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Trust your instincts??
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 06:22 pm |
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Quoting Avalon: Quoting hobnob: Maybe Turkish women are less naive and more wise than us foreigners and maybe that's how they can detract unwanted male attention? |
 and more covered from feet to head |
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 06:38 pm |
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Quoting MrX67: Quoting Avalon: Quoting hobnob: Maybe Turkish women are less naive and more wise than us foreigners and maybe that's how they can detract unwanted male attention? |
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I can only say something about my family members,girls chat about boys too much but I consider this kind of behaviour normal.I said down to earth in sense of stable relationship,going out with the boy usually raises up expectations of stable relationship and popping the question,it is a specific game lead by my Turkish female cousins.They say they must be smart to get the man who will maintain them and provide them with a comfortable life.  Somehow they do not want to worry about the future by themselves.
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 06:42 pm |
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Quoting Avalon: Quoting MrX67: Quoting Avalon: Quoting hobnob: Maybe Turkish women are less naive and more wise than us foreigners and maybe that's how they can detract unwanted male attention? |
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I can only say something about my family members,girls chat about boys too much but I consider this kind of behaviour normal.I said down to earth in sense of stable relationship,going out with the boy usually raises up expectations of stable relationship and popping the question,it is a specific game lead by my Turkish female cousins.They say they must be smart to get the man who will maintain them and provide them with a comfortable life. Somehow they do not want to worry about the future by themselves. |
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 06:52 pm |
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so are you saying that Turkish men understand a Turkish woman's mentality of finding 'the one' so there are no games played. The men either stay away or cut to the chase (or to the alter!!)
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23 Jun 2008 Mon 07:37 pm |
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After reading this post I think your boyfriends friend was just trying to possibly impress you. I wouldn't take it to the extreme nor would I say anything to your boyfriend. I think it could damage their relationship and unless you know his true intent, whether he was just going overboard to be friendly for a friend or he was interested in you, I would keep it to myself.
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17 Sep 2008 Wed 05:53 pm |
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Quoting Roswitha: Silversong the exact thoughts came also to my mind: the boyfriend was testing her |
I dont think it was a test by her bf.. I dont know any half way decent Turkish man testing his gf by letting other men touching her.. And I dont think it is a good idea to let the bf know this incident.. Because it may result in something nasty..
Handsom
I agree. I go out with a turkish man and if another guy starts talking to me steam comes out of his ears. They can get very jealous and possesive and probably hates the fact that the hairdresser is touching you anyway!!!!!
(not all turks are like that)
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17 Sep 2008 Wed 06:07 pm |
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Think wandering hands and use your imagination!
Oh my god i went for a turkish bath and the guy who bathed me had a stonking hard on the whole way through. i felt it on many parts of my body!!!! Im sure they are not suppose to get that close!!!!
he will never do it again. I took the cloth and wrapped it around his head. You have to tell them what for otherwise they will do it again...
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17 Sep 2008 Wed 06:12 pm |
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Since my first experience of a massage at a reputable hamam in Antalya I would never have a massage from a man again!
I have sometimes a massage in a sauna here in the Netherlands given by a man (here they don´t separate on gender but on specialities e.g. sports, ayurveda, hot stone), so why should I refuse a male masseur in another country? But let me tell you this: the first guy with ´loose´ hands in a hammam or sauna will know the meaning of the word ´hadım´ in person very quickly! 
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18 Sep 2008 Thu 12:32 pm |
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Oh my god i went for a turkish bath and the guy who bathed me had a stonking hard on the whole way through. i felt it on many parts of my body!!!! Im sure they are not suppose to get that close!!!!
he will never do it again. I took the cloth and wrapped it around his head. You have to tell them what for otherwise they will do it again...
Goodness me ! Why dont you write an essay about it?   ....................... Please 
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18 Sep 2008 Thu 03:20 pm |
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Unfortunately I think this is something you will experience every now and then as a foreign woman living in a touristic area.
After living in Alanya I have countless experiences like the one you mention. The most recent incident was just over two weeks ago, less than a block from our home.
Don´t let anyone get away with respectless behaviour towards you and be as loud as possible. I´ve come to think it´s the only way to fight back against gross turkish men.
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18 Sep 2008 Thu 05:32 pm |
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. "Anyway, normally trips to hairdressers in Turkey are fairly boring for me- I´m not fluent in Turkish and i´d rather just pass the time peacefully. Anyway, this particular hairdresser kept making eye contact with me and it made me cringe inside as I had to give fake smiles. Then he appeared to get closer to me than necessary and whilst he was washing my hair seemed to spend what I would class as too much time washing my hair and massaging my head (he used about 8 different shampoos- no joke!). I started to feel uncomfortable, wondering whether it was totally innocent or if I should trust my instincts and say something... "
You know I had an expirence something similar to you. This male-hair dresser was putting a small towel around my neck, I felt wird, I think because the hair dresser was a male and I have not have a male hairdresser before. I immedlitly responded. I took that towel saying: I can do it.. It worked. And next time I went there I had wore turtle-neck top
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