Quoting Gizli Yuz:

okay I AM writing Mltm's points:

1)...I know that this tradition still exists, but do not tell that it exists even in the high cultured families, because this is not the case. On the contrary, such things are seen backward by the modern society in Turkey..
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2)...'there wont be any return from your husband' s house to here' is quite backward for real Istanbul descendants or just for any family who has left the village culture behind at least 2 generations before.you show yourself a victim of these backward traditions.


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3)...Whatever the society thinks, the real modern people do not care. This is what modern turkish families including mine thinks. What I oppose is, you use wrong words which shows that even the most modern in Turkey have village mentalities...

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5)...City is another thing, village is another thing. In modern Turkey, primitive village traditions should be eliminated. I respect the culture, but urbanization is another thing. ... I oppose when a Turk shows that Turkey highly consists of this backward things. She shows that she's "modern" and her family is "higly modern" but she's still a victim. Maybe, she can be a refrugee in another country if she thinks that even the modern in Turkey does this. This Turkey also consists of people who have opposed these things, that's what we call the modern Turkey...

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