Confidence can help you start things up !  But you still wont have any real control over what will happen next !

 I am impatiently awaiting Febuary, so i can hop onto an ucak over to Istanbul to be re-united with him! Then i shall see for certain. Thank you for your comment, this is one of the comments i will remember

Hi I´m also in my first relationship with a Turkish man. I´m Bulgarian girl and we met in USA A destiny what to do So I also read a lot about this kind of relationship but still everything depends on us after all. He lives in Istanbul and I visited him some times, he also visited me in the summer... The point is we never talk about anything like marriage.. Not I hurry up for that part but still I want to be together, live together somehow. It´s so complex really cause he needs a visa for every entry So my parents know about him, not admired but still they know he exists.. However his family, I´m sure, doesnt know about me and that kind of bothers me. He always says he just dont share with them so much... I don´t know what to think really Any advices?

P.S. He is making his military service now and he have one month left so I guess we need to make a step afterwards....

 How long have you been in a relationship with him? Visa´s complicate things slightly, but nothing is impossible! I am the same. My family know about my boyfriend, but he is reluctant to tell his family. I felt at first, maybe he was keeping me a secret, because i am not turkish/muslim/i dont know. But eventually he told his Father, but he didnt tell his mother or sister. It bothered me ALOT, but what can i do? I think maybe he is a private person, and as i am not in Turkey, it is difficult. I dont really have any advice for you, i wish i did, as i could take my own advice!

 I am visiting him in 7 weeks, and i am hoping to be introduced to his mother and his friends. Have you met any of your boyfriends family/friends? Because for me, meeting his family/friends will be the key in knowing how serious he is about me.

What kind of step will you be taking once he finished the military?

It is nice to speak to someone in a similar situation!

In my experience, if he didn´t tell his family yet, he´s not sure about a future with you. This might just be because you´re not together for that long, or for some other reason. But eventually, telling his family is very important.

Sometimes it is an advantage to be the ´foreign bride´. We have been dating for 5 years now, and I frequently stay over at his parents´. Actually, they just dropped me off home The fact that I am foreign and don´t have ´anyone´ here (in parental way), has made them take me into their family very quickly.

When I was introduced to his family, we were serious yes, but it was at such an early stage that nobody could know if we would be able to make it. We were 17 and 18 at the time. His brother, who is 18 now and has a Turkish girlfriend, hasn´t brought her home yet and is not planning to do so either.

The first time we met, they also met my parents, but the second time we met, they came as guests to visit me and Kadir when we were practically living together.

It has both to do with the way our relationship developed (we lived together after I was introduced to his parents only once, didn´t speak a word of Turkish), the fact thathis family is very modern, but also the fact that I am foreign and ´alone´ here. His parents take care of me as if I was their own child, and, with my bofyriend being in İzmir but me in Ankara (where his parents live), I frequently stay over there without my bf being there at all.

It really depends on family, but I have never heard that girlfriends are introduced quickly. The fact that someone is dating is generally known, but introduction comes later when the couple gets more serious. This is from personal experience from among friends, who are all from urban and modern environments, but I am sure there are different situations as well. As far as I know, foreign girlfriends aren´t introduced quickly.

Another example of how families may look upon relationships: when we both stay over at his parents, we sleep seperatly, eventhough the sofas we sleep on are both 2 person sofas. However, when they come over to stay with us, they don´t mind we sleep together. I think it may have to do with my status as ´guest´ (even after all these years I am still a guest, eventhough we all act as if Im part of the family, with the same rights and duties), or maybe it is something like ´not under my roof´

Anyway, don´t feel bad about not being introduced yet. Most of the time girlfriends aren´t introduced quickly, and the fact that you´re foreign doesn´t make it any faster However if he insists on not introducing you even after you have been dating several years, I´d start worry about how serious he is.

Yeah, normally it takes a bit longer to introduce the partner In my relationship things went a bit strange, because my Dutch mum was with me when I met him, and I actually met my father in law after knowing my partner for one and a half week Strange, I know, but looking back I´m so thankful for this, since his father died only three months after this. The in-laws are traditional people, so my guess was that my partner told them we were engaged before we actually were, since I was allowed to sleep with him in the same bed

I also had the experience of staying at a male friend´s house, and being send to the neighbors to sleep there! Another room, I could understand... but across the street... at the time that I didn´t speak a WORD of Turkish... and at a family who I had never met before... Strange experience

do foreign girlfriend will be introduced later? I just meet my turkish friend . and for the first time meeting through webcam, he had introduce me to his mother. i feel very shame. He said he wish to marry me and as  what he told me, he asked his family and they do not angry with that. His family accept his wish. Now, his mother keep makes handicrafts for me. His younger sister and his mother had sent me 2 scarfs and a pair of socks.I am very touched. I said to him i cannot confirm to be his wife as my journey is very far away. I still studying and looking forward to study in the UK and it will takes 3 years duration. I havent say to my parents .He does not mind with that and he adviced me to keep it for a while so that this special friendship will not disturb my study. He always call me and message even though while he is sailing. When he found internet connection, he will ask me to come to chat. I try to find some clues to say he cheated me but till now i dont have any signs to say that. What can i do to see the truth???Do he really want me?

maybe yes, maybe no No way of saying it, byt what you just told us.

Do like to have some of those socks though...

those socks are beautiful. Its handmade and like  a traditional sock Turkish wear. I like it because it is no where to have it here in my country.

I havent say ´i love u too´ and i havent say ´yes i do´ because its all depend on my family. He is ready to meet my parents but i refuse  it because i dont want them to know in this short time.

After his contract finish, he will come here and meet me. Its about next May. Then he will study here while i might study in the UK. I am sure that he will meet another good girls and i dont mind about that. I dont want to  have him permanantly till we are married. Therefore, there are a lot of possibilities now and as he said, time will determine all of them.

It seems that my case is upside down like the cases here

What make you say no, maybe i missed to think on that while i am thinking.....

...sounds like he needs to be more worried about you, then you about him...