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Turkish /English relationships
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05 Sep 2006 Tue 02:37 am |
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laura, that is so good to hear. i think that is the only thing that we can really do once a relationship ends... move on.
i hope things work out for you.
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05 Sep 2006 Tue 08:24 am |
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hey people,a friend of me used to say that many foreign girls are fall in love with Turkey not for our guys?do u think so?
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05 Sep 2006 Tue 04:29 pm |
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I really did not want to reply to this subject. I can only say that many English women in Side, I know. They think tey are married to Turkish men and then, without warning they are out on the street with any daughters. Sons are special and stay with Babağım.
My friend ibo told me that if a Turkish man marries a foreigner then the family will disown him ....unless it is a scam to get money.
Time and time my friend s in Side have had to help women to rebuild their lives. Having said all of this my friend Anna Maria is married to Hyri and they seem to be happy and are in England but Hyri thinks A M not to be a good wife because she goes out on her own at night.
In conclusion perhap s there are differences that are dictated by culture and we can't change what is ingrained in our minds from childhood.
Jo-Anne
P.S. Older ladies .....please don't part with any money you cant afford as some Turkish men are so poor that they may be too tempted.
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05 Nov 2006 Sun 07:37 am |
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Wow, this is all very interesting, much positive and negative regarding turkish men... i have met only one online... he is rather charming.. hence, why I am here. However, he doesn't claim to be poor or in need of money, and in actuality owns his own gallary... this was confirmed by his cousin without my asking, as well as having seen pictures. I have only talked to him a few times, but we seem to have a connection of sorts. However, he was recently in an automobile accident, and had been in the hospital for a few weeks...  I am eagerly awaiting his recovery so that I can talk to him again.
He states that his parents died in a car accident, so I don't suppose there would be any issue with his family... however i don't plan to run to turkey to meet him yet. In fact, he has already offered to come here on his own... interestingly.
I have done quite a bit of research on Turkey since meeting him, and honestly i can say I have fallen in love with the country. It is beautiful, and the culture is one to be highly regarded.
I am just wondering, if anyone supposes there would be alterior motive here. If he has his own money, then I am presuming a visa would not be an issue, thus no need for my help in that regard...
He seems very romantic, as I have read, most Turkish men are.. very sweet.
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10 Nov 2006 Fri 02:07 pm |
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10 Nov 2006 Fri 02:20 pm |
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Quoting Kimberley: hi everyone, i would just like to say that i am in a turkish/english relationship, and we have managed to overcome many difficulties; distance and cultural differences to name a few. but now, four and a half years on, our relationship is quite strong. so if you really want to be together, it is possible! |
Kimberley
i am so pleased to read that your relationship is still strong , i would say 98% of all the people i have told about me getting married to a Turkish national all have resiverations about the reason why my partner wants to marry me however i am 43 and have never been married he is 45 and has divorced after an arranged marriage when he was younger and neither of us are jumping into this light heartedly and it was me who asked him ! there are some Turks who mary for love and not for a easy way into the UK but at the same time i know several that have paid in order to marry . I agree with you a mixed culteral relationship isnt easy but as long as both parties are willing to work on it the culteral differences these problems can be overcome and can become a problem of the past , we cannot blame either side for finding each others way of life hard to accept but my partner has lived and worked in the UK and i have visited and stayed with his very tradtional family and so we both have adjusted and now our relationship has blossomed .One example he couldnt cope with the thought of me having dogs that acutally live in the house ! he considered it utter filth but now he realises that this is what English people do they have pets and he is now all over them like a rash and yet in the begining he couldnt stand being in the same room as them.It was just something he had never seen before and certainly all animals where he comes from live outside and he just couldnt get his head around the fact we actually lived in the same place as animals lol
I find it so very sad to hear that a true relationship has had to break up because of distance but if you are able to visit each other as often as you can and sort out immigration paperwork it can be acheived but its time consuming and costly but so is any marriage but it can be done.
Kind Regards
Jackie
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10 Nov 2006 Fri 02:34 pm |
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Hi Friends,
Talking about long distance relations - that too with a Turk. Who could know this better than me? I am a married woman. Yet I love this man, who is also married. We met on the net in the year 2001. Till now we have not met in person. Yet we continue to be madly in love with each other. He has said he will come to me soon. This word 'soon' I have been hearing after one year of our friendship. Somehow for some reasons he could not make it till now but I continue to believe and trust him. Sometimes I have my doubts then I stop being in touch. However, from his side he has never allowed this to happen and calls me if he does not find me online. Tell me friends, would this man be so full of me if he was playing a game? I dont think so. Hence I would not like to generalise that one should be careful of Turkish guys. This is untrue. One should just be careful of one's inner self and one's inner confidence. Men & lovers are the same all over the world. I would not like Turkish men to be thought of as tricky and cunning. They are just God's creation (like any other men from any other country) and should be looked upon in the same way.
cheers !
Jessica
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11 Nov 2006 Sat 11:06 pm |
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11 Nov 2006 Sat 11:14 pm |
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Quoting Mandy_XxX: hey guys, ive been reading the forum and noticed lots of young girls have been commenting on the fact they have turkish boyfriends, i am NOT opposed to this due to the fact ive been to turkey 3 times and am going a 4th this june, but everytime ive been there ive met a turkish guy who is sexy and wants to marry me. most of these people only want a visa,and know us girls will get flattered and might agree to marry them, but some are genuine enough, for example, in july 2005 when i went i met lots of turkih boys and men who paid me lots of attention (which i loved) and i really took 2 1 of them who i still keep in contact, yes, he works in a little bag shop in the summer but this is not his life he studies philosophy, psychology and russian at uni and is going to make something of himself. he is planning to visit me after the summer season this year as he is doing his exams when i go in june, and he has plans to get engaged and finally married after he does his national service in 2 years time. im really proud of him but i really want to warn you that most turkish people are really sweet and go out their ways to satisfy u, but some are quite dodgy, a few men (around mid 30s) kept trying to look down my sisters top and up her skirt, and shes only 12 i mean this is repulsive, but i dont have anything against the place, its amazine and i love it there. good luck to all the girls who have there long distance relationships and i hpe all goes well, but please please be careful. Luv mandz XXXXX
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I totally agree lol x the young women might think their lovers love them but can you imagine how many other girls a year they say the same thing to.......??
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12 Nov 2006 Sun 11:45 am |
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I think you cannot make a difference in nationality about good or bad men and women. Every country has its nice people and its creeps. "My" Turkish ex-boyfriend happen to be the latter, though I thought he was in love because of his efforts to see me. That does not mean all Turkish guys are creeps. Some men are players and some women like that, again it does not mean they are all like that.
I've read a lot of stories about long-distance relationships, some that last now already seven years or longer; some ending up in marriage and living in Turkey or in the country of the spouse.
The only thing I can say: keep your feet on the ground even though clouds are fun to be in.
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12 Nov 2006 Sun 01:32 pm |
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Quoting Jo_Anne:
P.S. Older ladies .....please don't part with any money you cant afford as some Turkish men are so poor that they may be too tempted. |
even if i has the money, i would not part with it. If they asked it would be the end of our friendship.
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