I had decided not to come back to this website again(!) but have just read all your posts and think you are all wonderful!!! Have to go now, but will be back!

I think all my first instincts are confirmed by you all. Instincts like those are easily hidden by romantic words, but my head must rule my heart. I think I will end this before it becomes a problem.

Every day on this site I read messages from girls (never boys you notice!) and all the messages are the same. They are all invited out to visit...there is a proposal..and so on. I want to scream at them "you fools"!! But I am so stupid I didn't notice that I am exactly the same!

It makes me so sad though. Not so sad for the loss of this man, or of love (love is everywhere!) as for my sadness of losing my faith in people's integrity. I loved Turkey so much I can shut my eyes and smell it's rich scent and hear it's melody but right now this man represents Turkey and it has deceived me. I am not a fool, and yet we English appear to be thought of as such because we believe people are being honest. It is very sad.

Thank you again mtlm. I don't wish to get married, TO ANYONE, for years! I am not looking for a husband, so he won't persuade me otherwise! You have helped me very much with your comments though - I don't want to hurt him, but I don't feel the same way as he "says" he feels about me. I hope this will end without problems...

HeHeHe - you have cheered me up today! Will send this to all my friends!!

Thank you mltm (and for your past translations!). Believe me, I am NOT a fool. All through this relationship I have questioned everything to myself and been VERY cautious with him. I do not even know yet if I will go to see him in February. My concern is for the past week or so - this sudden wish to marry me does seem to coincide with his sudden lack of money! Also, I am not a very young girl (I am not OLD, but you know what I mean) and we stayed in a very good hotel, so he knows I have a good career and money. I think it is a shame, because despite all, I was very attracted to him and we had fun together.

Yes, sorry Catwoman I read your message again and understand. He has not hurt my feelings, but you are right, he doesn't really listen to me. Hmmmm I really don't know!!!

Slavica, you have put into words what I feel also! I love this website and, even if my relationship with my boyfriend does not last, my relationship with this website will!

I am not normally one for pooring out my problems, but I have read advice you have all given before and it is always GOOD ADVICE!

I met my boyfriend towards the end of my holiday in Turkey and he was not like the the other guys who had approached me. He was slightly older than them and was not so forward but always coming over to see me, complementing on my smile, etc. and winning me over very slowly and very romantically until I agreed to be his girlfriend.

When I returned from my holiday he rang every hour, sent sms messages all day and became angry if I did not answer the phone or return some of his messages. I feel, also, that he 'pushed' me into saying that I loved him - asking me again and again until I said it. For most of the time I do feel that I love him - we laugh together and we tell eachother all about our lives and I think he is wonderful. The trouble is that things are moving so fast and the more he pushes me the more I take a step back! I sent a message to him the other day (I had it translated on this website!) saying that I did not want him to plan any future for us yet and that when I go back to see him in Turkay in February it is to spend time together, enjoy eachother, have fun.

He seems to have completely ignored this message and, when I spoke to him just a while ago, he told me that he has told his mother about us and we have her blessing, that we will get married as soon as I say I am ready, that we can live in Istabul, Antalaya, Bodrum or UK - it is up to me, oh...and that we will have two children - a boy and a girl!!!!!!

This is TOO MUCH for me. I am not a hard person - in fact I am often accused of being over-romantic, but this is just too much! He has occasionally mentioned lately that he has no money at the moment and cannot find a winter job....am I right to be a bit suspicious about that?!!! By marrying me quick his problems would be solved, eh!

I am not sure if to carry on with this relationship. If he is sincere and being honest with me, then it is too much for me, but I will lose him and I DO feel so much for him!

Wise friends - what shall I do?????