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31 Aug 2007 Fri 01:32 am |
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Quoting lendechy: I'm just different ok!!
 and i would like to read some different opinions , thats all,!!
i been in different countrys ...all my life.
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Kai? Is that you?  ....
At least have the decency to come back as KAi II 
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 03:37 am |
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Quoting Elisabeth: Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting lendechy: i mean, just to be honest we are self, how many times you though that it would be nice to have a B/F orG/F from another country..?? |
Its certainly not something I would ideally set out to have!
What a strange cookie you are lendechy |
I for one would not recommend it, and I am in a bi-cultural marriage. At times it has been very painful and it is always hard work. It is not all sweet words and flowers. I agree that you don't choose who you fall in love with, but you do choose whether you pursue it. In any relationship, you have to make sure you are in it for the right reasons. Being intigued with someone wears off really quickly when you have limited communication and few things in common. |
Even with great communication and a few things in common... some Turks can be a real pain in the neck. , I have no idea why anyone would want to pursue this. I guess I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today.
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 05:04 am |
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you all negative !!
4 everything!!
GOSHH !!
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 05:54 am |
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Rather than some Turks can be a pain in the neck...how about some HUMANS can be a pain in the neck. No relationship is without it's difficulties.They all take an effort in communication to work. Another culture and another language makes it much more challenging. Yes, it is a big gamble when you think you know someone...but do you really? To know someone dating is different then how they might be in marriage. That takes years and years in marriage to see how things will be.
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 05:22 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting lendechy: I'm just different ok!!
and i would like to read some different opinions , thats all,!!
i been in different countrys ...all my life.
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Kai? Is that you? ....
At least have the decency to come back as KAi II |
I'm not Kai !!
I'm Lendechy !!
thats it !
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 05:47 pm |
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Quoting lendechy: I'm not Kai !! I'm Lendechy !! thats it ! |
Hehehe joke Ama....are you one of the Brady Bunch? ....
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 07:30 pm |
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Quoting AEnigma III: Quoting lendechy: I'm not Kai !! I'm Lendechy !! thats it ! |
Hehehe joke Ama....are you one of the Brady Bunch? .... |
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 07:39 pm |
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Quoting lendechy: you all negative !!
4 everything!!
GOSHH !! |
I am not being negative. I am speaking from experience. I have known my husband for 20 years and we are finally married now. We were friends for many years and only became a couple 3 years ago. Even now after all these years, there are times when our cultural differences are a little painful. For example...Christian holidays are lonely for me. Not that he doesn't try to support me but it is not the same. He doesn't understand how the holiday makes me feel. He celebrates with me because he wants to support ME. During Ramadan, I will fast with him so that he feels I support him but my sacrifice is for HIM not because I believe the same as him. If you commit to this kind of relationship, you need to prepare yourself for SACRIFICE. If you both hold your religion and culture dear, you must constantly help eachother. That is SO hard to do if you don't believe in the same things. I will say that if you are successful in this kind of relationship the reward is an unbreakable bond between two people.
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 07:48 pm |
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I agree with you Elizabeth. Bridging religous differences is difficult if you both hold your religion dearly. but even more difficult is if and when a couple like yourself has children. Very difficult decisions indeed. Are you living in turkey or texas by the way? Christian holidays are not that great when you are in turkey.
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31 Aug 2007 Fri 08:08 pm |
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Quoting KeithL: I agree with you Elizabeth. Bridging religous differences is difficult if you both hold your religion dearly. but even more difficult is if and when a couple like yourself has children. Very difficult decisions indeed. Are you living in turkey or texas by the way? Christian holidays are not that great when you are in turkey. |
Right now we are in Texas. It is somewhat easier to be together in the states because neither one of us feels people notice us very much. It isn't that I don't feel accepted in Turkey, but trying to find a Catholic church outside of a big city is a challenge. Mosques aren't hard to find where we are and there is a very large Turkish community in Houston. As far as having children, in these kinds of marriages, it must be discussed and agreed upon before marriage. You must be united in your decision and know that you will ALWAYS have people telling you that you are doing the wrong thing NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO.
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