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24 Jun 2008 Tue 10:14 pm |
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How disappointing to hear. 
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 10:25 pm |
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Quoting thehandsom: Quoting Elisabeth: Quoting alameda: Quoting catwoman: Alameda, thanks for the description, it was very interesting. However.... I'd never want such a traditional wedding myself, in fact, it would be pain to even participate in it... I think. :-S |
Well catwoman, I don't think anyone will force you to attend a traditional Turkish wedding.
I forgot to mention that it is also tradtional forthe groom to present the bride with a home fully furnished with "everything". That is: all the dishes, couches, carpets...everything.
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Somebody forgot to tell my husband about this!  |
Calm down bed amerikan!!
Present "a home fully furnished with everything" for the bride is as mytical as virginity of the brides.. |
Well, then, I guess neither one of us got what we were supposed to!!! 
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 10:46 pm |
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hee hee very funny thread.... and rather informative too
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 11:45 pm |
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Quoting Elisabeth:
Well, then, I guess neither one of us got what we were supposed to!!! |
then you have very good reason to annul your marriage Lis! 
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25 Jun 2008 Wed 12:40 am |
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my kuzen that's getting married next month is very lucky she's having a house built for her. My uncle got maried last year and he got him and he's bride a home and got everything for them. furniture, washing machine etc etc and my uncle - dad's brother isn't wealthy.
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25 Jun 2008 Wed 09:12 pm |
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In a traditional Turkish wedding, in fact even very minimally traditional wedding, the groom must make a very hefty investment in the marriage.
There is none of this, "I love you, let's get married" type of activity. If a man wants to marry a woman, he is expected to show some sort of real bread and butter commitment in the form of dowry. He has to present her with gifts, get her father's permission, his parents permission. He has to supply a home and furnishings.
When they are married drums are pounded all over to announce to all they are married to what can literally be thousands of people.
At the end of this, he KNOWS he is married and has made a real commitment. His honor, his family's honor are very invested in making the marriage work.
When a Turkish man marries a Western woman, there is no such ritual to impress on him the extent of the commitment he has entered in. In fact I think exactly what the whole thing means is somewhat confusing to both the bride and groom as to exactly what they have committed themselves to. I wonder if this could be at the root of some of the Western/Turkish marital problems we see here.
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25 Jun 2008 Wed 09:36 pm |
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Quoting alameda:
When a Turkish man marries a Western woman, there is no such ritual to impress on him the extent of the commitment he has entered in. In fact I think exactly what the whole thing means is somewhat confusing to both the bride and groom as to exactly what they have committed themselves to. I wonder if this could be at the root of some of the Western/Turkish marital problems we see here.
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Isn't a misunderstanding of expectations the root of all marital problems???
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25 Jun 2008 Wed 10:16 pm |
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Quoting Elisabeth: .......Isn't a misunderstanding of expectations the root of all marital problems??? |
That's what I've heard. If we only knew what each other really expected and could deliver most problems would be over. 
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28 Jun 2008 Sat 03:54 pm |
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Quoting Rocco Siffredi: Quoting lady in red: Quoting Rocco Siffredi: kissing hands is a verification and announcement of having sex to the elder people? hahaha it's so funny. |
What do you know about Turkish weddings? You're Italian  |
what do you know about English weddings? you are a simple brit. tell us your wedding ceremony. we all want to listen you. grazie. |
Oh sorry - only just saw your post but then I wasn't expecting a reply! Pretty inane comment though - and, anyway, who said I was married??
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29 Jun 2008 Sun 01:31 am |
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Quoting lady in red: Quoting Rocco Siffredi: Quoting lady in red: Quoting Rocco Siffredi: kissing hands is a verification and announcement of having sex to the elder people? hahaha it's so funny. |
What do you know about Turkish weddings? You're Italian |
what do you know about English weddings? you are a simple brit. tell us your wedding ceremony. we all want to listen you. grazie. |
Oh sorry - only just saw your post but then I wasn't expecting a reply! Pretty inane comment though - and, anyway, who said I was married?? |
if you find my comment is pretty inane, why did you send me a message and saying "Hi" to me? i really don't care about you. grazie.
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29 Jun 2008 Sun 02:05 am |
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Quoting Rocco Siffredi: if you find my comment is pretty inane, why did you send me a message and saying "Hi" to me? i really don't care about you. grazie. |
Maybe she liked your pictures and thought 'he writes inane posts, I suspect it'll be easy to deal with him'?  Don't you see it? She said she's not married, then wrote you a 'Hi' message, now she's fooling around here with you... Just an idea...
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