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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:22 pm |
I was talking with a friend who can't sit on the floor anymore. She used to be able to, but not having done it for a long time, now she can't.
Living with others requires practice. If you live alone, or with your mate, you don't learn to make accomodations.
When it's something you do all the time, you don't notice it.
all the lonely people
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:22 pm |
In laws????!!! I call them "out laws"
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:24 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: In laws????!!! I call them "out laws" |
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:25 pm |
Quoting alameda: I was talking with a friend who can't sit on the floor anymore. She used to be able to, but not having done it for a long time, now she can't.
Living with others requires practice. If you live alone, or with your mate, you don't learn to make accomodations.
When it's something you do all the time, you don't notice it. |
Cnm, this is a bit sanctimooooooonious... Have you considered being a preacher?
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:28 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Quoting Elisabeth: Wouldn't it be nice if we took care of people because we love them dearly....and not out of a sense of obligation. My parents are older. They live about 2 miles away from my home. Everyday I stop and check on them. We have meals together at least twice a week. We go shopping together BUT I go home to MY HOUSE and they go home to THEIR HOUSE. I love them very much and I feel very compelled to take care of them....but having them live with me is not something that I would enjoy. If one of them was very ill, maybe that would change, but I think that is a little different. |
That is very well said Elisabeth! The society should value parents when they get older, but not FORCE the children to do everything for their parents out of the sense of subordination. In eastern mentality older people get a lot of privilages just because of their age, it is very common for them to mistreat the younger ones and boss around (just look at alpha as a good example, though he also has a male privilage being raised in a staunch patriarchy). It is sooooooooo anti-self-esteem for children and young people, they are NOT valued appropriately, they are treated as slaves for the older ones. It's a real hierarchy. |
What do you do if you had terrible parents? What if you were beaten or abused by them? I know people who have been in that situation too. They felt no obligation to take care of their parents. I can't say I blame them. Compassion is not obligatory.
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:28 pm |
oh, no
we have enough TC imams!
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:28 pm |
Quoting catwoman: sanctimooooooonious |
Sorry but I have copyright on that word
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:31 pm |
Quoting catwoman: Quoting alameda: I was talking with a friend who can't sit on the floor anymore. She used to be able to, but not having done it for a long time, now she can't.
Living with others requires practice. If you live alone, or with your mate, you don't learn to make accomodations.
When it's something you do all the time, you don't notice it. |
Cnm, this is a bit sanctimooooooonious... Have you considered being a preacher? |
sanctimony=Feigned piety or righteousness; hypocritical devoutness or high-mindedness
I think your choice of words is not accurate. What I've stated is a fact.
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:31 pm |
Quoting AEnigma III: In laws????!!! I call them "out laws" |
Do you have regular shoot outs with yours?
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:31 pm |
Quoting Elisabeth: What do you do if you had terrible parents? What if you were beaten or abused by them? I know people who have been in that situation too. They felt no obligation to take care of their parents. I can't say I blame them. Compassion is not obligatory. |
Sooooo right! From my own experience, if you had abusive parents, nobody knows about it, it is covered up most of the time . The children grow up severely disadvantaged, with a very low self esteem, barely finish school or become criminals later in life... They don't ever see a psychologist and most of the time they internalize the abuse. And by the way, most parents beat their children at some point.
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13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:32 pm |
They got thrown to the garbage along with my ex
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