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20 Sep 2007 Thu 12:39 am |
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Quoting libralady:
I personally think that possessiveness and jealousy are big problems in a relationship, what ever the country of origin and something I will never understand! Why have you just quoted Holland? Possessiveness and jealousy are personality traits which maybe more prevalent in some countries than others. Some people think you can't have love with out either of the two, but I believe you can't have love with them! |
Your view is excectly the view I'm grown up with, and everybody around me as well. And most of my life I thought this was totally self-evident. In my milieu in Holland it's not done to be possessive, its even associated with bad and aggresive behaviour. When only I was in a intercultural relationship with a turkish man I realized in some way I liked his possesiveness. I say in some way. It's quite subtle (and hard to discuss by only writing). Anyway, I was quite shocked about this discovery so I discussed this with other women to uncover their experiences. I found out I wasn't the only one. But...
If no-one does recognize this lets go back to the point of the protection. I suppose thats more important for more different people.
(I spoke about this whith quite a lot of women, but only dutch women.)
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