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Cat,i live in a community where all marriages were arranged about 50/60 years ago,almost all,and the exception was the otherwise.
So no,i cant say it is part of the problem.
The man who is capable of doing such things to a woman,would do it if he likes her/love her or not
There will be a time when he will say ´Ãm sorry honey,but you drove me to this...forgive me´
But the net result is....he already did.
Not because the marriage was arranged or not,but because the defect is within him!
very wise words Canli........... I do not think we can use arranged marriages as an excuse for this type of disgusting behaviour..... I know many men who would never sink so low as to abuse a woman physically or verbally no matter what their situation.... like you said the problem is the mans alone. For what reason I dont know, perhaps upbringing or perhaps because this kind of behaviour is tolerated in the society around them.
What I would like to know is in turkey how is this behaviour veiwed by other turkish men... do they find this sort of behaviour acceptable, is it something to be proud of?
I am sure there are many men who find this sort of behaviour as disgusting and shamefull as i do... what we need is an enviroment of zero tolerance....men/woman who verbally and physicaly abuse their wives/husbands/partners should be made to feel completely ashamed of their behaviour and understand that what they are doing is wrong and completley unacceptable in society no matter what their financial, marritial, family situation maybe... there is no excuse for this type of behaviour....
and I would hope that any person who is witness to this type of behaviour, maybe in their extended family or friends, will have the courage to speak out ... zero tolerance
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