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1.       daisiek
3 posts
 22 Feb 2011 Tue 06:16 am

Im writing to get some advice and comfort from any one who can help : (

I recently met this turkish guy on the computer and i liked him and he liked me. The next day he asked me out and we have just been writing and messaging eachother over facebook and windows live. He is so sweet and very nice. And to be honest this is the first time in a really really really long time that I am actually happy. There are just a few things on my mind.{#emotions_dlg.think}

I have seen pictures of girls in turkey and where he is currentlty studying and they are very pretty. It just puzzles me why he would want to have a long distance relationship with me rather than with someone right there where he can be with her. And another thing that puzzles me is some of the things he says. He is so deep and shows his emotions when he writes. Don´t take this the wrong way, I like it alot. I like him alot.{#emotions_dlg.bigsmile} I just don´t know if he is really serious and I was wondering if ther e was a way to find out. I was thinking of messaging him and asking him straight up but I was wondering what other people thought.

he knows little English and I am trying to teach him english while he tries to teach me turkish. 

 

Im just confused and really want to know what other people think ?{#emotions_dlg.doh}

2.       gokuyum
5046 posts
 22 Feb 2011 Tue 07:27 am

Don´t be hasty. Give it time and try to know him better. Try to learn his red lines in a relationship. Don´t trust him quickly. Ask him if he has a decent job(teacher, doctor, lawyer, engineer, etc..). If he has, it can be considered as good news. If he lives in a holiday village be more careful. Men in Turkey can be very deceiving, if there is a lot of age difference between you, you should be extra cautious. 



Edited (2/22/2011) by gokuyum

3.       daisiek
3 posts
 22 Feb 2011 Tue 10:16 pm

 

 

okays ,i will. What do you mean by learn his red lines in a relationship? He is a student studying in the netherlands but he is from Turkey.

is that good news? He is 20 and I am 21.

should I still message him and ask him if is truly serious? I just cant imagine someone wanting to have a relationship with me ( long distance) when there are so many beautiful girl or women over therer? idk ?{#emotions_dlg.sad}

4.       gokuyum
5046 posts
 23 Feb 2011 Wed 06:57 am

 

Quoting daisiek

 

 

okays ,i will. What do you mean by learn his red lines in a relationship? He is a student studying in the netherlands but he is from Turkey.

is that good news? He is 20 and I am 21.

should I still message him and ask him if is truly serious? I just cant imagine someone wanting to have a relationship with me ( long distance) when there are so many beautiful girl or women over therer? idk ?{#emotions_dlg.sad}

By red lines I mean the limits of his tolerance. He can be too conservative or too jealous. This can cause problems in the future. Studying in Netherlands is good news. At least he has a purpose other than meeting with a foreign woman for her money or for citizenship.(a possibility) There is no big age difference between you. It is also good news. You say there are a lot of beautiful girls in Turkey and why he wants to be with you. As a Turkish man my answer is being beautiful is not the only factor for every man. There are other factors like kindness, helpfulness, smartness, etc... As i told before, only time can show if he is serious or not. So keep chatting with him. Bye. 

 

5.       teaschip
3870 posts
 26 Feb 2011 Sat 06:58 am

If he starts asking you for a cell phone or money..BEWARE!  Your young so If you like him fine..but I would advise not to invest your heart.  It is the internet.Cool

6.       alameda
3499 posts
 27 Feb 2011 Sun 05:20 am

 

Quoting teaschip

If he starts asking you for a cell phone or money..BEWARE!  Your young so If you like him fine..but I would advise not to invest your heart.  It is the internet.Cool

 

Good advice, I might add I´d question if he just loves her country too...and wants to visit.



Edited (2/27/2011) by alameda [add]

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