If he didn t care about the parents, he would not ask what to do. He must know what Nesrin thinks about the issue, he is asking what muslim "families" thinks!

ı wish real life would be that way. When you marry you are accepting his/her family, relatives, past, pets,habits, etc. Love can not bear strong differences forever. In some place, gives up. If you dont want this happens to you you have to soften the edges between you and her/ him.

Religion is important to a lot of family's,especially Muslim family's,maybe it's not important to some but for others it is very important,this religious issue is over inflammed in my opinion but that doesn't mean that we can't have respect for other peoples beliefs,like seker said 'The Kingdoms all inside' thats enough for me but maybe not for others and thats fine too,this could go on for some while i think and one more thing where are you loveprague?you started this thread I think you should contribute?

I wouldn't believe that i could write this much about my girlfriend/husband,when i was going through a rough time with my Husband i wrote nothing here,especially on the forums,I don't understand why you always need to post messages about your love life,if you needed help with Turkish or English that I could understand but to constantly go on about your love life is not right.People are arguing about your posts and you dont contribute to them to give your side of the story,this is not right,you should keep your private life to yourself,if you need to share your thoughts do it privately,that way no one will enter arguments like this.
Hope it works out well for you both,i've said my piece.

Hello,
Thanks for everyone who took the time to reply to my post, as I have had internet connection problems for sometime now I cannot reply as often as I would like to. I would then take the time to write carefully a reply to all the members who have kindly written here to this very important subject.

Firstly on this subject I would like to address the many different views and comments of the members on T.C. I do read everyone carefully and understand all the complications and issues here so I will begin my reply. I have now been with Nesrin through two years and we are both happily engaged we both have the upmost respect for each other's family and religion and culture. I was baptised in a christian church but I am not a regular churchgoer and although I do believe in god I do think that I should have the chance to talk about why and where we possibly could get married. Nesrin has just visited myself and my family this was her first visit to England and it was very beneficial with regard to her meeting my family and seeing my country. We both visited the church of our choice and discussed a christian wedding which will possibly take place here in England. I have the upmost respect for Nesrin and her religion and of course her family we have the blessing so far from her sister Nilgun and nephew Ali. We are both very much concerned more with our future and where we want to be in a few years time, I am visiting her in September to discuss this issue face to face with her mum and from now to then I will respect her mum's wishes on this subject.

The main thing about this subject of course is religion and culture with myself a non practising christian and Nesrin not a devout muslim, that however we both follow the faiths we have been brought up with and repect and understand them, I personally want only to do the right thing here whatever is possible and with the blessing of both of our parents, we are both the people who will be making this decision about our future but we want this decision to be fully appreciated and given blessing by both of our families, I do consider myself a good man and have no problem with doing the right thing by Nesrin and that is marrying the woman I love. I want only to illustrate here that love happens between two different cultures and faiths and however many people tell us their own opinion it will rest on our decision the outcome.

Loveprague Aferin sana

why do you insist on marrying in a church if you are not a practicing christian? My mother (christian) and father (muslim) were married in France but they did not do a christian marriage nor a muslim marriage. It was completely a secular marriage
Though I guess church marriage is also something traditional nowadays in UK.

Strictly speaking, no muslim lady can wed thru procedures other than those specified in Quran. On the other hand no non-moslem gentlemen can qualify to be a active party to an islamic wedding. Hence marriage of a muslim lady to a non-muslim gentlemen is not possible under normal conditions.

The only pragmatic solution to the problem our friends are facing, lies in creating emergency conditions.

What you need for this scenario is a cruise ship, with Nesrin as the only muslim on board (no other male muslims, neither as seamen nor as passengers).

Should the need for an emergency wedding arise, as soon as the ship hits high seas - the ship`s Captain must be the only available person capable and authorised to conduct and register the wedding. Captain`s own religious beliefs (or the methods he employs) can hardly be questioned or critisized under the prevailing emergency conditions, and in the absence of any muslim gentleman (alternative) to conduct the wedding.

Believe it, or not !