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Marriage between two faiths
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 01:08 am |
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I understand what alameda wants to tell and I agree with him/her. Though I'll make more contribution to the thread tomorrow 
The others who oppose to what he says must have read too many princess/prince charming love stories.
He hasn't said that we should make marriage without love, he said we shouldn't make marriage just because we are in love. There is a big difference.
I have heard too many love marriages, where the charm disappears after some months, and then they are left with nothing. The compatibility of families is one of the important things that supports a marriage because it's the major thing that makes our background.
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 02:18 am |
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Quoting mltm:
The others who oppose to what he says must have read too many princess/prince charming love stories.
I have heard too many love marriages, where the charm disappears after some months, and then they are left with nothing. The compatibility of families is one of the important things that supports a marriage because it's the major thing that makes our background.
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Let me ask you the expert then what you suggest a person who is in this silly thing called "love" do after being with someone for a couple years, then has their parents tell them to drop their relationship because the timing is not right!? Do they drop it just like that because all of the sudden the realization that the parents arent happy comes to play. What a joke... I didnt meet and build a relationship hoping for a great new family, it would be a bonus but not always realistic. SO yes I oppose this and have every right to.... and if you ask me today why I am still with him almost FOUR years later I will say LOVE not his family nor what he can offer finacially..... grow a heart, I surely hope you end up with some one you are "compatible" with 
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 03:48 am |
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In this world, you reap what you saw.Culture and tradition lead a society.A society is led by culture and tradition.
If the social structure of a society isn't homogeneous, lack of harmony, confusion and conflicts appear.The average cultural level of the people in this world is very low.The biggest war (struggle) in this world is the war fought against low cultural level and ignorance.These are
proverbs.As a result, marriage between two faiths depends on intellectual minds.
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 04:42 am |
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marrying " just for love" is not as simple as it seems. You have to have a reason for loving that person. when u ask somebody why u love that person, then the real reason surfaces. For some people love is compatibility. You hear a lot of people in love saying i love him coz we share the same likes, same outlook in life, he/she makes me laugh, feel secure, beautiful, special, etc, he/she's responsible, financially secure, etc.
This is personally speaking. I was born and raised a Catholic. I am a practicing Catholic. My family is the type who goes to Sunday mass everytime. My brother is a leader of a Catholic community group. Before i got married i told my family that im marrying a guy with a different faith (Islam- a practicing one). I felt its important for them to know and for them realize its my decision. Its not a without question, without doubts kind of talk. But i made a decision and i want them to know because they are family, they are important to me and if something unfortunate happen to the marriage( knock on wood) i know that they will support and be there for me.
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 08:43 am |
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Quoting mheart72: marrying " just for love" is not as simple as it seems. You have to have a reason for loving that person. when u ask somebody why u love that person, then the real reason surfaces. For some people love is compatibility. You hear a lot of people in love saying i love him coz we share the same likes, same outlook in life, he/she makes me laugh, feel secure, beautiful, special, etc, he/she's responsible, financially secure, etc.
This is personally speaking. I was born and raised a Catholic. I am a practicing Catholic. My family is the type who goes to Sunday mass everytime. My brother is a leader of a Catholic community group. Before i got married i told my family that im marrying a guy with a different faith (Islam- a practicing one). I felt its important for them to know and for them realize its my decision. Its not a without question, without doubts kind of talk. But i made a decision and i want them to know because they are family, they are important to me and if something unfortunate happen to the marriage( knock on wood) i know that they will support and be there for me. |
Of course marrying for love is not so simple. I think you are mistaking our concept of "LOVE" with "INFATUATION". People who are merely infatuated and passionate WILL have problems a few years into a marriage. However, if you are in love AND like someone, there is no reason a marriage cannot be successful. I can't imagine marrying somebody I only "like" and having a passionless marriage!!!!
It sounds like you have BOTH in your friendship and did what most people would do when introducing him to your family. However, just one question - what would you have done if both families had opposed your relationship? Ended it?
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 09:22 am |
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No marriage is "simple". Whether you have that passionate love or not....it takes a lot of work!
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 09:48 am |
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What exactly is 'love' ?
Not many 'love's are endless, or for eternity.
Why do 'loves' end? What happens when 'love' ends?
What happens in the rare cases, when the 'love' does not end?
English seems limited with the single word 'love'.
What is the difference between Turkish words 'ask' and 'sevgi' ?
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 09:58 am |
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Quoting AlphaF: What exactly is 'love' ?
Not many 'love's are endless, or for eternity.
Why do 'loves' end? What happens when 'love' ends?
What happens in the rare cases, when the 'love' does not end?
English seems limited with the single word 'love'.
What is the difference between Turkish words 'ask' and 'sevgi' ?
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Is not "sevgi" more platonic than "ask"?
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 11:08 am |
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Quoting AlphaF: W
English seems limited with the single word 'love'.
What is the difference between Turkish words 'ask' and 'sevgi' ?
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Yeah, that's the reason. It's because english has limited vocabulary that I cannot explain them well
"Sevgi" lasts forever even if "aşk" ends.
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 12:33 pm |
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Quoting mltm: Quoting AlphaF: W
English seems limited with the single word 'love'.
What is the difference between Turkish words 'ask' and 'sevgi' ?
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Yeah, that's the reason. It's because english has limited vocabulary that I cannot explain them well
"Sevgi" lasts forever even if "aşk" ends. |
i think:
love(Sevgi) is a true sense, but all people can exercises it,and there is type of it , maternal and paternal love and love among lovers.but (aşk) does not pass by any ordinary person and it is highest degree of love. love ends any moment, (aşk)impossible ends, even if opposed by other waves and its motto is sacrifice
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05 Jul 2007 Thu 12:40 pm |
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Quoting AlphaF: What exactly is 'love' ?
Not many 'love's are endless, or for eternity.
Why do 'loves' end? What happens when 'love' ends?
What happens in the rare cases, when the 'love' does not end?
English seems limited with the single word 'love'.
What is the difference between Turkish words 'ask' and 'sevgi' ?
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