Maybe if you read my previous posts,you may understand what i meant.

Ýts not a matter of picking up a fight here,read what i said first,then if it wasnt clear,i will clarify it...but i dont think you have read it!

I´m not sure Canli, is those would be the actual reasons why they abuse the women. Maybe those are only "triggers" and, like someone said earlier, excuses. There´s a concept in psychology called "displacement" where a person can´t express their (usually aggressive) feelings towards somebody and re-directs those feelings/behaviors towards a "safer" object. So if, let´s say a man, is pissed off with his boss, he can´t hit his boss, but he "can" hit his wife. Maybe that´s a part of it - and some of the socio-economic factors mentioned earlier by others would possibly account for it. It does seem outrageous that salty food would be a reason for anyone to hit anybody else, but I do think that the reason lies deeper than that.

I agree. It is difficult to generalize the actions of a minority (or even a majority) of a population to the whole nation and attribute a behavior to one group vs. another. Research consistently shows that within-group diversity is greater than between-group diversity. As human beings in general, we´re more alike than different and maybe some behaviors are better understood as human as opposed to cultural phenomena. As a society however, we need to take responsibility for what we do with that and what actions we take to curb/eliminate that behavior.

 beautifully stated, in some societies the actions were taken and still are being carried out. however in some socities the primitive traditions backed up by primitve thinking are in power, a very little actions taken (those activists who are involved in human rights movements are often prevented from their works and some of them are even killed).

canli, if i say that you dont lie then i become a liar.

i think i personally was insulted and offended thousand times, but i dont cry. i can cope with criticism and negative attitude of people. i can cope with other people´s opinions.

 you are repeating this since i appeared on this site

Femmeous, Canli is not a liar, all she said with wise and clear words is so true.

You need to know the situations in our societies before saying someone is a liar.

Femmeous read this please:

9. Avoid personal disputes and arguments. Personal correspondence postings should be kept at a minimum. Personal attacks or insults directed towards other users will not be tolerated. Basically if you don´t have anything nice to say then just don´t say it all. If somebody posts an insulting comment do not reply to it. It will only result in starting a flame-war. Instead, send a Private Message to one of the forum moderators and they will take care of it.

thanks for reading my post

Yes, it ÝS about Turkey and published in a Turkish newspaper.

I´m asking why don´t you or others find in Turkish newpapers good things to say about Turkey and Turks, why always looking for such kind of behaviours (that you can find in any country) and starting a debat about it.

 queent

canli perfectly knows what i mean.

truth doesnt mean wise, beautiful and clear words, truth is often painful. thats why canli often suffers when she sees my posts.

and basically, queent, if you dont have anything to say, then just dont say anything (according to the rules) 

I had what to say and I said it.

Thanks for replying me femmeous