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I doubt that the Turks? Kurds? that force their daughters into marriage read the ´good book´. They read the Qur´an and there is nothing about staying home and making meatballs in it.... However, as far as marriage is concerned " a virgin´s silence is her consent" It means that unless she objects loudly, it is assumed she consents.
i agree with you, though, that staying home with the children should be the preferred model for marriage. I wished i had the luxury to do that. I loved every day i was with my children. I am forced to work now, and i know how much i wished i could do for my children. I come home shattered and i feel completely exploited by the system.
Why is being a housewife considered so lowly in the West?
And why is love marriage such a big deal? Most marriages here are ´love´ matches, and people start hating each other soon after. Why is it preferable to meet one´s future spouse in the pub, than at home with the parents? Why do young people think they know so much better?
No doubt, forced marriages mean unhappy lives. Or do they? I once met a couple with a 86 year (!!!) age difference--- he was 106 and she was 15. He told me he would wait with sex with until she finishes high school. But the girl seemed happy enough. She did not look too bothered about it. 
I´m not surprised she was happy enough, the chances of him dying before laying his gnarled hands on her young body were good. And if it was a non-sexual relationship, she might have enjoyed it - she knew her parents could no longer sell her to a maniac. Who knows, perhaps he was better off than her parents so her living conditions improved. With all due respect to our TC gentlemen of different ages, the idea of having sex after you´re 100 seems somehow revolting.
I wonder how many marriages there are with 106 year old women married by 15 year old men. Or how many 20 year old men are there who marry 80 year olds and have sex with them...
On the housewife subject, I think it´s best for the baby to have both parents at home until the age of 3, when social needs arise and child should spend time with peers. Is it in Sweden that parents get 2 year long paid leave? Oh, checked Wiki and got this:
"Sweden is one country which provides generous parental leave: all working parents are entitled to 16 months paid leave per child, the cost being shared between employer and the state. To encourage greater paternal involvement in child-rearing, a minimum of 2 months out of the 16 is required to be used by the "minority" parent, in practice usually the father, and some Swedish political parties on the political left argue for legislation to oblige families to divide the 16 months equally between both parents.[4] Norway also has similarly generous leave."
Ok, so it´s not as great but still not bad
I think there´s no one universal preferrence. Some women would be unhappy if they had to stay at home with children 24/7, and some are more than happy to do it. The most important thing is to love your children and let them have a peaceful childhood and education. To do that, you don´t have to be a stay-at-home mum or day.
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What else do you tell to your wife when she finally rests from the duties in the kitchen? I love your personal merits, darling?
You are my favourite pure New Age Dutch ignorant.