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getting married in turkey
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:19 am |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting mltm: [quote aenigme]
Yeah, right. There're a lot of relatively modern people who do these. I think it's more because the girl wants to keep herself virgin because if the girl lets, the man wouldn't mind it. |
Exactly Meltem. So, without wanting to get too explicit, why would a girl think its ok to have done pretty much every kind of sexual act except penetrative? (I wont even mention the men because they are a rule unto themselves)! |
Because these girls fear that being not virgin could make them seen as a less decent girl by their future husband. Probably a lot of them do not mind a lot having sex before marriage and their families will not make a deal out of it very much, their families will not even know if they're virgin or not because probably the husband they will get married will not give her back to her family because she's "faulty" or her family will not make a virginity test on her but anyway these girls want to be seen " a good girl", "a decent girl" when they meet the man they marry, they will probably never tell the man that they have done sex or even they have got intimide with a man before him, because even if this man would marry a girl that's not a virgin, he always considers a virgin girl more decent. So, that's about it.
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:20 am |
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i think thats not a topic of religions or ethnics or nationalites,thats a matter of to be human
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:21 am |
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i give up now, i cant talk on these issues.
it will be again  let those with stronger heads do it against the primitive wallbricks
i just added my own points that the archaic patriarchial traditions harm and humiliate women. i cannot value such cruel traditions and praise them (as some backword people here do). if virginity is required it must work to both sexes.
over!
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:23 am |
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Quoting femme_fatal: i give up now, i cant talk on these issues.
it will be again let those with stronger heads do it against the primitive wallbricks
i just added my own points that the archaic patriarchial traditions harm and humiliate women. i cannot value such cruel traditions and praise them (as some backword people here do). if virginity is required it must work to both sexes.
over! |
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:23 am |
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Quoting femme_fatal: i give up now, i cant talk on these issues.
it will be again let those with stronger heads do it against the primitive wallbricks
i just added my own points that the archaic patriarchial traditions harm and humiliate women. i cannot value such cruel traditions and praise them (as some backword people here do). if virginity is required it must work to both sexes.
over! |
Femme I think MOST people on this thread agree that its hyprocracy unless both sexes are virgins.
To be fair (  ) Meltem is only telling the situation as it is, not her view. 
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:28 am |
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Quoting elham: MrX67 , is realy 10% only of turkey not pay attention virginity, whom live in ankra , istanbul, izmer, as my friend ayse told me |
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:38 am |
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Quoting MrX67: Quoting elham: MrX67 , is realy 10% only of turkey not pay attention virginity, whom live in ankra , istanbul, izmer, as my friend ayse told me |
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yes , you are right, Freedom false
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:41 am |
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Quoting elham: yes , you are right, Freedom false |
You equate sexual freedom with immorality? 
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:42 am |
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last 25 years take so many things from high Turkish moral values,so the young generation struggling in a big cultural shock at the days
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:50 am |
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Quoting MrX67: last 25 years take so many things from high Turkish moral values,so the young generation struggling in a big cultural shock at the days |
I both agree and disagree. If you look at the disgusting portrayal of women in Turkish media, I guess it couldn't have been worse earlier. But when it comes to certain freedoms of women, I believe it's a little better now (because of Ataturk's reforms).
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13 Jul 2007 Fri 01:56 am |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting elham: yes , you are right, Freedom false |
You equate sexual freedom with immorality? |
There is no freedom named freedom of sexuality , sex with the husband only, all religions say this, did you hear ring chastity, which some students wearing it in England , what do you think why they wear it?
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