Nothing has confused me more then relationships in Turkey. Especially relationships of Turkish boys I have seen boys introduce girls to their so called traditional families after only a week or two, and introducing their second and third girlfriend as well (not second and third in time, I mean second and third girlfriend in the same moment in time). I can not put my finger on it. I can not even say "this is normal for traditional families and this for modern families."

Is their a general guideline in introducing your partner in Turkey? I´m saying no Each family has their own standards of what they think is normal...how hypocrite it may be at times.

 I don`t know what to say. So it happens, but do you really think this is normal? I can assure you it`s not. I disagree that this has anything to do with Turkish culture, or customs when it comes to introducing boyfriends or girlfriends to familymembers.

But I do think it is different procedures for boys and girls at times.

Have you considered the possibility the family is not being introduced to the females as romantic interests, but rather as foriegn guests/friends? 

When one consideres language differences, what the parents understand and what the girls understand could be very different.

I hope my family didn´t think I was serious about every boy I introduced them too!  I had a lot of guy friends that I was never romantically interested in....but then again, I am one of those crazy, non-traditional, rebelious, bed Americans!!   

Generally, if I was serious about someone, I would tell my family that I am serious about this person...SO PLEASE ME NICE!!

But then, I eloped with my husband!  VERY non-traditional!

*wonders if it´s about time to introduce her husband to her family*

 I am still thinking about it!  Not sure how serious I am about him! 

As you know well, western culture, values and prejudgments  and  Turkish culture, values and prejudgments are very difficult  concepts and things.

Western countries (like European Union-EU-) looks like each other.

But Türkiye is stuck between West and East.

So generally Turkish and  western friends do not mix well.

It is not mixable.

Because culture and tradition rule the communities.

Lis - good luck If it goes well for you, I might give it a go too

Yilgun - that´s nonsense! Not all the people are the same, regardless of what cultures they grew up in. EU countries are not the same, sure, in some respects there are similarites but it´s not universal alikeness! Moreover, two people from the same country can and often do have different values, goals and levels of accepting tradition. It is only up to individuals whether or not these can jeopardise prospective relationship. You can´t put all people in one bag. If you were right then there´d be no successful marriages between people from the EU and Turkey, or, all marriages within either Turkey or EU would be successful. And that´s not how it is

For Daydreamer.

Thank you.

But It is so hard.

Because Turkish and   western friends do not mix well generally...

Different cultures…It requires labour…

It all depends on how the outsider is introduced to the family; as a "friend" or a "girlfriend/boyfriend" ?

Most families can make a distinction between the two.

An introduction as a "girlfriend/boyfriend" does carry some weight and some responsibilities,  but no definite commitments on either side.

You only allowed him to skip the dowry, he would have been expected to pay your dad; sort of like a promotion sale free bonus !