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living together before marriage
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04 Nov 2006 Sat 12:56 am |
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i was just wondering, it it usual for couples to live together before marriage in turkey?
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04 Nov 2006 Sat 07:00 pm |
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I don't think it is. Especially for people outside of the west coast. I met one woman who lived with her boyfriend in Istanbul, but her family didn't know about it because they wouldn't talk to her any more. Her father was already angry with her that she moved out of the parent's house despite not being married! I think parents want to be in control of their children's lifes, so such freedom is perceived as evil. This girls family was from the south - Adana, but now they live in Istanbul.
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04 Nov 2006 Sat 09:51 pm |
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Quoting catwoman: I don't think it is. Especially for people outside of the west coast. I met one woman who lived with her boyfriend in Istanbul, but her family didn't know about it because they wouldn't talk to her any more. Her father was already angry with her that she moved out of the parent's house despite not being married! I think parents want to be in control of their children's lifes, so such freedom is perceived as evil. This girls family was from the south, but now they live in Istanbul. |
Yeah it is like this I think..
Who agrees and who disagrees??
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04 Nov 2006 Sat 10:02 pm |
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i know families in england that wouldnt like this..  i agree but it depends on how traditional the family is i guess..especially because if they live together they must be having intimate relationships..kinda hard for parents to accept i think...
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04 Nov 2006 Sat 10:23 pm |
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My daughter lived with her now husband before marriage and my son now lives with his girlfriend. This is now the norm in England and i do not find it hard. They are now adults and have to make their own way in life. Parent just have to be there to help them if things go wrong
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04 Nov 2006 Sat 10:23 pm |
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Quoting robyn : i know families in england that wouldnt like this.. i agree but it depends on how traditional the family is i guess..especially because if they live together they must be having intimate relationships..kinda hard for parents to accept i think... |
In Holland it is really normal to live together before marriage. As soon as people leave highschool and study on university.. they move out their parents house. It is pretty normal for people in a relationship to live together before marriage. Ofcourse they have an intimate relationship, but they had that before they decided to move in together too. Try before you buy, right?
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04 Nov 2006 Sat 10:24 pm |
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robyn, of course it depends on how open minded the people are, so no need to jump in and defend them. you can restate the quesion to say 'how open minded on average are turkish families to accept young people living together before marriage'. someone was asking about the statistical probability of living together before marriage in Turkey - not in England.
anyways, I think that a big hinderance from people living together - even if their parents aren't happy about it, is the financial situation. many people have to live with their parents because they can't afford to rent an apartment out of one salary.
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04 Nov 2006 Sat 10:33 pm |
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my point was that if people dont like it in england then families in turkey are less likely to agree with it...
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05 Nov 2006 Sun 12:20 am |
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bizim gençler için sadece bir çözüm var yani...
herkes evlensin hehe
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05 Nov 2006 Sun 12:32 am |
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süper fikir..lol
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