Dealing with a mother-in-law could be difficult and sometimes too difficult to endure, and it all depends on how your fiance responds to the problem. Although it is naturally difficult for him to turn his back to his mother and to favour you in all these matters; he is the one who needs to make a decision. If he wants to build a common future with you, he must be able to say no to her mother who as far as I understand can become quite insolent and unbearable.

Technically it is impossible for someone not to be under the influence of a dominant mother like his. He will have some elements of her character and of her psychology. It is a matter of being able to manage these feelings. You may expect problems in your marriage in the future; it is just a matter of how much you are willing to tolerate and how ready he is to adapt to your joint life.

Turkish traditions can be a bit difficult to accept for foreigners and it is usually vice versa.

Calls to mind:

Dudakların nasıl ürkek

Ne kadar uzakta sesin

Sen gece gelen konuğu

Hiç kimsenin ve herkesin

How timid your lips are

Your voice comes from afar

You are the nocturnal guest

of us all yet of none of us

Yagmur Atsiz.

Konuk is a Turkish word I think deriving from konmak which in contemporary Turkish means to perch. It appears in various phrases like:

Başına talih kuşu kondu.

Büyük bir servete kondu. (meaning that fortune came suddenly and by chance like from lottery).

Konuk and misafir are the same. Konuk is a newer word and is considered more formal. If you are giving a speech to an audience in a formal setting, you would call them "Sayın/sevgili konuklarımız." It is not wrong to call them misafirlerimiz. It depends on your cultural alignment.

Kurds, Turks, Azeris whatever, it is not wrong to belong one of them. It is wrong to say a certain race is evil and that people we hate are doing the things that make us angry because they are Kurds, Turks etc. That´s why many of the posts here smell of chauvinism and racism.

History recorded Yavuz as a violent person who murdered his own father chased his vizirs with a sword in his hand. He must certainly have had an anger management problem but unfortunately there were no shrinks in his day; for that he would have to wait until the 19th century. 

As it turns out Sheik Ismail was a direct opposite of Yavuz Selim. He was a man of letters, a poet, a proto-humanist who is still a role model for post modern humanists. However, a typical mistake would be disregarding the time frame and considering all the leaders as if they are contemporaries.

Yavuz was not a racist. He thought he was the sword of God and he also though he was the Khaliph and that he was acting according to God´s will. In other words, by today´s standards he was an über megaloman. He killed his own kinsmen, citizens and friends and planted the seeds of ethnic hatred in this country.

Erdogan certainly likes him and will give his name to the third bridge over Bosphorus because he has a similar character. Nevertheless, Erdogan does not lead an empire with mighty armies. He is playing in a setting where a leader must be aware of his limitations.  

Here I tried to translate a few lines from Sheik Ismail

Truth is a deep mystery

You can not crack it open

There is faith in blasphemy

Yet it is beyond all reason

I am Hata-i the Sheik

of the land of misty mountains

Here are the Bible and the Quran

and there is not a single difference

Sheik Ismail.

and this one is from Yavuz Selim

By what magic did she turn my eyes all red

she filled up my heart with her love

lions do tremble by the fear of my terror

yet her eyes turned me into a slave of her love 

Yavuz Selim

(These are just quick translations)

He is trying to say Obama is playing the Mevlevi card. Can you believe that? 

You should thank West for tokenizing moderate Islam.

Thanks but you are exagerating. It is just a quick and dirty translation.

It is a bit weird to call the West as Christians. Christ himself was a peaceful man. He has no relation with the current day Christians who have nothing to do with the original teachings of that great dude. For example, he strictly forbade usury but todays´ West runs on usury and by the consent of the church. 

Islam´s prophet on the other hand was a warrior prophet. He acted as an army general, statesman etc. We have to remember this point. We can claim crusades were against the spirit of Christianity but can we say that Jihad actually contradicts with it?

I would like to say, the religion context here is dubious. Christ did not want his followers to organize crusades. Christians can´t attribute their warlike nature to the teachings of their religion. However, Muslims can.

We should say this is a cultural thing... and nothing more.

Some students believe, at the state of chemical equlibrium, there is no dissolution and sedimentation hence they think when the solid matter reaches equilibrium, no more AgCl(k) dissolves in the solution and no precipitation is formed as seen in fig 1. Students who think this way capture this idea from textbook pictures that depict the state of equilibrium as an end where everything comes to a standstill.  Another reason is that some students liken this phenomenon to equations they observe in daily life e.g. like a see-saw or the arms of a scale. They conclude that when both sides are in a balance there is an equality therefore an equilibrium. Well, does that apply to solutions when a solvent is in equilibrium with the solid matter. Does that mean everything has come to a halt at the state of equilibrium? In fact, both dissolution and precipitation continues at the state of equilibrium in saturated solutions (we can´t talk about an equilibrium in the case of unsaturated solutions).

Fig 1 shows that AgCl(k) continues to dissolve at the state of equilibrium hence the formation of Ag+ and Cl- ions. Meanwhile, Ag+ and Cl- ions bind together forming AgCl(k) solid. The state of equilibrium is reached when dissolution and settling speeds are equal. In other words, at the state of equilibrium some solid matter keeps dissolving while some solid matter settles. When the speeds of these two phonemena are equal there is EQUILIBRIUM. Here is an example, you have probably seen the moving walkways at the entrance of Ankaray (Ankara Intercity Terminal Administration). Walkways on either side are used by incoming and leaving passengers. When the travel speed of incoming and leaving passengers on these walkways are equal no increase is observed in the number of passengers. In other words, some leave and some join continually. As a result, we can say that nothing stops at the state of chemical equilibrium and that both dissolution and settling continue.

Let´s take a look at what´s going on in Iraq and Syria.

Kurds: They rose to power and have become the de facto administrators of the vast regions of these two countries. They have armies trained by the West and they use American weapons. On paper America is an ally of Turkey via NATO. Yet, they backed the formation of Kurdistan which has long been a major threat for Turkey. Turkey has been fighting with the Kurdish seperatists for ages and all her allies know the country´s concerns and policies.

ISIS: We are talking about a major military power with unprecedented fire power and organization. This organization runs on tremendous amounts of money coming from all sorts of illegal channels and trades. The question is who created ISIS? Whose pawn are they? 

Turkey: Turkey has a long border with both countries and it directly suffers the consequences of the war. Turkey has so far accepted the largest number of refugees. She even let them travel around the country or find jobs where some Western governments were reluctantly offering to accept 800 or so of them.

America: America belongs here because they consider themselves as the world police. They have a right to invade, divide, partition sovereign nations just because they can do that. Let us not talk about moral values here. It is just a power game that takes place just because America wants a large chunk from the wealths of smaller nations.

One day, this will change there will be a new super power. Maybe China or God knows who. When that happens American people will remember the old days just like many Turks remember the Ottoman Empire. In this world, there is no lasting alliance or friendship.

You are welcome. Good luck with your studies.