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Turkish Boyfriends and Girlfriends.
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10 Feb 2010 Wed 08:21 pm |
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Michael007: But not every man is fortune hunter... There must be some Turkish guys, who don´t love only for your money or your visa.
Vineyards: I have spoken about the general picture about a Muslim-Christian mixed couple or marriage in a Christian community. So local guys like "exotic" girls, but I doubt they will ever marry them because of the culture and different religion... But nothing can be only black or white, so it depends on the two people and how can they give up some expectations. 
Edited (2/10/2010) by Platschu
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10 Feb 2010 Wed 08:42 pm |
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You are right!! I don´t believe every Turkish/Kurdish or men in general are fortune hunters. I just want to let those that may be getting into something serious with eastern men know that the men ´may´ be misleading them. I have felt sad and sorry for some women that have been taken in by those that have only been looking for a visa then after so many years give up the marriage and then get a Turkish/Kurdish wife. It is not honest and no matter how poor or difficult their lives back home maybe; women get hurt. Also alot of Eastern cultures put western women down. I have to say that some eastern men have little respect for the women, but happily sleep with them and ask openly for gifts and more. Foolish the women maybe for giving it I know, but they usually genuinely like the guy. I have Kurdish and Turkish friends. I like them, but I am all to aware of how some of them operate. Culture and religion will always be a barrier in the world; it does not have to separate us completely. We can learn alot from each other´s cultures and traditions. As far as religion goes no man or woman can make someone believe. We have to choose one way or the other ourselves!! God does not separate us or see our religion. He see´s our hearts and knows us well; whether we believe it or not.
Thanks for you response. Its good to debate 
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10 Feb 2010 Wed 08:51 pm |
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It wasn´t a debate. I have told my experiences. I visit sometimes "the friends of Turkey" forum on a Hungarian blog, but there are almost only Hungarian women who talks about their Turkish / Arabian boyfriend or husband. I could find positive and negative opinions of course, but there were very few non-Turkish male - Turkish woman couple. So this was the reason why I asked whether the prevalence is similar in Turkey too? 
Edited (2/10/2010) by Platschu
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10 Feb 2010 Wed 09:35 pm |
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I have enjoyed reading about your experiences. I like the fact that you share REAL life experience! I hope that those reading these kind of forums are enlightened by what they read.
Tessekur ederim ve kendine iyi bak. Hoscakal 
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10 Feb 2010 Wed 09:36 pm |
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I work in a university in Izmir, and we have tons of mixed marriages, but the overwhelming majority of them are Turkish man-foreign woman, I know only 3 cases of foreign men married to a Turkish woman, and one is getting a divorce,hahaha.
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13 Feb 2010 Sat 01:01 pm |
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Hi can anyone help, me and my turkish man have been together for 5 months now and i have been back to visit him, we chat everyday on the phone...(me paying fo it) he works in the travel and tourism he has a business, things are tough through the winter and in the last month he has asked me to send him money, no sob stories. the thing is he knows i dont have any money to send so i dont understand why he keeps asking for my help. we have got through all the Do you want a visa stuff and do you have another gf/wife. He is such a nice guy, but the problem is trust with me and i have been married to a british guy that alawys wanted money and i told myself not again!! i do love him and care for him, i am even thinking in a couple of years moving to turkey as i love the country so much and the culture. anyone got any advice! is it genuine that he just needs to live through the winter months. I am due to go back in May and he knows that i need the money for my flight out to be with him and knows if i send him money i wont get to be with him. i have even asked him to marry me!!! Please help. I am also trying to learn the lovely turkish langauge and struggling quite a bit anyone patent enough to help a english person learn. xx
DON´T DO IT!!
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13 Feb 2010 Sat 01:03 pm |
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Best advice there is: don´t send money (or cell phones, laptops etc.)
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13 Feb 2010 Sat 02:26 pm |
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It wasn´t a debate. I have told my experiences. I visit sometimes "the friends of Turkey" forum on a Hungarian blog, but there are almost only Hungarian women who talks about their Turkish / Arabian boyfriend or husband. I could find positive and negative opinions of course, but there were very few non-Turkish male - Turkish woman couple. So this was the reason why I asked whether the prevalence is similar in Turkey too?
Maybe Turkish girls are not beautiful and understanding enough for both Turkish and foreign boys? 
Or maybe Turkish girls are much more logical and clever than Turkish boys? 
Or maybe Turkish girls all are after love when some Turkish boys after money?
Will I be crucified for asking these questions? 
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13 Feb 2010 Sat 02:43 pm |
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+1
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07 Sep 2010 Tue 11:08 pm |
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I met my friend on a social network last year, and since then have taken our conversations to msn. We talk anywhere from 4-12 hours daily, depending on the time zone. I´m finally going to Turkey and he´s meeting me at the airport, taking a 5 hour train to get there. We will spend three days in Ankara. After that we will go stay with his elder brother and new wife for one week, and then home to meet his parents and other relatives. At the beginning of our special friendship we spoke of love, and I admit that I do love him very much. Now he says we are "two good friends". Is it customary for "two good friends" to stay with his elder brother and new wife, and then home to the parents? I´m so confused. And does the one good friend always ask "where are you?" "what are you doing?" "Are you home?" "When will you be home?" I thought those kinds of questions in a Turkish guy were reserved for more intimate relationships.
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07 Sep 2010 Tue 11:16 pm |
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I met my friend on a social network last year, and since then have taken our conversations to msn. We talk anywhere from 4-12 hours daily, depending on the time zone. I´m finally going to Turkey and he´s meeting me at the airport, taking a 5 hour train to get there. We will spend three days in Ankara. After that we will go stay with his elder brother and new wife for one week, and then home to meet his parents and other relatives. At the beginning of our special friendship we spoke of love, and I admit that I do love him very much. Now he says we are "two good friends". Is it customary for "two good friends" to stay with his elder brother and new wife, and then home to the parents? I´m so confused. And does the one good friend always ask "where are you?" "what are you doing?" "Are you home?" "When will you be home?" I thought those kinds of questions in a Turkish guy were reserved for more intimate relationships.
Sorry to dissapoint you, but the situation does not sound promising..
When did he start to say you are "two good friends"? Before making all those arrangements -meeting his parents specially- or after? Something does not sound right ..
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