The report details the excuses Turkish men use for beating their wives: “The woman’s not wanting to engage in sexual activity, the woman’s gaining weight, her inability to bear children or her not bearing a male child, the food she’s cooked being too salty, burnt, cold or not according to the man’s tastes, not doing a good job ironing his clothing, being late in answering the door when he’s come home and knocked, the woman’s getting ill or not getting better after getting ill, leaving the home without permission, a couple’s child being unsuccessful, the home’s heater not being turned on, a child not looking like its father, the woman’s wanting a divorce, the woman’s interference in the man’s relationship with another woman, the working woman’s not giving her husband her entire salary, the refusal of ‘berdel’ [a type of arranged marriage], the woman’s wanting to work, the man’s being unemployed, family financial difficulty, the man’s soccer team losing a match, being warned by his wife about his alcoholism or gambling addiction, an argument between men about ‘machismo.

Wow! DK, that was some great info! Thanks so much for sharing..!!!

Could you please just explain to me better what "blood feud" is?

The report details the excuses Turkish men use for beating their wives: “The woman’s not wanting to engage in sexual activity, the woman’s gaining weight, her inability to bear children or her not bearing a male child, the food she’s cooked being too salty, burnt, cold or not according to the man’s tastes, not doing a good job ironing his clothing, being late in answering the door when he’s come home and knocked, the woman’s getting ill or not getting better after getting ill, leaving the home without permission, a couple’s child being unsuccessful, the home’s heater not being turned on, a child not looking like its father, the woman’s wanting a divorce, the woman’s interference in the man’s relationship with another woman, the working woman’s not giving her husband her entire salary, the refusal of ‘berdel’ [a type of arranged marriage], the woman’s wanting to work, the man’s being unemployed, family financial difficulty, the man’s soccer team losing a match, being warned by his wife about his alcoholism or gambling addiction, an argument between men about ‘machismo.

Maybe you would know it b y the word vendetta..

A blood feud is an ongoing feud between different families or clans, it is a cycle of violence, where the relatives/clan members of a person that has been killed (for example in honour killing but also in any other case), or dishonoured or whatever, look for revenge by killing relatives of the culprit or themselves.

 What does it called in Turkish ?

Ýn Egyptian we call it Tar..and its still happening in some country sides

I would say, there are so many old-fashioned couples where husband is the king of the family for all intents and purposes. Contrary to what you may expect, in some cases even spouses being university graduates does not change the brutal treatment wives receive from their "primitive" husbands.  Many of those are arranged marriages with the families of both spouses getting involved in every aspect of the relationship. It is a sad story the gravity of which can only be truely appreciated by those who live it.

 old-fashioned couples,and arranged marriages are not to blame.

Ýn my grandfather´s time,and even before it,the woman was the queen of the house,and her husband was the king.

He used even to call his wife name and add the title Haným out of respect,and note that Turkish is not our language,so the title haným to us is  like being called Lady..X for example

And at those times,all marriaged were arranged,and the elders get involve in every aspect of it.

So i dont think those are or can be elements of the problem,but the problem is in the personality of those men,and how did they brought up,and how they bringing up the second generation.

So in my opinion,women has great responsibilities in correcting things by giving the right ethics to the coming generation on condition..that

They know,believe,understand the stiuation they are living is NOT the normal and things SHOULD/MUST be not like that !

I definitely think that arranged marrieges are part of the problem. Such marriages only work when the community is actively involved in all people´s personal lives and these people do or don´t do some things for fear of the community´s rejection. In any environment where there is emphasis on personal happiness and personal space that is out of control of the entire community, arranged marriages cannot survive and various ways of acting out the anger and unhappiness will take place.