I am with you on this and would really like to meet as many people as possible. Because I am only a beginner it will inspire me to keep on trying hard - knowing other people have done this!

I want to say:


You are a gifted businessman. I am also very proud of the lovely person you are....

I have the words I think:
Sen
Ustun zekali
isadam
Ben
cok
gurulu
guzel
Sahis

But now I am lost - how to put it together? If I send it like this will he understand or will it just look a crazy mess? I think I am getting way ahead of myself tonight maybe I should just go back to simple vocabulary - lol

Jessica my heart goes out to you. Sometimes feelings get in the way and one can't help fall for someone despite ones circumstances. I don't believe love has to be mutually exclusive, but that's just me! We are in a world that is very stuck in old traditions and judgements. You are brave to post this up!

I read a statistic that around 65% of marriages will see one of the partners having an affair - very sad really. And very very telling.

I can't say what your Turkish man is doing here it does seem a bit worrying. But 4 years has been a long time. It seems you both love each other very much emotionally. I suspect he is finding it difficult to juggle his wife and you?

There is another way forward here that does not bow to the conventional 'affairs' notion. Affairs always seem to end up hurting everyone concerned.

Is it possible for you to speak to your husband about this? And for your friend to speak to his wife? Sometimes it is not especially if there is little love in the relationship or he has an inflexible highly traditional approach to life. However if there is love there then it may be possible. Perhaps an open relationship can happen that is at least honest and without all the lies and secret deceits of affairs. We are living in a world that has changed a lot and the old business of loving only one person monogamously is not for all people. Relationships can be redefined but I think honesty & integrity is 100% essential.
Dual or multiple relationships are very hard work - as you yourself are discovering (even when honesty is involved and all parties know what is going on) but they can work and work very well benefiting and bringing joy to all involved.
They are often a very much better option than the trauma and sadness of divorce. Contrary to what people believe it often involves loving selflessly and being willing to make compromises all round.

I'm sure many people percieve those in multiple relationships as selfish. I can see their point it is terrible when woman are abandoned on a whim and children get hurt in the process. This is the outcome of many affairs and it's a shame. But sometimes it is not to do with an affair so much as a nasty type of person.
There are people who have left a partner for another but who still care for their children and ex very well.


People who have multiple partners are especially loving and have the capacity to love each person in the relationship as an individual in their own right with no comparisons drawn.
This is why it comes as a great big shock to them to discover they are capable of loving other people with no guilt!

There is a word that decribes relationships with multiple partners - 'Polyamory.' There is info on the web. Please look and see if this might not be a better option than an affair for you, your husband and your friend.

Take care. If you need to pm me you are welcome.
I wish you the best.

At Last

I read your messages
late at night I lose time
I see your face
again and again
I taste your love
my joy immeasurable

Am I dreaming that finally
you have thrown the door open
and walked into my waiting heart
Can it be?
Do stars always shine
Mountains always stand
Does the sun always rise
Do autumn leaves fall

Is it true?

Are you here at last Askim?

I never had a more shining gift




Istanbul

I am homesick for Istanbul
Homesick for you my darling one
Galata, bosphorus, beyoglu
Your wild yellow eyes

I am thinking only of Istanbul
She goes on calling me
blue sea ships sailing
your soul I dream of

Istanbul disturbs my sleep
waterbearer moon in the sky
golden sunset minuret
I feel your body turn in the night

Istanbul calls me night and day
fragrant roses, Aya Sophia
mountain honey sweet with wild herbs
I taste your lips

Istanbul fragments my brain
sleek cats, marmaris jellyfish floating
a wild salt wind, summer moon
I am lying in your arms

Istanbul claims my soul
Soft Ney flute, children's laughter
rising in the air
Blue Mosque glowing
velvet evening sky

Oh ... I feel your heart darling
I feel your heart

Mmmm - yes I think so. If all the conditions come from one person only I would be very careful - that's not love - that's control.

But if both people work out conditions that they are happy with that's probably fine.

Teşekkür ederim everyone. Much appreciated. Every day I learn something new on this fantastic site thanks to all of you.

aşığım - I got 'to play knucklebones' on the translator - omg my friend has finally taken leave of his senses -lol!

Well it did make me smile but what does it really mean? My brain will play with this too much tonight!

Thanks friends!

Thanks Erdinc. I can see text messages are going to be a problem

Linda - thanks.

I can't find these in the dictionary please help if you have a second :

asigim

bebegim - is this 'my baby?'

üzledim

düsunüyorum

Welcome - you are among other lovers of Turkiye here. Nice to meet you.