Cape Town, Istanbul, San fransisco, New York, Paris, Prague, Budapest, Sydney, Hong Kong, Bangkok ...oh my - so many beautiful places in the world it is difficult to compare!

It's not nice to feel threatened and this man clearly loves you but uses manipulation to get a response from you.
I'd not put up with it. Don't play the game. I'd be honest with anyone who did this to me. I'd state his behaviour is completely unacceptable to me. I'd tell him my feelings and ask him to stop it as it makes me uncomfortable, insecure etc... and makes me question if we have the bottle to move ahead. I'd ask that we build our relationship honestly so that it gets stronger - not tear it down through manipulation and causing each other hurt and discomfort. In the end these behaviours result in too much suffering.
I don't get why so many people play games to try to make the other insecure when the basis of any good relationship is security and knowing one is loved.
Real and loving relationships have no need to create angry jealous responses in the other. It's just a waste of good energy that could go into making a relationship really special instead.
Creating jealousy is asking for a breakdown in time. At first it might work but I have not seen jealous relationships that last in the longerterm.

The risk is if you are honest he says he does not want the relationship to continue - but would you not be better off taking this risk now - than moving in with him and then having to deal with it all later?

I'd not move in with someone till I knew they would work with me to create a safe place for both of us - emotionally and physically.

He says he wants more time - give it to him and use it to establish your own needs and what you really want out of the relationship - and if he is willing to really pull his side.

Good luck - hope you can swing things around.

I'd love to meet up but I can't fix a date in cement because the nature of my hubbies job means that we suddenly have to travel rather often. Wish I could be more proactive. Soz about this. But if others decide on a date and place - godswilling I am here. I will try to work my life around it cos I would love to attend.

I think I am a sucker for warmth! Nothing wrong in my book for expressing love fast and furiously. How wonderful to live the moment fully and passionately!
Again one cannot generalise - I know of kind hearted people who say 'I love you often' and mean nothing by it except giving it as a gift.

I know of other creeps who use it with ulterior motives both here in the UK and in Turkey. But I for one would be crying if we could not use this expression and trust the person it came from even if it meant heartache in the end. But then I am a dying breed of those who hang out on symbolic cliffs and my motto is 'live dangerously!' -lol!

...luckily for me there was a trained surgeon nearby. As I knelt by my guides side in terrible fear praying the surgeon would save his life - I saw a piece of paper crumpled in his hand - I removed it - it said.....

SuiGeneris thank you very much. You made two people much happier today!

He later told me he was my mysterious guide. Standing on the cliffs at Topkapi palace looking over the sea he apologised for being so rude but he had not known anyone to know his feelings for me at work... he was not sure if...

Lonely sad guy needs some comfort - distance getting to him! Please if anyone could translate I would be grateful.Sorry it is so soppy.
I hope I don't make you throw up -lol!


Darling when you ache/long for me I am there. My heart is covering you. Go look at the beautiful sea for us my love. Take peace in this. When I was lonely for you the sea carried my secret flowers and prayers for you many times. The fishermen at Galata bridge rightly thought I was a madwoman! Know in spirit I am always with you just as the sea is always there.

Erdinc I am so touched you took the time plus countless cups of kahve to do this for me. Thank you for your support and encouragement. You really did a remarkable thing here. Not just anyone could climb into the flow of these poems so much as to interpret exactly right. No changes needed anywhere! Beautiful! Just as it should be.

Again Thank you from the heart for this.

Thank you so much - I need to still learn so much! Everytime someone is so kind to help me it inspires me to learn something new everyday.