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Turkish Single Mothers
1.       karekin04
565 posts
 16 Oct 2008 Thu 06:19 pm

I had found this article and was curious about some things. Maybe someone can relate or at least be familiar with someone in this situation.....

 

Strong rise in single foreign mothers

The group of non-western foreign single mothers in the Netherlands includes 28 thousand mothers from Suriname, 12 thousand from the Netherlands Antilles, 9 thousand from Turkey and 7 thousand from Morocco.

Between 1997 and 2002 the number of single mothers from the Netherlands Antilles rose most strongly, by 4 thousand. For single mothers from Turkey, Morocco and Suriname the increase was around 2.5 thousand.

Foreigners: higher risk of divorce

The high percentage of single mothers among (non-western) foreigners is partly caused by the higher risk of divorce for these groups. Half of native Dutch single mothers are divorced, on quarter are widows, and one quarter are unmarried.

About half of Turkish and Moroccan single mothers are divorced too, one quarter are unmarried or widowed, and a quarter are married. The high percentage of married Turkish and Moroccan single mothers is caused by the fact that the husband is still in the country of origin. Many women are formally married in anticipation of the divorce.

 

My question is..... as it seems to me taboo at least with any turkish person I have met, what happens to a single mother in Turkey in regards to the way she is treated by society? Do Turkish people believe she is not deserving of a normal (customary according to turks) life? A.K.A marriage, love, a fresh start?

 

It just seems strange to me that any Turkish person I have ever met has stated, it is not "O.K" to be single and have child in Turkey, most people I have spoken to do not even know anyone in this situation. Does anyone know a single mother in Turkey? Not including widows, and how is she treated? How is her life, and what do you believe the outcome would be for these  women? Where do they go for support? Are their families supportive, friends, etc? Would it have been more accepted to abort. Any input. Just very curious

 

 

2.       catwoman
8933 posts
 16 Oct 2008 Thu 11:15 pm

 

Quoting karekin04

My question is..... as it seems to me taboo at least with any turkish person I have met, what happens to a single mother in Turkey in regards to the way she is treated by society? Do Turkish people believe she is not deserving of a normal (customary according to turks) life? A.K.A marriage, love, a fresh start?

 

It just seems strange to me that any Turkish person I have ever met has stated, it is not "O.K" to be single and have child in Turkey, most people I have spoken to do not even know anyone in this situation. Does anyone know a single mother in Turkey? Not including widows, and how is she treated? How is her life, and what do you believe the outcome would be for these  women? Where do they go for support? Are their families supportive, friends, etc? Would it have been more accepted to abort. Any input. Just very curious

 

My impression is that single, unmarried mothers are looked down on in the society. It certainly depends on the family how the woman is treated - if the family is conservative, the treatment may be quite bad, but if they live in a big city and are educated, then I suppose the stigma is smaller. It is basically related to controlling women´s sexuality, if a woman has a child without marriage, then it means she must have had sex before marriage.

I am not sure about a divorced woman, although I suspect that she may be looked at somewhat more kindly then an unmarried one.

 

A Turkish person could explain these things better.

3.       Elisabeth
5732 posts
 16 Oct 2008 Thu 11:47 pm

I actually do know a divorced mother in Turkey.  She lives in a smaller village and runs a farm with her older children.  She also cares for her elderly mother.  Nobody outwardly shuns her or treats her badly but she did tell me that she can never expect to get married again (which she is perfectly happy with).  I really think some things are difficult for her but she is well liked/loved by her family and most in the village. 

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