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Meeting mum for the first time!!!
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 02:21 pm |
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Quoting lovebug: To say giving money is a "cop out", I don't know about you, but I work very hard for my money. When I give, it is with all my heart, and never thoughtless. |
Its a cop out because it requires no thought, no care. It's easy and you can tell yourself "its better because they can buy whatever they want"....
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 02:42 pm |
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I also think it is inappropriate, cruel and unkind to "have such a go" at Lovebug for doing something, she thought was OK. This "thoughtless act" is merely a lack of understanding of a culture. I am sure the family would not show any offence publically.
What about it the tables were turned and the Turkish family gave Lovebug an "inappropriate" gift would she be offended or insulted? I doubt it, because at the end of the day we mostly understand that those from different cultures miss out some of the finer detail and can easily make a mistake.
It does not mean that anyone is "purposely" causing offence.
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 02:49 pm |
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Quoting libralady: I also think it is inappropriate, cruel and unkind to "have such a go" at Lovebug for doing something, she thought was OK. This "thoughtless act" is merely a lack of understanding of a culture. I am sure the family would not show any offence publically.
What about it the tables were turned and the Turkish family gave Lovebug an "inappropriate" gift would she be offended or insulted? I doubt it, because at the end of the day we mostly understand that those from different cultures miss out some of the finer detail and can easily make a mistake.
It does not mean that anyone is "purposely" causing offence. |
Ouh! No offence intended Libralady - just taking part in the discussion forum  Is giving money to strangers ok in any culture?
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 02:57 pm |
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Quoting Ghost: Quoting libralady: I also think it is inappropriate, cruel and unkind to "have such a go" at Lovebug for doing something, she thought was OK. This "thoughtless act" is merely a lack of understanding of a culture. I am sure the family would not show any offence publically.
What about it the tables were turned and the Turkish family gave Lovebug an "inappropriate" gift would she be offended or insulted? I doubt it, because at the end of the day we mostly understand that those from different cultures miss out some of the finer detail and can easily make a mistake.
It does not mean that anyone is "purposely" causing offence. |
Ouh! No offence intended Libralady - just taking part in the discussion forum Is giving money to strangers ok in any culture?
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I am not offended and I am not saying whether it is right or wrong, but the tone of the response was, which I don't class as a discussion.
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 02:59 pm |
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Quoting libralady: I am not offended and I am not saying whether it is right or wrong, but the tone of the response was, which I don't class as a discussion. |
Ouh you are backtracking! You DID say it was a cultural issue - which it is NOT And...maybe you are reading my posts in the wrong "tone" - it seems like a reasonable discussion to me
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 04:35 pm |
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Quoting libralady:
I am not offended and I am not saying whether it is right or wrong, but the tone of the response was, which I don't class as a discussion.
Thank you,Libralady, my sentiments exactly.
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 05:03 pm |
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Quoting lovebug: Thank you,Libralady, my sentiments exactly. |
+1 - My sentiments exactly
I can see now that I was so wrong to disagree with you. A 'discussion' means we all agree with eachother right?
I retract my comments immediately and advise all naive girls to give their 'future mother-in-laws' presents of money (maybe taped to a bottle of raki) when they first meet them 
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 05:24 pm |
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and im the lucky one coz when i met my mother-in-law, she was the one who came here to see and know me.
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 05:34 pm |
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Quoting Pizza: and im the lucky one coz when i met my mother-in-law, she was the one who came here to see and know me. |
You married? Did you marry Mr. Hut? 
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 06:52 pm |
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"I can see now that I was so wrong to disagree with you. A 'discussion' means we all agree with eachother right? "
What I was agreeing with was the abrassive way in which you chose to have a "discussion."
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30 Jun 2007 Sat 06:54 pm |
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Quoting lovebug: "I can see now that I was so wrong to disagree with you. A 'discussion' means we all agree with eachother right? "
What I was agreeing with was the abrassive way in which you chose to have a "discussion." |
Awwwwwwwwww I am as abrasive as sandpaper! Don't worry, I am only around here until the rain stops! Don't worry, I am sure your young Turkish boy will be around for longer
Pray for sunshine
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