Yeah..so smart that she can´t think WHAT to wear when she meets her bf´s parents!

You need to get yourself a new dudu!  Tami has only been gone a week and you are already trolling the forums for poor unsuspecting happy girls (who DO have dudus) to pick on!  YOU HAVE DUDU ENVY!!

 Konya is renowned to be one of the most conservative cities in Turkey. Still, it is a fairly big city, there are many different types of people living there. The general attitude towards outsiders seems to be good. They try to do everything to please you when you visit their restaurants etc as a tourist. Last time I was there, the waiter very politely led us to the premises of the old mansion that the restaurant was located in getting me to wear a freaky red garment - a replica of the what used to be worn by kadis of olden times. He even put a giant white turban on my head completing the scene with a rosary having very large beads.

He took a picture of mine in that costume and went on to rave about the history of the mansion and the location in general. Considering the little price I paid on the traditional kabobs and their special sour okra soup, this was way too much attention than I´d expected.

Still there are all sorts of people and families everywhere. I would expect them to be a bit more conservative than the average. Should they try to force you to do things you wouldn´t want to do, it all  boils down to what extent your boy friend can and will protect you from that.

At the end of the day, no matter how conservative the family can be, it is you and him who will decide on things. Such situations are good opportunities to test how deep your love is.

Konya sounds a bit scary, since as Vineyards said earlier, it is known for being a conservative place, even in Turkish standards. It might be a good idea to know some Turkish before going there, that might make his parents feel like you´re not that ´foreign´, in case they are planning that he gets married to a nice Turkish girl.

It is quite OK to ask other people about such things on this web site!!

The parents of my partner are very traditonal. His dad (may he rest in peace) was from Adiyaman, and his mom from a small village near Diyarbakir. Mom prays five times a day and is all scarfed up

Just be the cleaned up version of yourself. Don´t wear shorts or something, but don´t wear long skirts if you never wear them usually. I wear short sleeves to my mother in law if it´s hot. She covers herself up entirely, but I am not her. But on the other hand, you won´t see me in a tank-top showing loads of cleevage either. Don´t be too stressed about meeting the parents. You partner was raised by them, and he likes you enough to take you to see his parents, so they will probably like you too!

Meeting Turkish parents is like meeting other parents. Although Turkish men do seem to be bigger momma´s boys then I´ve seen them in other countries. Make a few compliments about the house and ask some question to the mom (perhaps through translation of your partner) to impress the mom, and you´ll do fine.

The fact that your boyfriend wants to take you to meet his parents, shows enough if you ask me. Most Turkish males know what their family expects from their spouse, and wouldn´t want to bring a foreign girl home if they´d feel that the parents wouldn accept a foreign bride.

As said, be the cleaned up version of yourself but don´t exaggarate. As for behavioural things, you might want to ask you boyfriend instead of us. He knows his parents best. For example, my in-laws would never accept the hand-kissing-thing, whilst others insist on it (they might actually nearly slap their hand up your face to get it kissed )  It is usually appreciated if you offer to help when the mother (or anyone else) goes to the kitchen to prepare food or bring tea. Oh and when sitting, it is more appropriate to put your legs next to each other (closed, not wide open obviously) instead of over each other.

As a gift, anything particular from your homecountry, or nice cookies, chocolate is probably welcome (if you buy chocolates with fillings, make sure it is not liquor ). Or baking something turkish like börek and bringing it along also may show your willingnes to adapt the culture.

oh yeah, i did that once, crossed my legs...big mistake, the bottom of my shoe was visible for an uncle, and than my turkish partner looked at my foot in horror and hit my leg

I never heard about this!! What is wrong with crossing your legs?

I was told about the leg crossing thing too.  A few of my female Turkish friends told me that some people in Turkey consider this gesture to be sexually provocative.  (Who knew that the mere sight of a woman with her legs crossed could drive some men crazy??)  

...........So cat, don´t cross your paws anymore!