Thank you Carla.

I could not have put it better myself....



JOANNE
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I am also in a English/Turkish relationship. When I was stationed in Turkey, I met a turkish lady. I too had my suspicions why she was interested in me. Was it just for a VISA? I have come to find out NO - it isn't. As she has asked me to leave America and come live with her in Turkey. I also have found that she doesn't want to marry a turkish man as there isn't much respect. Turkish women are raised to pretty much accept everything the turkish man does. I value the fact that she knows that I will equally respect her and her family. I plan on returning later this year or early next to marry -

Love happens - and it can be very beautiful.

BTW - I really look forward to living in Turkey - as I am ready to leave America -

Turkey is a Very Beautiful Country -

life is not a game and we have a short life. we cant know when will we leave this world maybe now or tomorrow. we must take it seriously. Love once and forever.

I had a serious realtionship with a foreign girl few years ago (Im turkish).our relationship took along time.but then she had to go to her country and she insisted from me to move her country but I didnt accepted coz I was at the middle of my master's education I said her to wait but everything went bad and our relationship finished coz of distance.money and spending time together are so important to countinue this kind of relationship.you should visit her/hm often and you should not be jelaous
now I think that ı did right coz she could say good bye to me after she wanna have her own life.so if you do so many thing to live with her/him you should think so much...coz it can be really difficult to start again whe you lose her/his..

I had a serious realtionship with a foreign girl few years ago (Im turkish).our relationship took along time.but then she had to go to her country and she insisted from me to move her country but I didnt accepted coz I was at the middle of my master's education I said her to wait but everything went bad and our relationship finished coz of distance.money and spending time together are so important to countinue this kind of relationship.you should visit her/hm often and you should not be jelaous
now I think that ı did right coz she could say good bye to me after she wanna have her own life.so if you do so many thing to live with her/him you should think so much...coz it can be really difficult to start again whe you lose her/his..

well...it is hard for both sides i think..but then again my hubby is here in england with me..not in turkey
BUT YES I DO SOMETIMES question his motives...because of stories i read..but i do agreee that some women's stupidity plays a part in this..hello if u have only known him for a few days how can he love u??!! obviously he doesnt!!! with my hubby he is sometimes he is an idiot and other times he is nice just like men everywhere it si not country specific i think..therefore the moral of the story is..it is not turkish-english relationships but more like whether or not u actually know the person that u are supposedly in love with
if u r gullible enough to fall for players lines..this will happen anywhere in the world and is no different than a man from your own country trying to make u think that he loves u just 2 have sex with u,,
Ending on a high note however,I have come close to death twice this year..and hubby proved his weight in gold any day of the year

yes ,it is true but many turkish guy having relationship with ohers to have a visa and accommadation in Eu.when they have reached it ,then they left them,I have heard these so many times and it is not good for other turkish who love his girl.

our relationship may be false but she was so unhappy when I said her goodbye and she tried to go back and start again but I have never gone back ,look at forward all the time.
in that time she used to love me so much and she was right she wanted me with her.I have never accused of her.but I have think that if she says me goodbye,I would loose so many things in turkey...I just wanted her when everything is alright..but it didnt worked...I did so many things in turkey and EU after our relationship ended.I think she would proud of me if she knows them.

I am amazed that this topic has actually been running continuously since January. It is nice that people can share opinions and views on their apporaches to relationships.


If anyone is curious what happened... well put it this way, everything happens for a reason and the reason we ended was a good reason. I now am a happier person, of course having fun with my life and still.. he never put me off turkey. We cut our contact and only have spoke once since we ended... maybe 2 months ago on msn where he said, 'i miss speaking with you laura.' It was nothing I took to heart because it was his own loss in the first place... and now I realise it wasn't the relationship I hoped for.

The sad thing is, one of my friends is in the same situation I was this time 8 months ago.. but she cannot realise the bad side of things. She already split up with one turkish boy.. and went to another.. and 2 months at a time went to see him. I am happy for her of course if things work out.. but deep down I feel he is not a trustworthy man, I know him and I know his capabilites, especially as he is best friends with my ex.

Lastly, I have just come back from turkey for the first time since my relationship ended with Musti. I was a bit upset at first to think I wouldnt see him but soon enough I made new friends.. turkish.. georgian.. etc.. and I realised there are plently more '' 'turks' in the sea.'' hehe I am only joking but yeh.. I definitely realised that when our relationship ended.. it was defnitely the best thing for me.

laura, that is so good to hear. i think that is the only thing that we can really do once a relationship ends... move on.

i hope things work out for you.