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Interesting Divorce Law...??
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:02 pm |
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I think women get half of a man's assets in California. Tough state to go through a divorce!!
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:17 pm |
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Quoting mey0722: Elisabeth, you are married to a Turk, right? See what he says about this stiuation. I'm very curious. What would he tell my friend to do about it? Stay out of it, I'm guessing! At least that's MY opinion!!! I'd love to have another person to back me up on that advice!! |
Hahaha...Funny you should ask. I know my husband pretty well and his response would be..."it is not my business to meddle in the business of other families". I can just hear him now. He would definately support you. He has a friend in a similar situation. His friend has a girlfriend that he loves and a woman he is promised to marry. They are all educated people and all live in a large city. My husband has offered no advice to his friend but of course he offers a shoulder to cry on.
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:23 pm |
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I agree with your husband. The whole situation is so unfortunate, but it really is not anyone's business. I'm simply fascinated by the whole thing. I hope your husband's friend makes a good decision. Is the girl his friend is in love with Turkish also? How old are they? I hope he doesn't go down the same road as Hakan. Does the girl he is promised to marry know taht he is in love with someone else? Maybe she also has feelings for someone else and he doesn't know!? You just never know... hopefully they will communicate properly, whatever they decide.
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:25 pm |
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Elisabeth, your husband didn't marry a Turkish woman because he obviously fell in love with you, right?  What differences do you think he would say exist between how Turkish women are and how Americans or Brits are? Just curious... and was his family supportive of your marriage? If this is posted elsewhere I apologize.
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:35 pm |
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Quoting mey0722: Elisabeth, your husband didn't marry a Turkish woman because he obviously fell in love with you, right? What differences do you think he would say exist between how Turkish women are and how Americans or Brits are? Just curious... and was his family supportive of your marriage? If this is posted elsewhere I apologize. |
Actually, my husband is lucky to have such a "liberal" family. They never put any expectations on him for marriage. He had dated some Turkish women before me but of course he ended up with me. Maybe I am silly for not questioning him, but I know that he loves me and I love him and we both feel strongly it was destiny that brought us together. But it is a long, long story. I can tell you that I am somewhat old fashioned and conservative and I am not sure there is much difference in how I was raised and how a Turkish girl is raised.
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:39 pm |
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That is really good to hear! Congrats to the both of you! It's always nice to hear a true love story. How long have you been married? Do you live in Turkey now?
What does dating Turkish girls entail? Is this sort of supervised dating or more Americanized dating? This is sooooo interesting!
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:49 pm |
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Quoting mey0722: That is really good to hear! Congrats to the both of you! It's always nice to hear a true love story. How long have you been married? Do you live in Turkey now?
What does dating Turkish girls entail? Is this sort of supervised dating or more Americanized dating? This is sooooo interesting! |
We are in Texas and have been married for 2 years although we have been friends many years. I don't think my husband dated until he went to University and from what he tells me it was similar to American dating.
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:54 pm |
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Ahhh...okay!
I am now so anxious to find out more from my friend about this whole situation. I hope to see him tonight. I will post an update tomorrow if I get to talk with him about it.
Relationships are so interesting, aren't they?!
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:57 pm |
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Something funny to share...all my dates were supervised by one of my older brothers until I was 19. HAHAHA...I remember if I went to a movie with a boy, one of my brothers would sit behind us. My friends used to tease me constantly and really I didn't have many dates in high school!
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01 Nov 2007 Thu 10:58 pm |
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Awwwwwww... I think that's sweet! Probably a lot safer too!! But it would put a damper on your dates. hahaha
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02 Nov 2007 Fri 12:08 am |
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Quoting mey0722: I think women get half of a man's assets in California. Tough state to go through a divorce!! |
In CA a man can get alimony as easily as a woman. In fact if one of the parties is not employed, and the other is, they are required to support the unemployed one. It is automatic.
CA is a community property state. Anything has to be split 50/50. That includes intellectual property. There are degrees though. Up to 5 years it is called a dissolution and there is less property split. At 10 years it's much more serious. Unless you are very careful, everything, even inherited assets become community property.
Both parties are liable for the others bills. It is really quite complicated. I'd seriously advise anyone contemplating getting married, or moving to CA, consider what they are getting into.
Even if you wed in a none community property state, or country, once you get to CA, it's community property.
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