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08 Nov 2006 Wed 07:40 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: Ouh the power I would have.... :evil laugh:  |
 
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08 Nov 2006 Wed 07:43 pm |
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:Evil Laugh: Power is a dangerous thing hehehe! 
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09 Nov 2006 Thu 01:50 am |
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Quoting aenigma x: Quoting alperhkn: it is not fair aenigma, I dont know if u r admin or not but this is unjust... |
Me?? Admin???? Hehehehehehehehehehehehehe! Ahhhh Alperhkn, you made me laugh out loud here  !
I am not taking either side here, but I expect they were deleted (maybe even by Catwoman) because a personal argument was developing  .
Hmmmm admin eh? Or maybe a mod? Now, there's a thought .....  ! Ouh the power I would have.... :evil laugh: |
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09 Nov 2006 Thu 11:26 am |
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I got married in Turkey in 2003, i was really worried his family wouldn't accept me, i remember the conversations he had with them on the phone and recall them saying " those English girls don't stay put for long", "before you know it, she'll me casting you aside for a new man"  ... but when we traveleled out to get married, their views changed think they finally realised I was human after all  .
We got divorced last year and it was him that left for a new woman! They were all so quick to judge me and the culture that us English, Girls & Guys grow up in, yet we are not all like that. I actually have contact with his family and go out to visit them regularly. His family now refuse to make peace with him or to have any contact.
I actually really like the Turkish Culture...shame my X didn't. I always said when i get married its for keeps, i never imagioned being a single Mum. BUT my kids are loved, spoilt rotten and still get to see their nanny & grandad & millions of cousins, what else could anyone wish for?
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09 Nov 2006 Thu 12:08 pm |
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Quoting kissturk: I got married in Turkey in 2003, i was really worried his family wouldn't accept me, i remember the conversations he had with them on the phone and recall them saying " those English girls don't stay put for long", "before you know it, she'll me casting you aside for a new man" ... but when we traveleled out to get married, their views changed think they finally realised I was human after all .
We got divorced last year and it was him that left for a new woman! They were all so quick to judge me and the culture that us English, Girls & Guys grow up in, yet we are not all like that. I actually have contact with his family and go out to visit them regularly. His family now refuse to make peace with him or to have any contact.
I actually really like the Turkish Culture...shame my X didn't. I always said when i get married its for keeps, i never imagioned being a single Mum. BUT my kids are loved, spoilt rotten and still get to see their nanny & grandad & millions of cousins, what else could anyone wish for?
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Merhaba, kissturk,
you are a woman who knows what yourself want,
I am sure you will come across someone right
good luck to you 
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09 Nov 2006 Thu 12:45 pm |
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merhaba!
I`ll try to be as mild as possible, but...it`s hard after reading the kissturk`s post....
when talking about the tr boys/men and the western girls/women, the common line seems to be that "easy" is the code no for the west (frankly I`ve got tired to read and listen to this!) especially when in most of the cases the western girs are the ones lied to and cheated on...
after all, who is judging who and by what critera?
we are living in a multicultural world and pretending to have the absolute truth and pretending to be the only keeper of the value...seems absurd...
why do we even ask "what do they think about living together before marriage?"....what do each of us, in particular think? what the members of that particular couple think?- these sound more appropriate
if we ask what a certain nation think on this subject and how shall we get along with this ...... it is rather sad....
let`s look in the mirror and ask ourselves what do we think of this and what our couple think of this.... after all it is not the rest of the world`s bussiness.....and if it is .... we`ll just have to live...with that world interfering in our couple
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09 Nov 2006 Thu 01:12 pm |
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Quoting juliacernat: merhaba!
I`ll try to be as mild as possible, but...it`s hard after reading the kissturk`s post....
when talking about the tr boys/men and the western girls/women, the common line seems to be that "easy" is the code no for the west (frankly I`ve got tired to read and listen to this!) especially when in most of the cases the western girs are the ones lied to and cheated on...
after all, who is judging who and by what critera?
we are living in a multicultural world and pretending to have the absolute truth and pretending to be the only keeper of the value...seems absurd...
why do we even ask "what do they think about living together before marriage?"....what do each of us, in particular think? what the members of that particular couple think?- these sound more appropriate
if we ask what a certain nation think on this subject and how shall we get along with this ...... it is rather sad....
let`s look in the mirror and ask ourselves what do we think of this and what our couple think of this.... after all it is not the rest of the world`s bussiness.....and if it is .... we`ll just have to live...with that world interfering in our couple |
Merhaba Julia!
+1!Well said!!I got dissapointed and sad after reading kissturk's post,as i noticed that some people from this world have preconcepted ideas about "the western girls/women" and that in the end the men are those who forget all the things(be faithful,honest,but also respect, cherish and honour your family, ect)that their parents taught them..I wish i could tell you now that i don't have this opinion after my own experience, but unfortunately i do...And who was the one who spread this idea that a western girl means automatically an easy girl??Please dont judge other people and don't put all the women and men in the same boat!!Let's just mind our own bussiness, relationships, families,look into our own yard...There is God/Allah who sees and takes care of all of us..
Maria
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09 Nov 2006 Thu 05:31 pm |
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Quoting Mary83: Quoting juliacernat: merhaba!
I`ll try to be as mild as possible, but...it`s hard after reading the kissturk`s post....
when talking about the tr boys/men and the western girls/women, the common line seems to be that "easy" is the code no for the west (frankly I`ve got tired to read and listen to this!) especially when in most of the cases the western girs are the ones lied to and cheated on...
after all, who is judging who and by what critera?
we are living in a multicultural world and pretending to have the absolute truth and pretending to be the only keeper of the value...seems absurd...
why do we even ask "what do they think about living together before marriage?"....what do each of us, in particular think? what the members of that particular couple think?- these sound more appropriate
if we ask what a certain nation think on this subject and how shall we get along with this ...... it is rather sad....
let`s look in the mirror and ask ourselves what do we think of this and what our couple think of this.... after all it is not the rest of the world`s bussiness.....and if it is .... we`ll just have to live...with that world interfering in our couple |
Merhaba Julia!
+1!Well said!!I got dissapointed and sad after reading kissturk's post,as i noticed that some people from this world have preconcepted ideas about "the western girls/women" and that in the end the men are those who forget all the things(be faithful,honest,but also respect, cherish and honour your family, ect)that their parents taught them..I wish i could tell you now that i don't have this opinion after my own experience, but unfortunately i do...And who was the one who spread this idea that a western girl means automatically an easy girl??Please dont judge other people and don't put all the women and men in the same boat!!Let's just mind our own bussiness, relationships, families,look into our own yard...There is God/Allah who sees and takes care of all of us..
Maria |
+10000...
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09 Nov 2006 Thu 05:42 pm |
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This is easy to say, but unfortunately we ALL judge by what we see with our own eyes. You only have to visit tourist resorts in Turkey to see that the women there do nothing to dispell the opinion that western girls are "easy"!! And the tourist workers do nothing to dispell the opinion that they are only after sex/money/visa!
You CAN'T blame people for judging by what they see. You CAN change their opinions in a small way. Everyone you meet while in another country "adds you" to their memory of that nationality - if you think about it it's true. In a small way, we are all ambassadors for our countries
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09 Nov 2006 Thu 05:44 pm |
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Quoting aenigma x: This is easy to say, but unfortunately we ALL judge by what we see with our own eyes. You only have to visit tourist resorts in Turkey to see that the women there do nothing to dispell the opinion that western girls are "easy"!! And the tourist workers do nothing to dispell the opinion that they are only after sex/money/visa!
You CAN'T blame people for judging by what they see. You CAN change their opinions in a small way. Everyone you meet while in another country "adds you" to their memory of that nationality - if you think about it it's true. In a small way, we are all ambassadors for our countries |
what a discomforting thought that is!!
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