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Turkish Marriage
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 02:36 pm |
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Quoting lady in red: Quoting Deli_kizin: But my opinion on this is that, as long as you are comfortable and not pressured and willing, nothing wrong happens. I guess the blood-myth stems from times that too young girls were married to a much older man and were either forced in it or just not comfortable. I can imagine it must either hurt or bleed then.
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The 'blood myth' has nothing to do with 'rough sex'. It used to be the same myth in the west as well. It was assumed that if a girl was a virgin her hymen would be unbroken and she would therefore bleed the first time she had intercourse. This is rubbish of course as even strenuous physical exercise can cause this to happen in many - if not all - women. Maybe if an explanation is needed 'but I'm always at the gym darling' would be an acceptable one!  |
But the point is that men don't take 'my hymen broke when I was ten' as a valid excuse. This means the woman isn't a virgin and she has been lying to the man
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 03:02 pm |
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True! True! I have now agreed to go through Chantal's word list with her :-S so I hope I can join you for tea-break!!
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 03:43 pm |
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Quoting azizehannah: thanks for that. it surely helped. though i wonder, cant we have a role on his wedding? i was expecting maybe bridesmaids or anything, but i dont know what they call it (i`m begging for the right term). well, who knows.. i might be marrying with a turkish man someday. we're still young to know if we're the right one though. i wish by the time of my marriage, it will be a little classic since i am a foreigner. are you serious they only give golds? here in my country, as with the weddings people actually give like house & lots, house wears, appliances or anything for the new couple. and after the church wedding, they have this reception thing. i wonder how it takes for a turk couple to get married. i get confused since i've been to muslim weddings and christian ones. |
bridesmaid...nedime
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 03:55 pm |
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Quoting lady in red:
True! True! I have now agreed to go through Chantal's word list with her :-S so I hope I can join you for tea-break!! |
I've got jaffa cakes but all this graphic talk is putting me off!
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 04:07 pm |
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Quoting lady in red: Quoting Rocco Siffredi: kissing hands is a verification and announcement of having sex to the elder people? hahaha it's so funny. |
What do you know about Turkish weddings? You're Italian  |
what do you know about English weddings? you are a simple brit. tell us your wedding ceremony. we all want to listen you. grazie.
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 04:08 pm |
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Quoting lady in red: so I hope I can join you for tea-break!! |
Sure  But I changed my tea for beer! Hope that's okay with you
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 08:11 pm |
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Quoting Deli_kizin: But my opinion on this is that, as long as you are comfortable and not pressured and willing, nothing wrong happens. I guess the blood-myth stems from times that too young girls were married to a much older man and were either forced in it or just not comfortable. I can imagine it must either hurt or bleed then.
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It's a myth that every virgin has to have a hymen, or bleeding must occur, but bleeding depends on the type of the hymen, sometimes bleeding really occurs when it's broken.
I don't know amybe I got you wrong, and you're saying the same thing???
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 08:15 pm |
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Quoting mltm: It's a myth that every virgin has to have a hymen, or bleeding must occur, but bleeding depends on the type of the hymen, sometimes bleeding really occurs when it's broken.
I don't know amybe I got you wrong, and you're saying the same thing???
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Yes  Not every virgin has a hymen, and even if she has one, it doesnt necessarily have to bleed.
I was saying that eventhough it is a myth %100, I think that the confirmation of this myth comes from old times: if a young girl has to perform sex with an older man, unwantingly, the chance that she bleeds is higher than when she is ready for it and feels like it.
I personally haven't heard of any virgin that bled yet, and I tend to think that staying a virgin until you're married is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 08:15 pm |
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Quoting alameda: Quoting catwoman: Alameda, thanks for the description, it was very interesting. However.... I'd never want such a traditional wedding myself, in fact, it would be pain to even participate in it... I think. :-S |
Well catwoman, I don't think anyone will force you to attend a traditional Turkish wedding.
I forgot to mention that it is also tradtional forthe groom to present the bride with a home fully furnished with "everything". That is: all the dishes, couches, carpets...everything.
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Somebody forgot to tell my husband about this! 
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24 Jun 2008 Tue 08:17 pm |
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Quoting Elisabeth: Quoting alameda: Quoting catwoman: Alameda, thanks for the description, it was very interesting. However.... I'd never want such a traditional wedding myself, in fact, it would be pain to even participate in it... I think. :-S |
Well catwoman, I don't think anyone will force you to attend a traditional Turkish wedding.
I forgot to mention that it is also tradtional forthe groom to present the bride with a home fully furnished with "everything". That is: all the dishes, couches, carpets...everything.
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Somebody forgot to tell my husband about this! |
What about the cooking and cleaning too? 
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