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Turkish /English relationships
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16 Jul 2006 Sun 06:13 pm |
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Quoting grCherry:
hoped i ve been helpful and you liked the analysis. 
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Well, you were very much helpful,ty
And let me say this for a relationship to work even between two persons from the same country,they must listen to each other very well,so how about if they were from a strange countries,or a different culture as well,that would be much harder
in my opinion they need to understand the people first,and the way they think,the culture,so they will be able to understand eachother
And here is a little bit different than you have posted earlier,so i never saw it this way before
And thank you for sharing it
Here,in Egypt we have a very strong family ties too,i guess it is something we share all the mediterranean's people
As so we share it with Türkler too,other with so many things too,for the long time we'd lived together
that is why i asked this Question
Here,it is kind of acceptable for men to marry a foreigner woman,families accept it too,not that it happened that much ,and they surly preffer their sons would marry a native woman,cause she will understand them better,and understand their needs and thoughts better than a foreigner one,but if it is the son's choice,then it is ok,as long as the woman is a good one,care for him and respect him,and his culture,love him,and know how to deal with his family,they will love her too
Maybe it was different in the past,when families used to marry their son's off,to make sure he marry a suitable girl for him and for his family as well,same standerd
At those times it wasn't much acceptable even for men to marry a foreigner
And for daughters,well lets say it was kind of out of the question
But now things have been changed,no one marry anyone off,but at same time,they must take the family approval upon the marriage
No matter if it was a son or a daughter,parents approval is something very important
But they are keen to accept it when their son's choose to marry a foreigner rather than when their daughter choose it
İt is a bit harder when it comes to their daughters,they don't accept it easly for the daughters to marry a foreigner,out of their fear ,and care for her,they don't want her to end up with a boken heart,broken marriage,and kids in between in a foreigner land too,he would take her away from them to his homeland,and they won't be there to support her as well
As for the son,he can take care of himself,but for a daughter,they fear much
How would he treat her ??will she has same respect that she has it here between her family or not ??
How would he respect her culture as well ?
Would he see to her rights as well as she see his or not?
How would she manage with him? in a foreign country,between his family??
Lots of questions and lots of worries for the daughter
But again,as they say Love can conquer all,and gain the approval of a family too,if she really wants it
Specially if it was a right choice and,he was really a good man
And if not...she would still has their support,she is still their daughter
So,is it same Türkiye'de ,or different,and how different?
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16 Jul 2006 Sun 06:53 pm |
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16 Jul 2006 Sun 08:09 pm |
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Quoting susie k: I think that all parents worry about their children regardless of where they are from, and would prefer it if they married their 'own'. |
EXACTLY!
Think it would be any different with other families of other nationalites?
I come from Latin roots and my culture is sooooo very similar to Turkish, eventhough I was born and raised in the USA. I still follow my Latin culture and respect our family morals and values, so not all foreign women are EASY!
I know that many here that may not agree with me on this, but my mother has always taught me to treat my husband with respect and to honor him always, to treat him as if he was king in his own home and to be by his side always as the faithful and obedient wife. To this day my mother has always been like this with my father and their love grew strong over the years and they have just celebrated their 52year Anniversary!
Now I'am also following my mother in the same way she was with my father with my Turkish husband  and I'am happy for it. Even at first meeting my husband he said he had seen in me similar turkish qualities that are in turkish women what a sweetie he is for saying this!
But going back to the original topic of this post was the ditance, for me I will never regret going to Turkey and would never have let distance become the reason for losing the most wonderful man that is my husband now
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18 Jul 2006 Tue 11:42 am |
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04 Aug 2006 Fri 02:18 am |
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Comment from a Canadian woman loving a Turkish man...
It IS hard... the distance, in the beginning, seemed impossible to overcome. However, if you truly love someone, ANY difficulty CAN be overcome...
The people who developed the Internet, MSN Messenger, web cams, microphones, cell phones, etc., etc. have my heartfelt gratitude!
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04 Aug 2006 Fri 03:56 am |
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I have just joined this website and I have to say I was so happy to see that there are others in the same situation that I am in and have made it work. I am an American living in the state of Pennsylvania in the USA and I have already visited my boyfriend in Turkey twice and have my airline tickets for a visit in December. We met in America and over time the relationship grew. Then he had to return to Turkey and I really didn't know if we would continue to talk or if I would accept his invitation to visit him. So like Loveprague said you have to take a chance. I did and I am so happy I did. That first visit was one of the best times in my life.
I can definitely relate to astara999,my boyfriend is younger than me too and we travel about the same distance. I hope that the relationship that I have with my boyfriend is one that can stand the test of time. I feel that it is. I also trust him. I really don't believe that he would cheat. I may be totally naive, but I feel that he loves me and will wait. It really is hard being apart from the one that you truly love. There are definitely days that I just start to cry because I miss him so much and don't think I can stand the distance anymore. It always seems that when it gets that bad, that is when he will email me or call me. It is good to know that other people are experiencing the same thing. Thank you for letting me talk.
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17 Aug 2006 Thu 10:25 am |
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17 Aug 2006 Thu 10:32 am |
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20 Aug 2006 Sun 11:00 pm |
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Aww that's beautiful, sounds like real true love, bless you both. Distance is no boundary to the heart, it's so painful to be away from the one you love but if they are within your soul then that distance can never take them away.
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20 Aug 2006 Sun 11:06 pm |
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Thank you Carla.
I could not have put it better myself....
JOANNE
XXXXXX
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