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Turkish Marriage
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 05:27 am |
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Quoting Elisabeth: Quoting sonunda: Quoting Elisabeth: When I was 14 marriage hadn't even been invented yet!  |
I have a friend in Turkey who maried when he was 22 and his wife was 14. It actually makes me feel a little queasy- a bit like child abuse. She got pregnant at 15 and had her son at 16.The son is now 16 and she also now has a 2 year old. |
Funny how humans have not evolved much in 13.7 years. Marriage before 30 is just not very fun!  |
my bf's mom got married when she was 15, and his dad was about 17 or 18. I told him that maybe they loved each other a lot to get married at a young age. He said no. It was arranged. He is 22 now, turning 23... and he thinks he's not so young to get married.
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 10:20 am |
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Quoting Rocco Siffredi: kissing hands is a verification and announcement of having sex to the elder people? hahaha it's so funny. |
What do you know about Turkish weddings? You're Italian 
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 11:49 am |
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Quoting lady in red: Quoting Rocco Siffredi: kissing hands is a verification and announcement of having sex to the elder people? hahaha it's so funny. |
What do you know about Turkish weddings? You're Italian |
And your previous comment is just sick Rocco, not all men are pornstars you know!
And secondly, I never said that the idea behind hand-kissing is like that. Because we all know it is a tribute of 'respect'. But it is just a secon notion that comes to it when you first see the parents after your wedding night. I obviously didn't mention the blood-bez, but hey, why don't you give them a kiss and proudly show your a virgin (probably with some fake blood because we all know that it is the minority that bleeds  .
Alameda: my friends didnt say such a thing because I think that way. They are scared to have sex, because it is such a tabu. They think it is something dirty, and something only the male can have pleasure from. My friends literal words were 'Babacım, seni ellerinden öpeyim, sikildim diye'. Ofcourse she said this laughing, but just so you know it is not just the 'bed westener' idea that kissing hands after your marriage can feel a bit uncomfy 
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 11:53 am |
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Quoting thehandsom: After all these traditional rituals, please dont forget to give the blood stained bed linen to the people waiting behind your bedroom door in order to go full monty on the issue and tell your kids proudly in the future that you had a proper traditional wedding. |
A friend of mine told a story that she was preparing for her wedding and had packed her suitcase for the night she was gonna stay in a hotel with her newly wed husband after the wedding. All the time people were trying to open her bag and she got angry, because she was stressed and already had packed her overnightbag long time ago! After a while she heard the whispers of the women, to later discover in the bedroom they had put about 10 handmade cloths for her to proove her virginity They are still in her house to do the cleaning and she has never used them for anything else.
I think it is sort of sick though that your mom is making handmade cloths, knowing that her daughter is going to have sex  The funny part is that they gave 10
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 12:12 pm |
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Quoting Deli_kizin: They are scared to have sex, because it is such a tabu. They think it is something dirty, and something only the male can have pleasure from. |
If it's a taboo then no wonder they think so, and probably that's why men benefit from it - they don't have to try to make their partners feel good, they just do their thing and that's all. Poor girls...
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I think it is sort of sick though that your mom is making handmade cloths, knowing that her daughter is going to have sex The funny part is that they gave 10 |
Perhaps that was in case the husband didn't succeed the first nine times
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 12:25 pm |
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I have a friend who is a gynecologist. She says most of her business comes from performing 'sewing up' operations on the bride-to-be in order for her to bleed on her wedding night and make the groom believe she was a virgin... HOW SICK 
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 12:28 pm |
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Quoting Daydreamer: If it's a taboo then no wonder they think so, and probably that's why men benefit from it - they don't have to try to make their partners feel good, they just do their thing and that's all. Poor girls...
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I think that is where the bleeding myth comes from!
Quoting Daydreamer: Perhaps that was in case the husband didn't succeed the first nine times |
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 12:30 pm |
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Quoting hobnob: I have a friend who is a gynecologist. She says most of her business comes from performing 'sewing up' operations on the bride-to-be in order for her to bleed on her wedding night and make the groom believe she was a virgin... HOW SICK |
+1!
In the Netherlands they have come up with something new: a bleeding pill. You swallow it, and half an hour afte ryouve taken it, a redish fluid that looks like blood (but isn't) comes out. You have to be careful though to take it the right time
I think this is better than sewing up, because that surely must hurt. But still I am against the distribution of this pill: it will confirm this idiot myth.
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 12:37 pm |
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Quoting Deli_kizin: Quoting hobnob: I have a friend who is a gynecologist. She says most of her business comes from performing 'sewing up' operations on the bride-to-be in order for her to bleed on her wedding night and make the groom believe she was a virgin... HOW SICK |
+1!
In the Netherlands they have come up with something new: a bleeding pill. You swallow it, and half an hour afte ryouve taken it, a redish fluid that looks like blood (but isn't) comes out. You have to be careful though to take it the right time
I think this is better than sewing up, because that surely must hurt. But still I am against the distribution of this pill: it will confirm this idiot myth. |
Wow, didn't realise there was anything like that in the Netherlands. I'm shocked. The whole thing is ridiculous- like you say, it's a myth (I certainly don't know anyone who bled- and i've asked many people ) and any guy who will only marry a virgin obviously isn't worth marrying anyway.
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 12:46 pm |
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Quoting hobnob: Wow, didn't realise there was anything like that in the Netherlands. I'm shocked. The whole thing is ridiculous- like you say, it's a myth |
Well it is not for the Dutch people itself, actually the number one medicine prescribed here is the anticonception pill and I know not even one girl above 17 who doesn't use it
İt is for the (muslim)foreigners community here and I think it has been invented partially after some honor killings but not sure about that.
Quoting hobnob: (I certainly don't know anyone who bled- and i've asked many people ) and any guy who will only marry a virgin obviously isn't worth marrying anyway. |
Same here!! But my opinion on this is that, as long as you are comfortable and not pressured and willing, nothing wrong happens. I guess the blood-myth stems from times that too young girls were married to a much older man and were either forced in it or just not comfortable. I can imagine it must either hurt or bleed then.
I hope this blood-practice will fade away soon, I can say that my Turkish girlfriends in Turkey are more informed on this matter than the Turkish ones who grew up here though!!
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 12:46 pm |
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if turkish girls had those pills i am sure there would be no virgin girl in turkey Really they do sex and everything naughty except intercourse... if you give them those pills their biggest problem will be solved
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