Good call LIR....some of the stories I read here are truly heartbreaking.....and those women really trusted the guys.  I´m sad to say, I´ve seen some of these type things in real life myself. 

If he knows her sending him money means she won´t have the funds to visit....it´s a pretty bad sign.....  What investment in the relationship has he made? 

What about your age ? and his age ? 

Now now....age doesn´t matter....I have seen exploitive relationships where the exploited was a beautiful young virgin.....as a matter of fact there was at least one here. We have truly seen some horror stories.  A few had children....the guy didn´t seem give a damn....and the woman didn´t seem to care much either...so go figure?

Those who will exploit others, with little regard for their well being, will do it no matter what.  What is the saying.....buyer beware....or some such.

What does she actually know about him, what sort of investment in the relationship does he have?  I have noticed Turks are very concerned about their honor, is his public  honor on the line....IOW does his family and those he truly cares about know about this situation?

5 months is not enough to send money, no matter how bad his situation is... Would you give money to a guy you had know for that short a time in your home-country? I think not...

Second to that, yes, the situation is difficult in the winter. That´s why HE has to save in the summer... It makes sense, and he should have thought about this before. Also, most of the guys I know who work in the tourist industry have some bad paying jobs for the winter. Not enough to buy clothes and such, but just enough to pay the bills. They all get through the winter by saving in the summer, working hard in the winter, and not asking some lady they hardly know for winter...at least the GOOD guys I know don´t ask anybody for money.

Does not having a sob-story make it okay to send money? I wouldn´t go visit him either... I don´t trust anybody who asks me for money after 5 months...doesn´t matter what story they have, doesn´t matter how much money I have. I had longer relationships with a plant then that. Anyway, that´s just my own feeling about it though.

if you are ready to pay certain amount to know the truth - go on. probably, you wont be able to visit him, but every thing has it cost. it is better t stay at least in your home country and discover person, than to be in his country and find out true nature of the man.

i have couple of Turkish friends. one refused even share cost of restaurant with me. the other - to take money even though I knew he needed and he would pay me back. After many years. it was smth that his honour could not let him to do.

money is sensitive subject. you may object all people who wrote you replies (meaning of which is the same btw), but at least keep your eyes open, head - turned on, and close your heart a bit.

Thank you for all your views, however i didnt write the full facts yestursday as they are personal to him and me, and due to circumstances which is down to the turkish goverment,  he has his own business and i am fully aware of his circumstances and the thing is he wants me to visit him more than send him money. We nearly split up over it and not his choice mine, and there was no him trying to convince me to stay with him,  Yes i have read stories about good and bad relationships and i have had my fair few of bad. He didnt know how bad my circumstances were and his english is better than mine!!! and i am british born and bred! I take on board all comments, and to begin with i didnt trust him and he knows that, he knows that i know all the bad things that are said about Turkish Guys, but truely here where i live they are just as bad or even worst, I was married to an english guy that basically all he did was freeload off not just me his parents and friends. So i am totally got my eyes open. And he wont be asking again!!!!I dont live in a dream world i go by fact and i will ask questions until i am satified with the truth, i made him feel a complete idiot and he was very embarressed by the whole thing, i am a very strong minded soul, yes it is early days and i still keep my wits about me and it may not end up with a fairtale ending, but these days nothing does, i wont be fooled into anything if i have doubts i question.

Thanks again for all your views and support

Oh and as for age that does not matter we are the same age.

I have heard only about Turkish male - foreign woman couples, but the opposite is very rare. Maybe Christian guys are afraid of having a relationship with Turkish girls...

 Our friend Loveprague is married with a turkish woman.

Platschu, I can see 2 reasons for that:

1)If that person or her family is religious Muslims, Islam prohibits Muslim women marrying with non-Muslim husbands. But Muslim men can marry non muslim women.

2)The upbringing. You won´t see as many Turkish girls in bars, cafes etc. because of the conservative upbringing, even talking to foreign men may be regarded shameful. So foreign men will hardly have a possibilty to meet Turkish girls unless coworkers etc.

 WHAT?! How dare you say Turkish girls... what you mean is that it is shameful for Kurdish girls to simply talk to a foreign man.