmost importance. I told him, I just want to be able to have a regular nice conversation.

He has been studying English, and has become very good, and I have been studying Turkish, not as good as his level of English, but none the less, we will not rely on someone else to help us have a conversation. It is so important, that if we haven't come this far in our understanding of each other, I would have ended it. Everyone is right, without communication, there is no relationship.

I couldn't agree more, if you can't even understand an sms or an email and these are your main form of communication I would surely hope you aren't silly enough to take it seriously (relationship wise). I read all these translations people are wanting done and they always start with askim and sevgilim, and your wife and blah blah blah.... it really makes me laugh. My fiance speaks english perfect BUT there still is times when our words cross paths and we aren't understanding things exactly, it can cause small conflicts that we always resolve, but I couldn't imagine actually having to translate most of what he is saying, and personally I wouldn't want the world to know these things anyway... can I ask what brought this up anyway? just curious

Communication, patience, kindness and understanding are actions...non verbal much of the time. How many people speak the same language fluently yet still argue, still do not communicate. My personal opinion.

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I agree that communication is a big part of a relationship but I also think that we should learn languages for other reasons than because our "love" speaks a different language.
Because what if you break up? are you too going to give up the language?

In my opinion no-one really knows which person they will date next or where they will end up living...this does not mean I am saying to learn every language in the world but I think it is better to learn it because we want to learn it not because we have to and think it's a chore.

For example: when people brake up with their girlfriend/boyfriend, a lot (not all) will give up learning the language because of the break up, but I ask, why not carry on what you started and prove that you can do something without actually having to do so?

Just my opinion

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i ask this because i have been translating husband's and wife's texts they even couldnt manage to understand very basic daily speaking also they had a child! i really felt sorry for this couple.. also many other people maybe arent married but serious relationships!

they way things are understood and meanings are very different in different languages. you have to have the time to understand the different meanings and ways otherwise these can lead to big arguments. even when you both can speak the same language things need to be explained as to the way they are ment

Body language in all sorts ( ) is fun - sometimes - but marrying a man I can't communicate with in spoken and written language? No way! I need to be able to talk to my partner. If he does not speak my language and/or English, he should learn, same for me: I need in that case to learn his - though I hope it will not be Zulu, Xhosa or such one...