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60.       AEnigma III
0 posts
 13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:32 pm

They got thrown to the garbage along with my ex

61.       catwoman
8933 posts
 13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:32 pm

Quoting AEnigma III:

Quoting catwoman:

sanctimooooooonious



Sorry but I have copyright on that word


Sorry, but I'm an anarchist and I hate your capitalistic greedy laws.

62.       AEnigma III
0 posts
 13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:34 pm

Quoting catwoman:

Sorry, but I'm an anarchist and I hate your capitalistic greedy laws.


Hate it all you like but you owe me $20

63.       catwoman
8933 posts
 13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:36 pm

Quoting AEnigma III:

Quoting catwoman:

Sorry, but I'm an anarchist and I hate your capitalistic greedy laws.


Hate it all you like but you owe me $20


I will sue you first before I give you any money! lol

64.       AEnigma III
0 posts
 13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:38 pm

Quoting catwoman:

I will sue you first before I give you any money! lol



You bed ameriken

65.       catwoman
8933 posts
 13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:39 pm

Quoting AEnigma III:

Quoting catwoman:

I will sue you first before I give you any money! lol



You bed ameriken


I can be bed, but I always win...

66.       elham
579 posts
 13 Feb 2008 Wed 10:50 pm

Quoting Elisabeth:


Wouldn't it be nice if we took care of people because we love them dearly....and not out of a sense of obligation. My parents are older. They live about 2 miles away from my home. Everyday I stop and check on them. We have meals together at least twice a week. We go shopping together BUT I go home to MY HOUSE and they go home to THEIR HOUSE. I love them very much and I feel very compelled to take care of them....but having them live with me is not something that I would enjoy. If one of them was very ill, maybe that would change, but I think that is a little different.


well done
I love my mother in law
she assist me in bringing up my children cause she have good experience in it more than me and my kids love her too much

67.       femme_fatal
0 posts
 14 Feb 2008 Thu 06:44 pm

Quoting alameda:


No, not evil femme...just misguided. If you saw what I saw, you would reconsider things. I saw many who lived alone in their apartments and had to have meals delivered to them. I went to visit them to give them some companionship. They had children, but they had moved many miles away and never saw them. They were so lonely. To me it was very sad.

You do have a point in the way some elders rule over the young ones. They can be very dictatorial. It's something one has to be very gentle with.

Then there were the actors, singers and other artists who came to NY to be a star, but never did. They were now old and alone. The apartments were a mess. Instead of looking like homes, they looked like some cave they dragged things into. Garments strewn all over, dirty dishes in the sink. One man who lived in my building was a pack rat and his apartment was so crowded with things he could only get into the door a little way.

This is not an uncommon thing. It seems to be a syndrome associated with living alone.



it always depends on what you are. you can be an annoying old junk or a nice kind oldie.

i wish i didnt live alone when im old, but at the same time dont wanna be a burden to my children.

a mess and dirty dishes in the sink isnt a great deal. i would wish the fate of dirty dishes over a tidy room of a snake.

living in clans is very poisonous, esp, when elders are patronising like you.

68.       alameda
3499 posts
 14 Feb 2008 Thu 07:32 pm

Quoting femme_fatal:

Quoting alameda:


No, not evil femme...just misguided. If you saw what I saw, you would reconsider things. I saw many who lived alone in their apartments and had to have meals delivered to them. I went to visit them to give them some companionship. They had children, but they had moved many miles away and never saw them. They were so lonely. To me it was very sad.

You do have a point in the way some elders rule over the young ones. They can be very dictatorial. It's something one has to be very gentle with.

Then there were the actors, singers and other artists who came to NY to be a star, but never did. They were now old and alone. The apartments were a mess. Instead of looking like homes, they looked like some cave they dragged things into. Garments strewn all over, dirty dishes in the sink. One man who lived in my building was a pack rat and his apartment was so crowded with things he could only get into the door a little way.

This is not an uncommon thing. It seems to be a syndrome associated with living alone.



it always depends on what you are. you can be an annoying old junk or a nice kind oldie.

i wish i didnt live alone when im old, but at the same time dont wanna be a burden to my children.

a mess and dirty dishes in the sink isnt a great deal. i would wish the fate of dirty dishes over a tidy room of a snake.

living in clans is very poisonous, esp, when elders are patronising like you.




You have some very good points there femme...in particular here "i would wish the fate of dirty dishes over a tidy room of a snake.".......but how about a beautiful tidy room with fresh aromatic flowers and loving companions who care for you?

Of course living in clans can be poisonous...and believe me, I've seen and experienced that too. They are not all that way though. Poisonous clans do not survive, they poison themselves to death.

As for not wanting to live alone when one is old, how about being alone when you are young? Isn't sharing with a loved one better? Life is a struggle. Nothing is easy, but unless you have practice and guidance, things are harder. If you are alone when you are young, you will probably be alone when you are old.

Nobody wants to be a burden on their children, at least most do not. I know I don't want to be a burden on anyone. One would hope to gain the skills so as to not be a burden on anyone. To further that goal, wouldn't being in close proximity to others give more skill in not being a burden?

I do not intend to be patronizing, if that is the impression you get, please excuse my inadequate communication skills. I'm just telling you what I've seen and experienced. You have seen one extreme, I have seen both and been on both sides. Now I see wisdom in staying close to ones family if at all possible.

You can choose your friends. With your family you have no choice. You only keep your friends as long as you are agreeable. Even then, most "friendships" are opportunistic in as much as they are based on mutual interests and geographic location. If it becomes unpleasant or too much trouble, friends depart.

With family, you are bound by blood. Like it or not, even if you hate your family, legally you are still bound to them. If you die, they decide what will happen to what's left of you and your assets. If you become incapacitated, they will decide what's to be done with you. You can leave a living will, but it can be contested.

69.       Roswitha
4132 posts
 14 Feb 2008 Thu 07:59 pm

Indeed very wise observations, Alameda!

70.       Suyu
78 posts
 13 May 2010 Thu 12:12 am

I say that a couple should live alone without other people. It doesnt matter if the person is nice or not still the situation takes away your freedom. It is not really "your home" anymore.

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