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27 Jan 2006 Fri 11:17 pm |
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Quoting mltm:
it's really hard to sit and discuss on a serious matter, to discuss a deep subject, to approach the psychological or philosophical sides of a subject. They usually have a superficial understanding of the world, their words of love are very stereotyped. Under their nice words, I wonder how much they are aware of the deepness of their love. They don't use a creative mind about anything. They usually don't do judgement, if something is like this, it's like this, and can't be changed. They don't use their logic much. |
Well, I am sure that you have a bigger sample for your 'statistic report' than me or any other non Turkish woman can have. But still, considering my limited knowledge of turkish society and mankind, I have to say that I disagree with you.
Maybe I was lucky enough to have known only nice Turks. I m not talking about boyfriends. I m talking about simple friends, males and females. But as this post has to do with falling in love, I ll add my experience of my relationship with a turk as well.
What i know for sure, is that those people had very high and strong principles. Believe me, I ve tested them. Their families were the centre of their universe. Even those who had troubles in their marriages, they were still honoring their wives and never insulted them in any way. I had very long and interesting conversations with them. About everything. Life, politics, education, life style and so much more. And I was impressed by their deep thinking and serious way to look life. I was comparing them with my friends here. Couldn't help myself, it was happening subconciously. No similarity. My turkish friends were better by far. And although in a different country, far away from here, they were the ones who stood by me and for me when i needed it most. (By 'they' I mean all of them. Both friends and lover. )
I think that most people, react to us in the same way we approach them. If we are friendly, they are friendly. If we are polite they can't be rude. If our bahaviour yells 'back off, i m better than you' then they just quit on us. And so on. 
I also disagree with u here:
Quoting mltm: Ok, for flirting, turkish men might be good, but the same men that you have fun with are definitly not good for looking forward to a steady relationship.
Because to have some fun or to spend some time and to flirt a bit are not the same things as to have a serious relationship. |
Ofcourse fooling around and having fun only, is not the same with creating a serious relationship. But who says that a serious relationship can't develop between two people who have fun and flirt eachother at first? How can somebody be a future perfect husband if he hasn't been ur best and funniest friend first and always?...
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