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Turkish Boyfriends and Girlfriends.
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30 Nov 2009 Mon 05:23 pm |
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I hope my family didn´t think I was serious about every boy I introduced them too! I had a lot of guy friends that I was never romantically interested in....but then again, I am one of those crazy, non-traditional, rebelious, bed Americans!! 
Generally, if I was serious about someone, I would tell my family that I am serious about this person...SO PLEASE ME NICE!!
But then, I eloped with my husband! VERY non-traditional!
You only allowed him to skip the dowry, he would have been expected to pay your dad; sort of like a promotion sale free bonus !
Edited (11/30/2009) by AlphaF
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30 Nov 2009 Mon 05:25 pm |
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You only allowed him to skip the dowry, he would have been expected to pay your dad; sort of like a promotion sale bonus !
I always suspected he wisked me off for a reason! Thanks Alpha! Would it be inappropriate to send his family a bill at this point? He is been very expensive, you know...with all the laptops, cellphones and gadgets.
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30 Nov 2009 Mon 05:29 pm |
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I always suspected he wisked me off for a reason! Thanks Alpha! Would it be inappropriate to send his family a bill at this point? He is been very expensive, you know...with all the laptops, cellphones and gadgets.
Never too late....who can blame you for trying?
Do not forget my counsellors´ fee, if you succeed ! 
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30 Nov 2009 Mon 05:32 pm |
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Never too late....who can blame you for trying?
Do not forget my counsellors´ fee, if you succeed !
Sure, no problem. Do you accept payments in goats and chickens?
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30 Nov 2009 Mon 07:37 pm |
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As you know well, western culture, values and prejudgments and Turkish culture, values and prejudgments are very difficult concepts and things.
Western countries (like European Union-EU-) looks like each other.
But Türkiye is stuck between West and East.
So generally Turkish and western friends do not mix well.
It is not mixable.
Because culture and tradition rule the communities.
Nice to know you still consider us friends even if we can´t mix with you! 
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30 Nov 2009 Mon 08:48 pm |
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Nice to know you still consider us friends even if we can´t mix with you!
Mixing is no problem at all.....What is hard is to get the original ingredients back, afterwards !
Edited (11/30/2009) by AlphaF
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01 Dec 2009 Tue 07:02 pm |
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Wow! I didnt expect such a wide and varied response, and from so many! Thank you to all, really, its very appreciated! I am still none the wiser, but i guess its just different for each individual.
So generally Turkish and western friends do not mix well.
It is not mixable.
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Yilgun-2010...Ofcourse other nationalities can mix with Turkish people! I believe you are wrong  What ever gave you the idea that they can´t mix well?? My father is Greek Cypriot (born in Cyprus, grew up in England) and he married a Turkish woman, and they have been married for ten years so far! There must be thousands and thousands of Turkish people all over the world married to people with different cultures/beliefs....!
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01 Dec 2009 Tue 07:58 pm |
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We just haven´t told our families yet!!
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| 28. |
06 Dec 2009 Sun 08:42 pm |
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As you know well, friendship and marriage are different things.
This is a Turkish proverb : “ Davulun sesi uzaktan hoş gelir…”
I understand you very well.
Because I have friends from Samos and Crete islands; Athene and Selanik cities, and England (London).And I have been to Cyprus before.
I consider Türkiye, Greece, Romania, Bulgaria, Albania, Cyprus, other neighbours have similar / same social, traditional, historical culture and background.
Turkish and Western friends do not mix well generally : Different cultures...
I want to beieve.
I of course respect western science, culture and civilization.
But : I think and I see most of Turkish and Western social, religious, traditional and cultural rules, prejudices, standarts, norms and thoughts are not same.
There are some adaptation, adjustment, modification, reorganization and restruction problems.
Don’t count apples with pears.
So friendship and marriage require labour, culture, knowledge, understanding and tolerance..
Edited (12/6/2009) by yilgun-2010
Edited (12/7/2009) by yilgun-2010
Edited (12/14/2009) by yilgun-2010
Edited (12/14/2009) by yilgun-2010
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06 Dec 2009 Sun 11:50 pm |
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Wow! I didnt expect such a wide and varied response, and from so many! Thank you to all, really, its very appreciated! I am still none the wiser, but i guess its just different for each individual.
So generally Turkish and western friends do not mix well.
It is not mixable.
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Yilgun-2010...Ofcourse other nationalities can mix with Turkish people! I believe you are wrong What ever gave you the idea that they can´t mix well?? My father is Greek Cypriot (born in Cyprus, grew up in England) and he married a Turkish woman, and they have been married for ten years so far! There must be thousands and thousands of Turkish people all over the world married to people with different cultures/beliefs....!
I agree that. My daughter learned for 2 years at a turkish school in Romania and half of their classmates was childs who have a turk father and a romanian mother...I met their parents and I was very impressed about them. In my country live 10% turkish peoples and most of them are married with romanians.
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07 Dec 2009 Mon 12:12 am |
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In my country live 10% turkish peoples and most of them are married with romanians.
  from where did you get this ? Turkish minority in Romania represents 0,15%. The biggest minority are hungarians but even they have just 6,6%
Edited (12/7/2009) by ReyhanL
Edited (12/7/2009) by ReyhanL
[üf this grammar!]
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