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Turkish Marriage
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:07 pm |
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Quoting sonunda: Quoting Elisabeth: When I was 14 marriage hadn't even been invented yet!  |
I have a friend in Turkey who maried when he was 22 and his wife was 14. It actually makes me feel a little queasy- a bit like child abuse. She got pregnant at 15 and had her son at 16.The son is now 16 and she also now has a 2 year old. |
Funny how humans have not evolved much in 13.7 years. Marriage before 30 is just not very fun! 
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:07 pm |
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Quoting Elisabeth: I was still trying to figure out how to get rid of my tail! |
Such a shame, it looked so good on you 
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:08 pm |
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Quoting Deli_kizin: Quoting Elisabeth: I was still trying to figure out how to get rid of my tail! |
Such a shame, it looked so good on you |
Well, when I married my Turkish husband...the villagers made me get rid of it...something about bad luck...you know how superstitious they can be...
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:15 pm |
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Quoting Elisabeth: Quoting Deli_kizin: Quoting Elisabeth: I was still trying to figure out how to get rid of my tail! |
Such a shame, it looked so good on you |
Well, when I married my Turkish husband...the villagers made me get rid of it...something about bad luck...you know how superstitious they can be... |
I suppose they didn't notice your webbed feet!
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:39 pm |
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Quoting hobnob: So they're going to get married in Turkey then? I can't tell you about traditional village weddings (but from what i've heard they are very different to city weddings). However, as I am getting married next year in a Turkish city (i'm English) I can tell you about this. In fact, nowadays modern Turkish weddings are becoming more and more like a typical English wedding- cake, confetti etc. They have the same kind of reception party as the English would just without the church bit obviously. Nowadays, the bride and groom call a councillor to come to the wedding venue (which is usually an outdoors restaurant or garden) who reads the vows in the same way a vicar would but you do this sitting down around a table and that person is in charge of all the legalities- signing the papers etc. It's common that at the wedding venue, an area is set out with rows of chairs like a church and the bride, groom, councillor and two witnesses do the vows etc at the front of the rows of chairs. Some people choose to sign the papers previous to the wedding and on the actual wedding day just focus on having fun like a reception party. Live music is also the norm. Plus, as many Turkish families are big, it is not common for the bride and groom to provide everyone with a sit down meal. For example, at our wedding we are expecting 350 people so we will just provide cake and soft drinks which is standard. As a gift, people always give gold. During the reception, the bride and groom stand while the guests walk past and attach some gold to the bride's clothes (and she wears a white sash where the gold can be attached). Bridesmaids, flower girls etc is rare as like I say the practice of an English church style wedding is relatively new. Hope this helps |
OMG, this kind of wedding ceremony is a bit shocking to me  although I'm sure it's nice and fun... but Polish weddings last from Saturday evening till Sunday morning, there is always lots of very good food and drinks, including alcohol and gifts are usually very valuable...
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:47 pm |
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I've been to a number of Turkish weddings. There are the modern "Salon" weddings and the village traditional ones.
"Salon" weddings are much more streamlined events and more formal, seeing as places are rented.
Traditional Turkish wedding are fabulous and very long events.
There is usually a large ornate engagement party months before the wedding. A civil marriage takes place before the traditional one, but the couple don't live together until the "traditional marriage" takes place.
The actual traditional wedding event takes at least 3 days.
Day one the bride and her entourage goes to the grooms home to visit. On this event regular, but special garments are worn and a Turkish flag hoisted high over the grooms village to announce to all who pass by that a marriage is being held. Anyone can visit and join in the dancing and feasting. A lamb is sacrificed and butchered for the feast that being served to all who are there. A band is hired for the event and dances are going on all day and night. This goes on at the grooms place for several days.
Day two at the brides place a henna party is held for the bride, who wears a full length lavender gown with a short transparant red veil over her head. A tray with balls of henna holding candles is held over the brides head while they chant prayers. A henna dance is done for the bride and after the henna "dance" henna is put on the brides hand and a red glove is put over her hand to keep it in place. Everyone at the party gets henna to put on themselves. More food is served. This is a women only party and the women dance.
Day three
At this event the bride wears a white wedding dress with a red ribbon that is tied around her waist by her brother. The groom and his entourage go in a decorated car or horse back with streamers and chants to take the bride to the grooms village and their new home. Another lamb is sacrificed before they get to the home. Another larger feast is held and the bride and groom sit at a table and are announced to all that they are now married. People approach the bride and either give her gold which is pinned on her. Sometimes the bride has gold bangles up to her elbow, or pinned on her dress. Gold coins with loops are often given on red ribbons.
After the eating the couple are left alone in their new dwelling for three days to get to know each other. On the fourth day the bride goes home to kiss her parents hands and visit her family. The seventh day the parents of the bride and groom visit new couple at home for a somewhat formal tea.
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:48 pm |
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Quoting catwoman: but Polish weddings last from Saturday evening till Sunday morning, |
Admin, be prepared 
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:51 pm |
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Quoting Deli_kizin: Quoting catwoman: but Polish weddings last from Saturday evening till Sunday morning, |
Admin, be prepared |
Did you dump me again?   
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 09:53 pm |
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Alameda, thanks for the description, it was very interesting. However.... I'd never want such a traditional wedding myself, in fact, it would be pain to even participate in it... I think. :-S
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 10:00 pm |
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What about the bit where the cars are decorated with underwear tied to the wing mirrors and everyone drives around in convoy honking their horns!
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