dont speak anything of suicide. heart ache is hard, very hard, but time makes it better. if he is so easy with it then he is not the one for you who will love you always and want to make you happy. be strong and be postitve. you will be alright

Kirsty is right. Don't talk of suicide. I know its not so simple for you and you can say to the rest of us they we don't know what you are going through, but all of us have had the same kind of experience as you in our lives. You must trust and believe what we say. It really WILL get better. Carry on with your normal life. Be busy. One day you will wake up and everyting will really FEEL normal and then you will be free of the heartache.

He wasn't for you. You can see this now. I am sure you are a sweet and lovely girl who has everything to look forward to and a real love is just waiting somewhere in your future.

chiro,
i'm and american girl married to a turkish man for the past 13 years. in this time i have seen alot of different relationships with turkish people. one thing i have learned is family has alot to do with who there children marries. i have to say though that tukish people in my opinion are the nicest people i've ever met. honestly i think he's just using that he wants to wait until he's 30 to marry. don't wait for him hon if wanted to marry you he wouldn't wait. life is too short you need to be happy and have no regrets. feel free to e-mail me if you want to talk. my e-mail is anne1993@yahoo.com. good luck hon

Well i dotn agree that when you want to marry someone, you wouldnt want to wait with it. My man has already said a million times 'i am gonna marry you, there's no other way, you got to be my wife!', but i know he doesnt wanna marry now. He's only 20, im 18.. He doesn;t make money yet. His reason not to marry yet, is because he wants a beautiful wedding and guaranteeing that he can give me a good life when i become his wife. He'll need to have a job for that so he has to finish his university first. I dont think it is always good to marry straight away.

But if he didnt even give a sad expression when you broke up, then he's probably not worth your love. But there's one thing you must understand: if you feel lonely when you are on your own, then you are not good company yourself. So get yourself a cup tea, bake brownies, cry for 2 days and then go on ! Life is only too short when you dont enjoy it enough

I think your guy sounds more sensible. You are both young and he has offered sound economic reasons for delaying a wedding.

Firstly i must thanks for my buddy's opinion and consolations.

i just wish i have never found him.. I am lost.. i couldn't feel myself and see the future... I do have other turk frineds, but without him my journey to turkey is meaningless... i could only live by he and my memories now..no more..

thanks.

Hello Little Princess

I am glad you are here I just read your post and was worried for you. Please believe me when I say you will get past this. We are all here for you too if you need support.
I also wan to tell you I am close to 40 and I am still a Hotty you have your entire life ahead of you and time goes by so quickly. Your 20s especially as they did for me. I have a son but I have never been married............. by choice.
i have 20 year old boy's still chasing me so don't think that you do not have many good years left as you will see.
I think this guy will regret losing you someday. Boy's are slow in realization sometimes. Please don't punish yourself anymore you are not at fault!!!!!!! Lyndie said something I do not agree with (for the first time) I think your guy sounds more sensible. You are both young and he has offered sound economic reasons for delaying a wedding......................... I do not think that is why. He may have othe deep issues unknown to you who knows.

you need to look out for numero uno you!!!!!

Keep in touch sweetie!
classycaliprincess@yahoo.com
usaprincess_388@hotmail.com
I'd leave my phone# but I got in trouble here for that once already oh well why not 408-866-8939


Peace & Love & Happiness

Tsarevna Stacia
Kelley



PS
To some people marriage is suicide
intihar
suicide.

intihar etmek
1. to commit suicide.
2. slang to get married.

Sorry for the misunderstanding Kelley!
I was talking to Deli Kizim when i said 'her guy sounds more sensible' Not our sad little chihiro.

OK Kelley - we can go back to the time when everything i said you agreed with :

SELAM LYNDIE

OK NO PROBLEM I LIKE IT BETTER THAT WAY!

THANKS DOLL YOU REALLY HAVE WONDERFUL ADVICE AND

YOU ARE ALSO EDUCATED IN PSYCOLOGY TOO RIGHT? IF NOT YOU

SURE SEEM TO KNOW IT ALL HAVE YOU SPOKE TO

THE CHIHARO? I AM WORRIED ABOUT HER. HOPE SHE IS

WELL! CHECK IN LITTLE CHIHARO....................

TAKE CARE LYNDIE BYESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Peace & Love
& Happiness to all,

Tsarevna Stacia

Kelley

Relly thanks for all..... i think i could carry on with your supports..thanks...

Thanks Kelley,
I am educated in psychology (and some say that I am a 'know all' )
I am also a counsellor in my job.