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I don´t think Teas thinks you are so wrong to do what you´ve done LL. I don´t think that´s her issue with you.
It is very admirable that you managed to carve a career without resorting to childcare. However, everyone´s circumstances are different , and I´m not assuming you were lucky enough to be well off either.
I too managed to have a career and bring up a child. I had no choice, I had to work, but I was lucky that my parents were my daughter´s carers, so it was just like being at home.
When I left school I didn´t go to university, I studied finance whilst working for a bank and did well. But, when my daughter was 3 I went to university for 4 years and this actually gave me more time with my daughter. I downsized so that I could pay my way at University and I can say that I never resorted to the state for support at all.
There are some single parents who will take state benefits and stay home with their children and others who will not and go to work and then have to find child care. Unfortunately, whichever path they take they will be criticised for it for one reason or another. And before anyone says it, I don´t think it´s justified to say "well they shouldn´t have had children". Single parents aren´t always single women becoming pregnant, some have been married for years before being divorced or widowed.
There are no hard and fast rules on bringing up a child and what works for one doesn´t work for another. Not all stay at home mums are fun seeking and energetic and they can make life miserable for their children. Some children are naturally gregarious and can´t wait to be let loose  . I think the main thing is to try not to be judgemental about people´s choices regarding the raising of their children. (In normal circumstances that is).
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